SCORPIO + FORGIVNESS = ?

I was in a relationship that ended with scorp saying "its not you its me" " i need space" bullbutter. Im no dummy .. my mother raised me well. After he broke things off he continued to keep contact open.. he would always message me even when I told him not to (I was so hurt) but anyways.. I knew I did something that made him leave. I always told him how much he meant to me and he would say I care to I just need space. Well one day I figured out what went wrong (well i've always known but feared admitting it) It was that I always pushed him away because he would get close so I would get defensive. Stat arguments. So I decided (eventhough its been months) to write him and admit my faults and why I was like that. I thought he would ignore me or tell me the same story but instead... wrote a long message asking if we could work things out (it was real deep and personal)

Now I know there was no other girl(s).. he kept all 30+pics of us up on fb.. even kissing ones. He always contacted me when he was the one needing space.. and he always talked about me to others.. friends and fam.... it got around to me.

Hes taking it very slow tho.. we talk everyday almost all day threw text.. so how do I win back his heart and work on things like he wants to? I'm workin on me and opening up more.. just how do I regain his trust and love again.. Were still in the catching up mode so whats next? Any advice??

Well Scorpios, if they actually understand you and/or especially idenfity with certain traits you have (like stubborness, insecurity, for example), they are most likely to stick around. It'd be one thing if your Scorpio felt that you put him through all of that just for the sake of being evil & vindictive, BUT trust me, this Scorp. probably had the SAME fears & insecurities that you had. You probably just went "1st" all the time, thus never giving him the chance to do the exact same things (you did to him) to you.

Scorps are very loyal when they're still attached. IT's when they've finally made the decision to be done that you've got to worry about. When they're finally done, they'll suck it up & risk missing you too death all b/c they know it's for the best. Scorps can be so emotionally sensitive, thus it takes them quite awhile to process certain emotions; and while they're doing this, it'll seem as if wow, your Scorp. is really maintaining a huge sense of loyalty.

Just keep doing what you've been doing. The BEST message/thing you could've ever showed this guy is that you have the ability to do some self technical support. He can only respect you more for that. And since he probably understood you & why you were the way you were, he decided to put his own pride down to stick it out with you. Just keep working on you & SHOWING Him better than you can tell him that you 1. Not only acknowledged your faults but 2. Are doing everything you can to try to fix things as much as you can, with the amount of control you actually do have. You working to fix those flaws within you will wheel him back in faster than you know. Trust me

I will say this we scorpios generally know what went wrong. Now scorpios are not really known for forgivness so just be cautious in the sense that he might be seemingly forgiving on the exterior but could just be seeking reconnection to "sting" you as they say. Now if there were other factors that took place for this to happen and it wasnt a cruel breakup (meaning you didnt betray his trust or hurt his feelings in anyway) then he may just forgive you for pushing him away, because us scorps tend to do that ourselves. The best thing you can do is take him up on his offer of reconnecting but stay cautious. Now if we are just going by what you said in this message well then he wouldnt be asking you to reconnect and fix things if he didnt actually want you back now would he?

Also "its not you its me" as you put it, is a nicer way of him stating that obviously he feels that you did do something. because no scorpio is going to admit that he was actually at fault. Also it takes 2 people to make or break a relationship. Dont take all the blame here, We scorps dont like being told when we are wrong, but we do appreciate honesty. So find a way to combine subtle remarks about it being a 2 way street while being flat out honest and your GOLDEN

scorpio + forgiveness = error, does not compute.

lol.

but he isn't forgiving you. you pushed him away and he felt hurt, but you didn't do it to hurt him. you don't need to regain his love. he obviously still loves you. you weren't screwing around, so you don't need to regain his trust either. you were just scared. scorpios are very understanding of people's faults, especially if those people admit to being the cause of the problem and don't accuse scorpio of being anything other than wonderful.

the best advice i can give you is to try harder to let him in, to let him see you totally. if you have a hard time, be honest about it with him again. they can be very patient if they know you want to open up but are struggling. they just need to know that you want to be with them, because they can get very insecure that someone is just playing them. tell him how great he is, that it's just hard for you. be sad about struggling. let him see that you're sad over not being able to open up more. etc.

he's probably going slow more to help you than for himself. he probably just doesn't want to push you and make you feel pressured and defensive again. you should try to look at it that way. maybe consider telling him that you appreciate him taking things slow. maybe even ask him if he's doing it for you or him. express your worry to him instead of holding it in or telling us. he'll feel closer to you.

lovesick aaawww he's still round

& srsly all that ^ was some of the best advice on us u will eva get...

scorpio + forgiveness = S&M. 😛