Any Venus in Gemini people here?

What are y'all like? Sun in Cancer and Venus in Gemini seems a bit of a contradiction doesn't it?

guess i'll weigh in. my husband is cancer sun, gemini in venus. and yes, wow. it is a contradiction. he has all these moods and has very short bursts of curiostiy about sensual things. flipping around all the time on stuff. never interested in one thing long. i never quite know just how to go about seducing him, cause he's all over the map. but he's totally into cuddling, snuggling and security in romance. he's not nearly as openly possessive or jealous as the usual cancer as well. but it's more of a deep down, playfully displayed possessive. it only comes out that he feels that way when he's feeling insecure or threatened. otherwise he denies being possessive. he's also attracted to very intelligent and lively women who talk alot! bubbly and funny and smart. very gemini traits for who he's attracted to, but he also likes the typical busty, curvy, maternally shaped cancer style woman. an exaggerated feminity. he's kind of mixed between the two. myself, i have a venus in pisces, with aries sun and sag moon. i'm a bit mixed up too!

well i have a Leo in venus if that helps—

thanks redheadgurl, that's really helpful! it is quite a mix isn't it?

yup, The_Dream, let's hear it!

well i have mars and venus in leo, and somtimes i crave gettin all attention but at the same time i dont like to be the center of attention i kno that sounds crazy but that true lol, also i tend to fall for the air sings all the time i dont kno why but as soon i cling on to one they run away from me lol 😢

Blimey, Dream, that does sound confusing! And I don't blame you falling for the air signs, we're a charming bunch 😉

ha. oh yeah, you air signs are attractive, and i've run after my fair share of them!! librs'a and gemini's are usually better as mates than romantic partners tho, at least for me. i do love the spirited discussion and point counter point chats! but for some reason i'm romantically just drawn to water. shouldn't be that way as i'm almost all fire in my makeup. and sometimes i feel bogged down by water signs, but then i just turn up the heat and turn 'em to steam!!

haha! yup, we're certainly very chatty and talkative.
i'm like you and romantically drawn to water (maybe because of my scorpio rising) though most of my friends are Air signs, everyone I have a crush on is almost always water. they're very sensual and sensitive, i think, that might be why. a kind of sexy port in a storm? hehe

a kind of sexy port in a storm?

yeah, i think that's part of it. good eye there libra! i'm great at creating the maelstrom, and then need a place of soothing comfort to get away from all my adrenelin. i tend to make my home a sanctuary type place but stir it up out in the world. coming home to an empathetic, sensual cuddler is like sliding into a hot fragrant bath, innit? knowing that i'm creating a place that he craves just makes it even better and more attractive. i run with gem's and libra's and lions and sag, but run toward water at the end of the day

I'm a cancer sun/Gem Venus...and let me tell you it is extremely confusing not only to others but to myself as well. My greatest desire is to find that one true soul mate so we can hibernate together and live happily every after cuddling in each others arms yet I have this crazy fear of commitment and extremely short attention span that gets me nowhere lol.

I've been labeled as a flirt a tease a player etc etc but thats just on the surface or is it? Maybe the combonation of my friendly bubbly personality that comes through with a mixture of intense cancerian mysterious sensuality.

hey happy crab! yeah, that's funny to hear your description. granted, my guy is not a committment phobe. quite the opposite, actually. as an aries sun- sag moon, i'm more the run away type and he has had to really put in effort to keep me around on a consistent basis. hmmmmm. reading your comments tho, maybe that's worked in my favor! maybe changing it up and keeping it challenging is what he needs?

but short attention span? oh yeah! i literally don't know which direction he's headed, and what captured his attention yesterday is already a complete memory the next day. i don't always know what he'll come up with next. ahhh, but that's what keeps ME interested! but the secure cuddling and hibernation with lots of pillows and a comfy house, couch and bed is all him. he's very into that. seems to need it, not just like it. but his gemini side makes him open to me dragging him out for social fun with regularity and he presents a kind of happy face to the world, if a bit shuttered and self-protected. he doesn't like the limelight, but likes to be in the mix, quietly by my side while i put on a show!

redheadgurl are u an fire sign—

yep. tons of fire in my chart. aries sun and sagittarius moon which are fire AND cardinal signs. i've got gemini, leo and aries scattered all thru my chart. i'm really outgoing, bubbly, combative, energetic, demanding, leadership oriented, freedom loving, travelling loving, competetive and quick witted. other than that, i'm very humble. HA!
what are you?

my husband is a detroit guy, by the way! we still have a house there in southfield.
i just made my first trip to ferndale in november. michigan is a cool place. i liked it alot.

redheadgurl damn that is alot of fire lol but Michigan is so boring and slow and too cold lol but yea ferndale i luv tho its like that show umm i forgot where u kno everybody lol but wat sign is ur husband??

ok, trust me, detroit is a LOT more fun than where i live now. ugh. but, it's not forever and we'll be back in the states eventually. when there are actually jobs there.

and my guy is cancer sun, gemini moon. he's sagittarius rising. i think that's what saves us and makes us work. he gets my need for freedom and he's into a certain amount of change and adventure. just enough to keep me interested. he's got plenty of those darn cancer traits tho.........sigh.

redheadgurl i i have to admit have the best entertainment and downtown is the best place to hangout but i want to go the new casino they built but i guess i'm too young oo yea i have a hard time givin ppl i'm wit freedom becuz i be so in luv

thanks redheadgurl, happycrab and the_dream - this has all been really helpful!

