Not another typical Scorpio post, I could really use some Scorpio input.

Another Scorpio post...promise, this one is worthy to read. Firstly, I am a giant idiot. I let a man I dated on and off and was madly in love with for the last 2 years end up as a fwb. We get along great (now) and are in constant contact, day and night. There aren't many nights I go to bed without saying Goodnight to him. Here's the thing: our sex life isn't particularly noteworthy at all, I've def had better. That's just my opinion, can't speak for him, but there must be something about the loves because he keeps insisting and coming back. I feel we just recently hit a milestone, were both financially tight and he offered to help, and I've helped him as well. That's a random point, but I think what I mean is, without him saying it, I feel 100% complete and utter trust from him, as if ive earned it (finally). He's always reachable for me, but wasn't always in the past and lately, he's gone from a once a month thing to 3 times already this month, plus a surprise "hey, wanna watch this movie with me tonight?" may sound trivial, but we usually plan these things ahead and are never this sporadic. I even warned him that lady nature was in town and we couldn't have sex and not only didn't he care, but he was super duper cuddly and even fell asleep with his head bowed and nuzzled to my back and arm around me. We talked 3x on the phone yesterday about car buying and all kinds of shit before he called and asked to come over. My problem is, I feel like maybe he is wanting to be together again but wont say it because we've gotten so comfy in our arrangement, and he's afraid of getting turned down. This recent spike in him needing to be close to me is not his norm, as he is a typical Scorp- coming and going as he pleases and I fucked up by letting him. I only agreed to this because I know he respects me like no other, be has very high regard for me and never treats me badly, and he and i do have a special bond- we've been through alot of shit together. But, I'm starting to feel like I'm in a relationship without the responsibiliy of labeling as such so that he can have me but then do as he pleases, and I'm starting to resent it. I'm way too tied up in him this last month for just a fwb, and I'm curious to know if he's really just afraid to being rejected by me again or if he just wants to keep me from dating others. Seems like the more I date, the more he will pop up and be around. For you Scorps out there, he is a true scorp. all the scorp stereotypes apply to him, to give you an idea of who I'm dealing with. as an Aquarian, I know sometimes you Scorps get enable with our "catch me if u can" aloofness, but after 2 years, I'm ready to move on one way or the other. What the hell is going on here? I don't wanna ask him because I am also afraid to be let down. after all, I did consent to this fwb situation with zero boundaries in place. Also, ibshoukd note that while this may be t.m.I., he recently asked me and has then ever since...um...started to... um...well

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this may be t.m.I., he recently asked me and has then ever since...um...started to... um...well, let's say we can officially create a child with what he asked to do. lol, in 2 yrs in never had to be discussed between us, he always knew what to do. I gave him the pregnancy talk, told him should Anything ever happen that I am keeping the child and made him VERY aware of the risks involved. I also told him I was ovulating and he just shrugged his shoulders in a way that said "bring it on." Like, I told him something pleasant and he wasn't in the least worried. He also made itba point to lay there afterward when I just wanted to get up...we def discussed that and he tried to play it off. This, coming from a man that was ADAMENT he wasn't kid/husband material, just wanted to be single...not just to me but he's currently almost 40 and still isn't sure. I feel like he's trying to have all the fun without the ball and chain attached, Scorpios, help me here. Xo

A gold digger? Lol, maybe I wasn't clear. He's out $ 50 into my account because ibam in-between jobs and have consistently fed him (literally sent him home with food packages) because he's had extreme $ $ issues and was struggling with eviction. If I was a gold-digger, he certainly wouldn't be the one i d chase, lol.

And just as a side note, out of EVERYTHING I wrote, THATS the only thing you took from it? You're a special kind of idiot, aren't you? Butthurt much? Need to work on those reading comprehension and main point skills, smdh.

I simply presented the financial aspect to show how intimate our relationship is, that's it.

Also, were not together, there's no one "to dump." Thus, that's kind of the reason for my post. But, again, here we go with that reading comprehension thing...

I wish I could find all that without becoming a fwb THOUGH.. Geezus.. GOOD LUCK @OP.

Posted by ElleDuMonde
As more comes to me, I will just keep editing that post. I will try hard not to use paragraph breaks too.

"Don't cloud your judgement with your own assumptions."

No, you're totally right...I wasted 20 minutes trying to compile 2 years worth of history into a single post on how to gold dig my broke ex...sounds legit.

He would totally laugh at this, btw. Totally overlook the fact that I've helped him for months, but when he puts $ 50 (one zero in that figure, may I add), that declares me a gold-digger?! Wow, sexism at its finest. Look, seriously, I'm not sure what kind of ride someone has taken you for, but your judgement is extremely clouded, your perception of reality a little left. Until you decide what causes you to troll and mock innocent women, maybe you should lay off the thumbs and Google your butthurt. That's the best I can offer. "Dig" in that brain of yours and find some reasoning. Last post.

@firstdecan, yeah, it's great but I'd just like to know where I stand with him. I'm tired of giving all this of myself without having to wonder. I feel like I'm his girl without him having to adhere to normal relationship rules, like he has the best of both worlds- single when he wants to be and then runs to me all the damn time. Ive tried to end it a few times but we always find our way back. Exhausted.

Jesus Elle is savage today. You don't want a FWB situation, then change it to something more or let it go.

Actually, I was sort of asking for Scorpio opinions on if HE wants more, that's what I'm stuck on. If he does, I would prolly go for it, just can't handle being hurt by him again. So, thoughts?

Long post, I know. Could've made it clearer.

You're absolutely right about that. They do and he did when we first met. But after years of us hurting each other, he's def afraid of rejection. But, I'm starting to see what's going on, 3rd time this week he's tried to see me and he's talked to me constant for the last 2 weeks. I'm gonna talk to him about it next time we get together. To be continued!