virgo men

i have been seeing a virgo male for a few months, i am a taurus. it started off awesome, we spent all of our time together and then all of a sudden he backed off completely saying that when he feels like a relationship is going somewhere he freaks out and backs off. is this true? When we hang out we have fun...but out of no where i a the one who basically has to push him to see me, and it has only worked a couple of times. when i brought it up to him he said that he still likes me but needs to take it slow, is e saying he wants me to back off and wait for him....or should i just move on because he feels bad to tell me the truth. please help he is driving me nuts, but i am afraid if i keep trying to contact him he will back off even further. is this typical of a vrigo, do they push away peple that they might grown to love? it is annoying and makes no sense...we had one small argument and then everything changed. i sent him a merry christmas text and nothing of course so i have decided to never make any contact again, i will leave it to him. what is his freaking deal!!! So i have read your threads and see this is virgo behavior but just dont get it, and it seems they never really come back....

I've been with my Virgo man for 2 years....never had a problem with this - probably because i kept him chasing me for awhile because i wasn't sure i wanted to be in a relationship.
I know my Virgo doesn't always respond to texts and phone calls....sometimes he's just sitting at home doing his own thing and doesn't want to be bothered. It took him months before he would even hold my hand in public....Its like they need to be eased into the whole relationship deal.

Don't pressure him, Leave him be - if he likes you he'll be back! I know i know, easier said than done. Just keep doing your single gal things! They respect that!

you're having pains in the ass already?; and you haven't even had ME yet?....sheeeesh... light-weight.....lol 😛 lol

Being a Virguy myself, I need time to think. I wonder about how I feel in relation to the other person generally, but more specifically I wonder; 'can they truly understand me?' 'will they be sincere/honest?' 'will they appreciate me?' we get lost in the abstract sometimes and forget to move forward in the physical realm; we're idealists as well, we want for things to be perfect, and the love to last and be as 'pure like a virgin' as it was from the start, but the reality can set in and hit us hard....so for a 'earth sign' like taurus or capricorn (I don't call Virgo an earth sign because we have a propensity for abstract thought, and value our minds to phyiscal possessions....) we'd be seen as indecisive, and a host of other things; we're just mental beings and although it seems like worry, sometimes it's just wonder....I love to just ask 'what if' it's so broad, and sends you on a journey.....think about it! There is an element of excitment to 'what if'. Appeal to his mind, and talk with him! Befriend him, first and that way if it dosen't work out you'll still remain close....he'll recognize you as someone he can share his deepest thoughts/feelings with and hold you in high esteem.....I know I like to express my feelings and thought through talk and art, so listen to him as he talks and take him seriously unless he say not to, or the social subtext says not to. We move like the wind so it can be hard (especially for guys) to just 'settle down' or 'pin us down' in a realtionship because we're so naturally free.....

hi guys, this is my first time ever getting on this but reading thru all the stuff i figured getting my thoughts out about my virgo man would atleast relieve some stress..

me (capricorn) and my virgo started dating in dec, things went great, our 1st phone convo was 11 hours long and first time we met, was like "wow." we got along great and both very attracted to eachother. he has 2 kids that he switches custody with ever friday, so our first week went great, very attentive and affectionate, open and honest. 2nd wk (he had his kids) i got nothing but one email, saying he's sorry bcs he has been very busy with family and work. 3rd week comes and things go well again,(except yay, not xmas day text or anything) but we hung out the night before xmas eve and he took me out for some drinks, where i expressed to him, that i understand his kids come first and all, and that i don't need to see him during those weeks but more than just one email will be better. that night he also said, how much he thought his family would love me and that they really didn't care for his last two g/f's (btw, we obviously are not exclusive). he came out and met some friends of mine on my bday (dec 26) which made me super happy. 4th week comes (last week),he's back with his kids, and things are awesome!!
we talked almost everyday, we texted or emailed everyday and it was just awesome. on friday i gave him a pet name, bcs it was fitting. he said it's funny bcs his mom used to call him something very similar and that he liked it, and he signed off his last email to me with it.

the very next day i get a text saying: " im not sure if we are meant for eachother, are you?"
I respond: "why are you asking me this, call me. i think so"
and i have yet to receive any call, or text or email.
like wtf is going on here. i read all this stuff about virgos getting scared and backing off. and im like, is this what is happening? will he ever call? im not waiting by the phone or anything. im more in a state of shock and can't believe this person who seemed like he was trying and that he liked me also, just sent me this crazy off the wall text. and if he did want it to be over, why not have the balls just to text: "sorry, i don't think this will work out for me" and end it. i would have been fine. but no, now im sitting here, lingering on, just trying to figure this out.
i know there is a lot of stuff going on in his life right now and that he's busy and maybe a bit stressed. but like, i wasn

I didn't read more than a post beyond the original, so hopefully this hasn't been given. In my experience, if he is backing off every time you pursue more, then it's time to just let it go. He just isn't going to be on the same wavelength as you. I think of us Virgos as WYSIWYG types. We Virgos can be secretive, but try and get us to go in a direction we don't want to go and we'll be as stubborn as Army mules. He seems to be trying to be nice about it at least, even though it is causing you some trouble anyway. Good Luck.

Dune.

Funny, I thought it was there to bash us....😛 lmao....with all that shit they talk, you'da thunk the circus came to town!! lol