Boxes and Closets

Are you being your true self?
Are you living the life you want to live?
Have you ever done a 360 life style change? If so, Why?
Do you find that people around you; friends, family, co-worker or society tends to have an image of you and expect you to fit it.

When you don't do what is expected do they attack you?
I don't necessarily mean physically, but verbally or psychologically.

I am often surprised at how a few people get me and others are totally off the mark.
Even though we spend so much time together.
When I don't do as expected I get a surprised response; depending on the situation I may feel inhibited or in some cases feel guilty.

That is a very good topic LunarMaiden.

Your questions are very touchy and I wouldnt answer them if I knew anyone on this forum in person , but since I know none people it will be my pleasure answering them.

Sometimes I am true to myself, but sometimes I am not. The times when I tend not to be true to myself is only because I want to look tougher than I actually am, even tho the fact I am 22 years old. I am very independent, always had descent things in my life, have well-known family, but that is not what satisfies me. I am more proud of what I achieve on my own, rather than what Mom or Dad give me.

I am not living the life that I want, definitely. Many reasons behind this answers.

I have never done a 360 degree life style change, but wait, what do you mean by 360 life style change? I would do it, but it would involve things that would have a positive impact over my performance in my professional and private life.

I fit in the place where I want to fit in and I dont fit in in the places where I do not want to fit in, simple as that. For instance, I think I do not fit in my current work position because I see people's way of thinking is just silly, senseless, irrational, and I dont give a damn what they think or how they see me. If I plan something serious with people or whatever we might talk about, then I will give the best out of me to impress.

What about you?

Posted by LunarMaiden
Are you being your true self?
Are you living the life you want to live?
Have you ever done a 360 life style change? If so, Why?
Do you find that people around you; friends, family, co-worker or society tends to have an image of you and expect you to fit it.

When you don't do what is expected do they attack you?
I don't necessarily mean physically, but verbally or psychologically.

I am often surprised at how a few people get me and others are totally off the mark.
Even though we spend so much time together.
When I don't do as expected I get a surprised response; depending on the situation I may feel inhibited or in some cases feel guilty.

yes, it's a very simple life. i mean simple like farm-life simple.
just reading/watching films/tv programs of the life style of rich and famous and 'out there'people make me uncomfortable. but vicariously it's nice to live through it in my head and then after i'm done imagining, i can safely feel secure and warm with my family.
oh yes, some family members who are very ambitious, expect alot from me. it weighs on my shoulders and makes me cry.
but some have finally accepted me for who i am and i'm very happy with those who have that acceptance.
they used to attack me but not anymore, they realise that i'm just very different from their life style and that's good.

Lmao I wrote a long dam reply it never went thru. I am going to be short.
Are u being your true self? Yes , if not I try to keep my mouth close. Im very quiet anyway.
Are you living the life u want to live? No , ofcourse I want more , but the way my life is now I try to be me as possible. If that make since.
Have u ever done a 360 life change if so why? Yes between the age of 15 to about 22 I was vey agressive . I walk around demanding repect and always felt like I had to express what I had to say aggressively And blunt as possible. If I didn't, I felt like I wasnt being myself. I also had a anger problem, I would blow up verbally or physically and black out. I had this strong opinion about what was right or wronge.I also use to fight people battles because I hated to see something that I felt was out of line. Now Im sooo laid back, and very nonchalant, I learn every battle do not belong to me let others handle there own shit. Also I am more quiet now I can look at shit and laugh. I taught my self to not take things serious. I also learn about being humble. evrything doesnt have to be said or express. What comes along with this change is now I can be too quiet and it takes me long to get heated. And I hold things in too long .
Do u find people around u or u tend to have a image of u and expect u to fit it ? Hell yes, I met people that was cool but some how they are so off from what they think I am. I dnt no wer people get these images frm. New people are a problem because they make up some shit in there head by me just saying hello and being quiet. I had a coworker I new her for years she came out and call me cocky recently , I was taken back because I didnt no wer she get that frm. Why I say that because for years we only talk a handful of times and she was doing most of the talking. Most of the times I would only see her three times a week for 15 minutes and she would talk about her life. I am more a listener , when I ask her why she said that she couldnt give me a answer.
When u dont do as expect do they attack verbally or psychologically? Yes. Like I said im quiet , so people sometimes think I dont no whats going on. Forexample there was some coworkers bullying another coworker everyday it was drama.I stayed to my self. Now in my head im like this isnt cool. Well it became a fight and the bullies wanted me to go along with them trying to get this girl fired. Smh hell no , not me . I told them all dont put me in this shit they were dead wrong