aries girl trying to handle cancer man

okay so im going to try to make this short even though it is alot! well ive been in this situation with this cancer guy for going on 11 months now and im very much in love with him and i know he feels the same about me but we have been through alot and i guess im just trying to get some in sight on how to handle things better when it comes to him being an cancer. so fari learned that they are alot to handle and very hard to handle.

he started off infatuated by me while i was trying to get over someone but eventually as soon as i grew infatuated for him he turns the tables saying he just wants to be friends and not ready so i was fine with that but always wanted to more but i was all for being friends and growing an bond from there but i always thought it was weird how randomly out of nowhere he came up with that decision after expressing how much he wanted to be with me in the beginning but it didnt really phase me


i guess as an aries it just made me work even harder to prove myself and from there i always been by his side and loyal to him no matter what from the past 11 months hes been the only guy i have been dating/seeing/talking to and we talk every day to the point its rare for us to go hours without speaking. i put an tremendous amount of effort into whatever we are. i know we aren't together but i know were in love and have history and a great bond.

recently i noticed him being distant and pushing me away i immediately sensed the change right away and went into my investigation mode and found out that he's basically hurt and down because of another female he told me that was just a friend i was hurt by it big time but i realized that he was hurting and i hated seeing him hurt. i felt a little selfish by explaining how bad he hurt me and not recognizing hes hurt also so i sucked it up and reached out to him about it but he just wanted space to feel better so i gave him that.

ever since that i noticed we have gotten closer but there would be days where he would take his anger out on me and turn verbally abusive and threaten to leave my life it hurts when he does those things and i told him several times so he knows but sometimes i think he does it out of manipulation then he'll get cold and rude and tell me to leave him alone and block my number till he feels like he wants to talk to me, its just hard to deal and it hurts me alot.

being an aries i go after what i want and chase and im very assertive and determined so i don't give

i would always call and put my pride aside for him i just dont know exactly what he wants from me he can be distant and act really cold towards me ignore my calls tell me to leave him alone and ill be the one initiating contact and other days he would be the one calling and initiating contact.

i just dont know if he wants me to move things forward because i did try something and called him baby in a text once and i never done that before and i just felt like doing that and wanted to see the reaction i got and he seemed to like that and reacted in a great way and so i tried it again a few days after that and he text me back with his name and a star beside it basically correcting me.

sometimes i get scared into thinking "what if the other female he was hurt about comes back into the picture", i over think alot and i just dont get it if anyone knows how to handle these guys please give me some insight hes driving me crazy and i feel like i tried everything i went through a phase of chasing him and going after him and asserting myself and now im trying to calm down with that but its hard because i go after what i want and i dont want him to forget how much i just want to be with him.

I have an aries friend and her pisces guy broke up with her and moved in with another women. She chases him trying to win him back at all costs; trying to prove something.

I dont get you aries girls. You let ppl walk all over you. The ram becomes a sheep. Unworthy motherfukkers get your love and passion?? Its like you guys confuse love with the chase. Or is it the chase you love and not really the person?

Him verbally dissing you is not love. If your friend was dating a guy like the one you described, what would you tell her?

You being an aries woman, you will be too aggressive for that guy... and wayyyyyy too impatient.

I use to know an aries woman who loved a cancer man and she drove him away in the end... she was too explosive and jumped to conclusions a lot.

Water signs just go about things different than us fire signs and we need to learn to not jump to conclusions with them.

I have aries mars and aries rising so trust me, it aint easy lol.

Good luck

Aries and Cancer is a tough match I couldn't be with one Aries are too aggressive for me.

Posted by AriesLady8
If you don't mind me asking, what is your attraction to him??

I have a cancer brother. Love him to death but I would never date one

well he's very caring and when i first met him he was one of the few people that was always there for me and seemed to understand me i found most guys come on too strong or disrespectfully but he came to me as a friend and very much respected me and explained he wants nothing more then to get to know me and from there we hit it off very well. in person we get along extremely well, we have zero issues and he treats me way better than any guy has ever treated me (idk if i just been involved with complete aholes) but i meet him and he's a complete gentleman, i immediately think "where have you been all my life" since its kinda long distance we spend most our time over the phone and its hell that way.

Posted by DMV
I have an aries friend and her pisces guy broke up with her and moved in with another women. She chases him trying to win him back at all costs; trying to prove something.

I dont get you aries girls. You let ppl walk all over you. The ram becomes a sheep. Unworthy motherfukkers get your love and passion?? Its like you guys confuse love with the chase. Or is it the chase you love and not really the person?

Him verbally dissing you is not love. If your friend was dating a guy like the one you described, what would you tell her?

DMV: i know what you mean i become very addicted and used to the chasing but i dont chase him all the time just when hes upset about something and goes into his shell i try going after him to get him out and in the begining i was more initative and assertve towards him to show him "hey you dont have to worry about rejection because im putting myself out there for you instead" to make him more comfy and at ease. but its deffinitly the person i love because i dont put up with alot like the amount i put up with when it comes to him i get bored easily but no matter what i cant find myself not able to bot have him in my life.

but i wouldn't accept the verbal abuse for anyone and im not sure why i made it seem okay even tho i spoke to him about it but i just assume hes just really angry and venting to i allow him to say what he feels and not take it to heart even tho it hurts and i wouldnt dare do it to him.

Posted by AL4813
You being an aries woman, you will be too aggressive for that guy... and wayyyyyy too impatient.

I use to know an aries woman who loved a cancer man and she drove him away in the end... she was too explosive and jumped to conclusions a lot.

Water signs just go about things different than us fire signs and we need to learn to not jump to conclusions with them.

I have aries mars and aries rising so trust me, it aint easy lol.

Good luck

i agree with the aggressiveness but honestly im not that aggressive, in the begining he mentioned that im really demanding but i actually take my time and go with the flow with him but only time that i might come off as aggressive is when things arent going my way and yes i get impatient (for example if he tells me hes going to call me and has me waiting over 2 hourse i go towards him and either call or let him know that yo ive been waiting and i dont like when you do that) and he sees it as me trying to gain control.


i still dont get how water signs completely operate or do the things they do

Posted by Stihl46
Aries and Cancer is a tough match I couldn't be with one Aries are too aggressive for me.

so far all together its just an tough situation constant hoops he sends me through and hes very unpredictable. but i never exploded on him yet or at all because i know once i do its going to create another problem so i remain calm but it drives me. one minute i feel like i fully understand him then the next min i realize i dont :/

my thing is im not all that aggressive only when i feel like i need to be and he seems fine with it. could you see an aries and cancer working if her aggression wasn't an total issue between them?