Will this airy bull come back?

Hello all!

Long time reader, first time poster 🙂 Hoping you might be able to offer some insight into a situation that's been playing on my mind for far too long.

Firstly, his placements are:

Sun - Taurus
Moon - Taurus
Venus - Gemini
Mars - Aquarius

Mine:

Sun - Cancer
Moon - Gemini
Venus - Leo
Mars - Leo

I broke up with my ex bf of (on and off) 1yr around 5 months ago. He is by far the nearest damn thing to The One I've ever had. I was deeply infatuated with him and love him dearly. We got on amazingly and the sex was... mind blowing. He was like a best friend and lover all wrapped up in very handsome packaging.The only problem I had was that he would be very detached when we were apart. I never had any concern about him cheating or anything like that, but he just wasn't as demonstrative as I wanted him to be when it came to affection. Ultimately, this lead to us separating. I was his first girlfriend (should have been a massive red flag as he's mid 20s). But it also made me feel special. He admitted he had problems expressing himself, but it was too stressful wondering whether he loved me or not. It felt like he kept hop-scotching back and forth between "you're perfect, you're exactly the kind of person I could imagine myself marrying" to "I'm stuck in my ways, I'm not ready to be in a relationship". It doesn't help that he has some family issues that hindered how much time he could give me.

I've tried to convince myself that he was 'just not that into me', but he literally never had a single bad word to say about me. Continually called me perfect and numerous other complimentary words. He spoke highly of me to his friends also (which got back to me through mutual friends). I'm just so confused! If i'm so perfect, why wouldn't he do anything to make things work? Was he just being nice and wanting to let me down gently, or is he really that 'stuck in his ways'. Do you think that if things ended amicably (no blazing arguments, just that we can't give each other what the other needs right now) that he might come back? Preferably, more clued up on what he needs.

It doesn't help that he told me that his ideal situation would be to improve his family situation (overly controlling and manipulative mother who negatively impact so many aspects of his life) and to be able to finish what we started. I'm not sitting around waiting for this to happen, btw. I have been dating. But I can't stop thinking about him, I'm SO not over him, and

no one I meet compares to what we had....ugh

Appreciate any insight! x

"The only problem I had was that he would be very detached when we were apart. I never had any concern about him cheating or anything like that, but he just wasn't as demonstrative as I wanted him to be when it came to affection. Ultimately, this lead to us separating."

I'm a little surprised that this made you break up with this perfect man. How detached was he? Could you have been a bit more trusting/understanding? What is it that you need that he can not provide?