no he's not confusing, he's done, changed his mind for whatever reason, now there may be others that say be patient, wait it out which is really your choice but to text this dude as if he's the only man on your plate and literally beg him to respond explains a lot, explains why he may have decided to get out, he saw signs of clinginess, desperation on your part and decided to let it go, he knew if he had sex with you, you would most likely CLING to the idea of having something more permanent, expect a relationship I suppose, that was a lame excuse but it bears a bit of truth and he probably would have kept on ignoring you but for some god forsaken reason you kept texting this fool.

I would not lift another finger NOT ONE to lean his way, not a call, a text message, NOTHING, he would have to come my way and then and only then would I decide if I wanted to bother and respond. He's not confused he's just not interested in you enough to stay. No matter how many times he comes back be it you coaxing him or on his own he will be in and out no matter what, I suggest you move on and date other men, you don't have to stop corresponding with this guy but any man that pulls that crap doesn't deserve you or your precious time, I warn you not to get caught up in this in and out business, it's not fun.

No offense but I'm curious why you began to text him and hound him after he disappeared? A bit of advice don't ever do that, let these ambivalent clowns go, to text that much made you seem super desperate, that will scare a cap to death.

TenaciousVirgo

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UPDATE:
Okay so I asked him to elaborate, at first he wouldn't, he said just trust me on this. So I said trust you? How? I told him to try me and he did. He said that he had to call it off before he made a hasty bad decision, that decision being us sleeping together. He said it was bound to happen (hmmm). He said that in relationships, for him, sex always messes everything up (they start bugging and bothering him, stalking). I responded by telling him that I didn't appreciate being expected to behave the same way. I went on to say that he shouldn't let his past relationships influence his future relationships, because in this case, he allowed them to f*** him up! I asked if he was choosing to be on his own (single) and he said he didn't know. I said I'm here as a friend so if you wanna talk, call me. I said I'm letting it go, because you're the only one that can figure this out, he didn't respond. I don't intend to contact him, he gave me the reason why he disappeared, I mean that's what I wanted, the reason. The only way we'll talk again is if he contacts me, so we'll see what happens.