advice?

(also posted on Misc. board)

I have a friend (a cancer) who is going to be coming to the states (he lives in a different country now, but was born and raised here) in a couple months. He's a good friend of mine, also an ex (but we only briefly dated). The thing is, I don't want to hear about his perfect relationship, and the details of his sex life, etc etc, which I know he's going to try to tell me all about. It's kind of irritating for someone who's single...I don't know. A small part of me is happy for him, but an enormous part of me is dreading the visit, because...I have nothing to talk about when it comes to these topics. I mean I could talk about past experiences, but ... how lame. lol. Should I completely avoid him? Should I not? Am I being evil? And why does he get to have this great relationship BLAH BLAH BLAH while I..don't. Rhetorical mainly, but ... 😢

Why not just tell him? Straightfoward, in your face, you know the deal. If you dont want to come off as 'impolite' then you can just tell him about YOUR past relationship and give small bits of hints that you want 'nothing' to do with it and you dont want to hear a single thing about relationships..EVER AGAIN!! Dramatize it if you must.

hi,pheonix rising, just browsing...noticed your comments about your cancer buddy...and his great relationship....is it that he is a cancer and he has this good thing...or just that he never tires of telling you his details that you have a problem with...woud his sign be irrelevant otherwise?

Oh jeez, I forgot to come back here and respond, Aerith, sorry about that!!

Hi Allie, and thanks for your response.

Well here's a bit of an update: he is in the states now, in California, and he called me last night long distance and I talked to him (he won't be in my state until a few days from now), and it was great - he didn't mention anything about the pseudo-girlfriend *at all*, so for all I know they're not together anymore. But, if he starts getting all detailed about sexual stuff, I'm just gonna say, "you know, let's just stop there on that topic, okay?" and hopefully he'll get the hint. It's a combo of a few things...number one, I have no significant other anymore, and since I'm really picky about who I sleep with (lol) I have no current sex stories to share. So I feel left out. Also, there's just a slight bit of jealousy, because he has (or, had) someone and I don't. Not so much that I want him specifically...just that I was sad I had nobody. Turns out it's not the world's most perfect or fabulous relationship, btw: he had some complaints about her last time he mentioned her, about a month ago.

Thanks very much you two, and you're right, Allie, his sign is irrelevant in this particular situation.

He's all Cancer, though - fits the description to a T...he even said he feels like he's getting his period every month when he has to pay rent. lol!! I thought that was funny, and a rather Cancerian thing to say.

i think i noticed that you mentioned he was a cancer, and as a cancer myself was curious when i read your story, us cancers rush to the defence of our fellow crabs,..well sometimes...cya

oh yeah, i was reading through some of the previous posts, as im bored out of my mind here at work and looks like i missed alot, who's james tate...cwab...boy, it was entertaining...

James Tate is a funny but sometimes mean (but often still funny even when mean) Capricorn who posts here.

I know not "who" Cwab is, just that he's a Cancer who posted here and may still.

Yes, we've had some wild times around here.

thanks, no judgements , just good reading...i check in now and again to read the posts, so im sure ill be in touch...have a great day!

thanks, no judgements , just good reading...i check in now and again to read the posts, so im sure ill be in touch...have a great day!

You too!