aquarian woman dating a cancerian man

Hi all-

Was searching through the internet to find some info on my cancerian partner.

We have known of each other for sometime but recently started a realtionship. At least I think that is what we are doing. He has been very honest with me from the beggining about having shady past and wants to start a new with me. When we are together he often shares stories about his family and i think I pretty much know about all of his ex girlfriends. We have been seeing each other once a week for the past 3 months. Our schedules are pretty busy but when I do get to see him I have a fantastic time. He is sweet, insightful, intelligent, funny and sensitive.

However, I feel like I do most of the communicating or planning of dates. He says he will call me and like 5 days will go by. So I call him. Just to know what is up. I'm not in his face just casually ask if he wants to hang out. I don't want to pressure him because that is no fun. It has been about 5 days again since we have last spoken and I am not really sure what is going on I should just call him again? Please help.

Confused.

well I don't dout he's in to you. but he probibly wants to be sure of everything. He should come around though.

I don't like to call either. Anybody. Ever.

Call,lol. Reach out and touch i say,lol

Aquarian woman, I think it's time for you to take a step back.
Some men like it - to have their girlfriends make all the decisions, where to go, what to do etc.
I do know that cancers are always on the go, super busy-bees - lots of time spent working and then there's family etc.
But don't fall into the trap of being the "forever chaser"! for want of a better word - make him do the chasing and ringing now.
Do not ring him - no contact at all - remember as the Great Freebird says: Men respond to lack of contact rather than words........so make him respond!!
No matter how busy a person is, there's always time to make a phonecall......one never finds the time, one has to make the time.

I do get the feeling that he's into you though.......just ensure that he's putting the same quotient of the E word into the relationship - ie. E is for effort:-)

Lots of luck.

Alana x

Aquarian lady,
I've also read that sometimes Cancers will disappear for a few days to see if you'll miss them or if they're taken for granted... maybe that's what he does? He wants to see how MUCH you're interested?

It's probably one of two things:

1) He's really busy and doesn't have time
2) He's testing you to see whether you will call him, Cancers like to test and we get upset if the test fails

So the cancer men think that he is testing me? How long does this process usually go on for? I don't mind calling him and setting up stuff, I just don't want to seem overbearing. Especially if he is really busy. He told me once that he is not the best person to be around when he is stressed out and I think he has a lot of stuff on this week with work and such. I totally respect that. we also saw each other last weekend around a ton of people we know and it was a little awkward. I'm wondering if that might be it? Bottom line is, I like him a lot and am willing to be patient if he is working stuff out. I'm not seeing other people either. I just want him to know I am thinking about him and i do care. So i guess my question to the cancerian men out there is, would it make you feel better if I just sent a text saying "hi. hope your week is going well?" Or a phone call? Or just waited till you come around and call me?

So the cancer men think that he is testing me? How long does this process usually go on for? I don't mind calling him and setting up stuff, I just don't want to seem overbearing. Especially if he is really busy. He told me once that he is not the best person to be around when he is stressed out and I think he has a lot of stuff on this week with work and such. I totally respect that. we also saw each other last weekend around a ton of people we know and it was a little awkward. I'm wondering if that might be it? Bottom line is, I like him a lot and am willing to be patient if he is working stuff out. I'm not seeing other people either. I just want him to know I am thinking about him and i do care. So i guess my question to the cancerian men out there is, would it make you feel better if I just sent a text saying "hi. hope your week is going well?" Or a phone call? Or just waited till you come around and call me?

Ah ha! Kuppo
I'm getting pretty good at reading these little Cancer men! That's right they looove to test you!

Kuppo what else do you know that could interest me on these Cancers... what juicy stuff you have?

Well if he's testing you it's about time you put an end to it. You've called him and showed him that you ARE interested in him so he should have got it by now. Next time you call him you leave him no doubt that you do have a good time with him and that you like to see him... you know.. in casual conversation by maybe talking of something you've done together before. Don't ask him if he wants to hang out, you're just calling to see how he's doing, chat n stuff. Let him mention something about going out and let him set the date. If he doesn't it's no big deal, when hanging up tell HIM to call YOU when he has time. The thing is that by telling him this he will think; that HE has to call you, can call you, should call you... whatever goes through his little brain when you don't call him anymore! If he is interested he will call. What's a week? what's a couple of weeks? nothing... nothing... time is eternal and you've got your part down.

What's the rush? Let things take their course. You've showed interest but he's just gotten too comfortable. Too busy? testing? bulls-hi-t! when you're interested in someone you put the effort. You've done your part and now it's his turn. Be calm and cool... there's plenty of crabs in the sea 🙂

Don't over-emphasize a sign, that is unimportant. That only tells you basic and leads you into excusing things because of a sign? Remember, he's not just a crab, he's a MAN.

I don't believe in efforts in relationships. Finding the best partner for you means little effort is involved. You have more time for good times that way.

Well then she shouldn't be having to put in all the effort either Mr.Crabby. If you liked someone wouldn't you just call them and invite them out, sounds simple to me except sum like games.

Why not? As long as he's not making efforts, all is fine. Now get me a beer, sweety.

That's how we like you. Unmarried and drunk.

Must be the world's way of fvcking with me, especially when, last time, it was my ex I still had feelings for... :/

Ooooh I've been down that road too.

Yeah isn't that funny that sometimes it's when you have a boyfriend that you're targeted the most? It's like having to go to the bathroom really badly and not being able too, oh I say the damnest things laters

And I know I'm guilty of not letting out the fact that I have a boyfrind, hey well if they don't ask 🙂 hee hee it just seems like such a shame to scare them off 😢 but then sometimes they figure it out or find out ooh such dilemmas...

hey everyone-

so I found out that he went to dinner with one of my friends and basically told her he was super into me. My question is why can't he tell me instead of my friend? I haven't heard from him in like 3 days. cancerian men are so confusing, damn cute but super confusing.....

He knew it'd get to you. It's a way of holding you there, he wants you to be the one after him. Those sneaky crabs! They just like things their way.

I still wouldn't call him though. Actions speak louder than words, takes time though.

For the good of this situation, you should just call him. I really don't think its an issue of who's going to call first. whats the worst that could happen?

'sigh', these wacky Sex Laws🙂......