I was getting so confused because i like a boy who has this combination and reading some of the cancer traits, they just didn't seem to fit him at all. he loves the limelight, is really talkative and sociable and is the life and soul of the party rather than a shy and retiring traditional crab.
Luckily have a lot of air and some fire in my chart so we're pretty similar.
Thanks for clearing some stuff up!

Any more quirks? I'd love to hear them.

hey scorpsting! how was your xmas?
i'm glad to hear that. i was hoping things were going to work out for you. you're a lucky girl to have that cancer guy in your life :-)
hope you're enjoying the festive season.

Moon_eyes, what's your guy's moon sign?

My boy with this sun/venus combo is a total giggler. He's worked as a comedian before, lol. How strange that yours and his have the same combo and are different in that way.
My guy is a bit hot and cold on stuff too. Not really on people but he'll find, say, a certain tv show that he loves and watch it for 3 days straight and then go a week not watching it. It's like all-or-nothing with him and he changes his mind about stuff a lot.

does ur fire sign in venus makes u more wild—

i think fire in your venus makes you more opportunistic when it comes to love. you delight in the opportunity of romance and you like excitement and adventure. I have venus in sagittarius so i can identify lol!

One thing I've never really got is the whole theory that Gem in Venus poeple like lots of talking in bed.
I really don't. I prefer more intensity and passion (maybe that's my mars in cancer).

I can talk a lot in my head when other stuff is going on but I don't feel the need to verbalise it or have the other person talk a lot.
I find myself leaning much more accurately towards the descriptions of mars in cancer when it comes to sex.

"I hate that whole iggy thing. DO your dudes ignore things or did they at the beginning of the relationship? I find mine just seems to wanna settle and have kids. and i question if its the " I gotta settle syndrome of men where they find anyone really."

oh moon eyes. that's so on target. you mean how he can be totally there, aware and present, paying attention to everything and then like a switch went off, just disappear inside his own head and you could practically set the couch on fire and he just acts like you arent' there? i'm thinking that what you mean. it's so odd. and since i'm a "look at ME!!" aries/sag......
and the part about just gotta settle. oh man. i've had some serious internal dialogue wondering if it was about me as a person, or just filling a need for him. that he just needed SOMEone and i was the best at the time...... cause as much as a cancer can make you feel protected and all, they can sometimes make you feel like you're "any port in a storm" too. it often feels more about his comfort than our connection. whatever, i just got up, still asleep a little...........

moon in aries...i have no idea! hmm i'm totally foxed by this guy, moon_eyes! i guess you must be too.

"it often feels more about his comfort than our connection." - eek! from what i know about cancers, not sure if moon would agree, is that emotions are paramount and he wouldn't commit to you unless he FELT it was right. There must be a connection for him to want to be with you but he doesn't let it come across because he's sensitive?
i'm not sure though, you know your hubby better than i do lol!

yeah london,

i know. and yes, he's so emotional. he really is. but he really really seems to need to hide that side too. it's like his emotions are so deep in him that the only way he can face things is to put on this other face when he walks out the door into the world. his entire body posture changes. stiffens and stills. like he's exerting max control over himself. i guess cause i'm just the opposite and don't feel any discomfort at wearing my animation and feelings on my face, cause i have a very different way of showing my feelings, i often discount his ways as disingenuous. i mistakenly assume that if he's not brave enough to feel out loud, it's not real. silly aries girl. sigh. the truth is, he structures almost all his actions around making me happy. quietly, sweetly and confidently. guess i ought to make myself a little note and remind myself of that daily, huh??

high tuned!! ha. that's great. i'm not so high tuned being a self centered aries. it takes me a moment to catch up to what my actions have instigated in the crowd around me. i act, and everyone else reacts. this is the total routine with my cancer man. i'm rambling, talking non stop, dancing around etc. only to look back once in a while and notice that i've pissed him off, or made tears of sentimental joy spring up in his eyes. all while he's totally silent. but those eyes. they trumpet his emotions. he can try to cover 'em up, but when i look into them, it's all laid bare. i just gotta remember to stop and look once in awhile!!

fuse lit? like on fire for him? it's easy to be on fire for cancer. the fact that three years into it and i still have to chase him around a bit doesn't hurt. i DO love the hunt!!!

My Venus is in Gemini. I am a very sociable person; I love parties and hanging out with groups of people. However, I also love my alone time. Sometimes it is even hard for me to tell if I would rather be alone or with others-- in groups I sometimes feel disconnected, when alone I sometimes get depressed or very mellow. In a relationship, I look for security and love, but if things get stale or too predictable, I am turned off. A mental connection is very important to me.

^ You're cancer with venus in gemini
And you're a fire rabbit? (I saw in another thread)

*suspicious eyes* you stealing my personality or something? You better not have a sagittarius ascendant

cool, thanks for the information. you guys must be twins or something!

I am a cancer with a venus in gemini.

Also, my moon is capricorn and my rising is in taurus.

It gets very confusing trying to figure out how all of these oppositional aspects of my personality are supposed to blend.