Why are Libra's soooo Stubborn?

I have been dating this Libra for about 2 months. Nice, sweet, and very smart. Well, recentlly he has been trying to get intimate and it's been making me a little uncomfortable. So, I decided to sit him down and let him know that it was not that kind of party and that we would need to build a stronger foundation before we went there. Ever since we had our little chat he has been acting like a straight beeeaaaatch (ebonics for the "B" word). Now when he calls me he always acts like he has an attitude. We both agreed that we would always be honest with one another and now my honesty has brought out a very un-attractive side to his personality.

Should I drop his a** like he's hot or make a sincere effort to work this problem out?

Come on Libra's, I need some good advice and I need it TODAY.

I think that he's hurt, and ge's using his anger to shield further hurt. You can win him over with kindness. Give him affection.. he probably will adore you for it.
good luck..

MeAmour,

I love your name! As a matter of fact, it makes me want to go listen to my favorite artist Stevie Wonder! I love his stuff! 'Ribbons in the Sky' 'Lately' 'Do I Do' 'Hold on to Your Dream' woo maybe I can't wait? just kidding/HAH! Hold on let me finish first!

Well, what exactly is he doing? You say unattracitve, how?
Is he violent or what?

No, I wouldn't just drop him, if he just has an attitude.

I would find out what was it you said that may have hurt his feelings or changed his attitude. Tell him what you told us! Communicate your feelings and be for real about it, and maybe you can revive something.

Personally, I think your approach to the relationship is wise and shows your level of maturity. Very nice!! If I was him, I would respect you for it!!!
Perhaps he misunderstood your cue and took it as rejection instead of something positive. Or maybe he feels the need to get closer to you and for them it is through sex?? Or maybe they just want to play and be on their way??

I don't think Libra's are that stubborn. Usually we are very accommodating, the women are, but we don't usually speak up when we need love or want something. We expect our loved ones to be mind readers or we just suffer in silence. We don't like to make too many waves.

Be sincere with him and honest about your intentions and reassure him that you are not just rejecting him. Some people can relate better with a touch than with words alone.

You sound like a wonderful and considerate loving person and someone who can teach him what love really is about, and if he is worthy maybe he can fulfill your desires too?

I wouldn't bail just yet. Relationships take work and you might as well get started now!

Good Luck and enjoy!

...and I agree with Jaya!!! Be a little kindness and affection and he will do wonders! Ok, now I have a date with Mr. Stevie Wonder!

Suzy,

I too love Mr. Wonder, his songs have had a profound affect on my life.

Anywho, I am a little mad at my Libra because just today, after I left the message on the message board he called with yet again, another attitude. Asking me, "How's my day goin" in a very sarcastic way. I'm like why in the heck did you even call me with that same tired a** attitude. I'm always cordial, but am about ready to chew him out. I feel like this, if I did something to affend you, tell me. Don't expect me to be Miss Cleo. I spoke up on how I felt now he should do the same. I wanna show him that he can talk to me but if this is the way he deals with things I don't want to be a part of his world. If all he needs is some affection, he is going about it all the wrong way. I don't read minds.

MeAmour,

I am not Suzy, but I like to try and help in anyway I can. I am a lonely divorcee, and I find this board helps me so much that I would like to do the same, if at all possible.

Yes, chew him out but do it in private and not in front of his friends, and I am sure I don't need to tell you this! And don't be too mean! I think it is time to let him know where you stand and what exactly is it you are trying to accomplish!

I think that the two of you are getting lost in the way you are communicating. Get to the point; keep it that way, and maybe you can get to the bottom of the problem.

When you show him the level of your committment, and that you are serious, he will see that in the way you express yourself, then maybe you can move forward, if that is something you want to do? This is not what my ex- husband did, but this is what I desire in the next stud I hook-up with!

Hope this helps

Love,

Your Mother!

MeAmor,

I am back and I must say, Your Mother made some valid points.

You know what to do! You have known him long enough, and you know him very well it appears. I think you should both make this work out. Just keep talking to one another.

You sound tire and a little angry? Why don't you get some rest and don't fret so much, ok!

Everything in its own time and it will be fine. Especially if what you said in your first post is true. He is going to respect you very much in the long run!!!! You are a bit out of the ordinary and that is refreshing.

I'll be around if you need to talk some more. I'll check back. If not, I'll talk to you later.

Goodnight and Godbless

Suzy-Q!

That should say you sound tired not tire

Gee, he sounds darn rude if you ask me. Im a libra (da, you couldnt tell by the name?!) and i can be a right little friend sometimes, especially when i dont get my way! That is damn immature of him, how old is he? If he's under 25-6 I'd say its his age.

I'll tell you one thing, when i give someone attitude i like nothing better than to get it back. It snaps me back into reality somehow. I like strong people and i need to be poked fun at sometimes.

Hope this helps. He sounds like he needs a bit back.

Good luck my dear.

Libragirl.

YM,
Dont be lonely. We're all a little lonely sometimes.

Hi LG,

I try very hard not to be and just keep occupied, but this morning I was awoken from my sleep to the most unpleasant and disgusting situation and today I hate my life. I have never been so unhappy since I have been alive and my spirit is low.

I have to go now down to Bi-LO to rent a commercial vacuum cleaner and clean up a huge mess! I mean huge! It looks like a tornado went through here and one pretty much did!

Thanks for saying what you did and have a great day!

And be safe! and smile at someone you'll get one back!

Love,

Your Mother!

Treetrunk, what happened? Are you having storms there at the moment?

To answer Libra Girl's question- He is 38 and I am 27. But I must say that today started off on a better note. This morning when he called me, the 1st thing he said is, "we need to talk". Initially I was gonna tell him to call me back but then thought- we do need to talk. I excussed myself from my desk and went outside to take his call. He said, "I want to apologize for my behavior these last couple of days, will you forgive me". I immediatlly said yes, and there we were back to the same fun loving way we used to interact with each other. I told him that just bc I did't except his proposal for sex didn't mean never, just not right now. I gave him a little reassurance by saying that I am attracted to him in that way (sexually) and couldn't wait till we got to know one another even better so that we could do the damn thang. He laughed and said he couldn't wait either. He said that he is really attracted to me both mental and physically and that he would make an effort to slow down (i could tell it was killing him to say this). Ladies, I don't know, he just may be a keeper. I will keep you all posted. Also a big thanks for your timely responses and good advice. I think had I not posted my message on this board I would have washed my hand of this way too soon. And possibly walked away from a good thing.

p.s. I'm a pisces and he's a libra, do you think we will continue to have communication problems/ are these 2 signs compatable?

Your Mother,

Are u in Lousianna?

I'm glad you worked it out. Nice to hear a happy ending!!!

I loved that MeAmor, the part about "doing the damn thang"; you made me laugh!!!

You're very funny! Probably just what your guy needs!

...one more thing MeAmor, Check out the compatabilty throughout both charts and also the Eastern astrology is even more accurate, I think!

I would say, if you are good to each other, that is all that matters.

WB

Hey Wonderbox,

When you say Eastern Astorolgy- what does that mean? Is there a special place to find out more about it? And yes, I can't wait TO DO THE DAMN THANG. My last relationship ended just about a year ago and you can only imagine how backed up a sista is. I only hope that he will be patient enough to get past this initial probationary period- Funny I used the word probation, but that is what it is. Like a new job, you have to give it time to see if it's really what you want. RIGHT

MeAmour,
38, im glad he apologised. I dont know where i got the idea he was young from (not that 38 is old!)...

Good luck with it all,
Libragirl.

"Funny I used the word probation, but that is what it is. Like a new job, you have to give it time to see if it's really what you want. RIGHT"


MeAmor,

I understand what you are saying, and I am also very familiar with the system you're using. It is your life and you should be sure of what you want! How could he not appreciate it any other way.

Like Elvis would say, "Thank you, thank you very much".🙂

Like Elvis would say, "Thank you, thank you very much".

HAHAHAHA! Yup, you are the King or is it Kingette!

How about a little 'Burnin Love'!!!