Cancer ex bf

Hi hi,

I'd really appreciate it if you could help me figure my cancer man out. i know everyone is different, however, id do anything to get him back.):

His birthday is 26th June 1990.
together for 6 years
broke up 2 months ago

We are doing long distance but he came back because its the summer break and staying for 5 weeks. (hes leaving in 3 days now)

I broke up with him.
Because he kept things from me and there were girls going after him and he didnt tell them off. Also, distance is hard and he told me not to visit him as he had school and a few others. There were a few more reasons too but I won't state.

When he came back, he was cold and distant. I could understand that.
He said he wanted to be friends and he thinks its better this way, however, there is still hope for him and i.

He was distant and all for 2-3 weeks before he opened up to me slightly. (while hes back)
I've been trying to show him that im sorry, i even apologized for my wrong doings and me being impulsive. He said he forgives me.


side track - he excessively follows half naked girls on instagram and he follows them in bulk in a day (eg: 20?) He claims its because hes bored on his phone so hes just following. fine, i gave him benefit of doubt. this happened before we broke up and still doing it till today. Am I suppose to worry—??

We've been spending at least 1.5 weeks together everyday and he wants me to to stay over everyday too. He holds me and is pretty loving and seem to do things for me such as buy me dinner, planned movies every night (he'll download them), have dessert etc. Sex is also better now, the first week he was back, we did it and he confessed to me he felt different, no connection. But i strongly think we do now..

This 1 week, he's been asking me to go over to him place after im done with work to watch movies and nap together. He also asks me to buy him dinner. I gladly do. And he says thank you in a super wanna be pampered way. lol. Also, when I stay over and he has to meet his friends to catch up, he'll say he'll pick me after that and asked me to stay over. I'd say, it's okay, spend time with your friends. ( because he will feel bad if he's late and I don't want him to rush cause they always end in the wee hours ). But he'll ask again in a super puppy dog voice.... Sigh... In the end i did and all we do is cuddle and have deep talks about life. Not about us. So it's definitely not a booty call.

I spoke to him last night about m

Hi hi,

I'd really appreciate it if you could help me figure my cancer man out. i know everyone is different, however, id do anything to get him back.):

His birthday is 26th June 1990.
together for 6 years
broke up 2 months ago

We are doing long distance but he came back because its the summer break and staying for 5 weeks. (hes leaving in 3 days now)

I broke up with him.
Because he kept things from me and there were girls going after him and he didnt tell them off. Also, distance is hard and he told me not to visit him as he had school and a few others. There were a few more reasons too but I won't state.

When he came back, he was cold and distant. I could understand that.
He said he wanted to be friends and he thinks its better this way, however, there is still hope for him and i.

He was distant and all for 2-3 weeks before he opened up to me slightly. (while hes back)
I've been trying to show him that im sorry, i even apologized for my wrong doings and me being impulsive. He said he forgives me.


side track - he excessively follows half naked girls on instagram and he follows them in bulk in a day (eg: 20?) He claims its because hes bored on his phone so hes just following. fine, i gave him benefit of doubt. this happened before we broke up and still doing it till today. Am I suppose to worry—??

We've been spending at least 1.5 weeks together everyday and he wants me to to stay over everyday too. He holds me and is pretty loving and seem to do things for me such as buy me dinner, planned movies every night (he'll download them), have dessert etc. Sex is also better now, the first week he was back, we did it and he confessed to me he felt different, no connection. But i strongly think we do now..

This 1 week, he's been asking me to go over to him place after im done with work to watch movies and nap together. He also asks me to buy him dinner. I gladly do. And he says thank you in a super wanna be pampered way. lol. Also, when I stay over and he has to meet his friends to catch up, he'll say he'll pick me after that and asked me to stay over. I'd say, it's okay, spend time with your friends. ( because he will feel bad if he's late and I don't want him to rush cause they always end in the wee hours ). But he'll ask again in a super puppy dog voice.... Sigh... In the end i did and all we do is cuddle and have deep talks about life. Not about us. So it's definitely not a booty call.

I spoke to him last night about m

I spoke to him last night about me visiting him in LA, he kept on saying he has to check his schedule etc etc.... And i told him off by saying.. After a month, he still doesnt know what he wants? We have been together for 6 years. not 1. Is it that hard?
And then he said, ok come in December. I was happy of course, but damn it, i felt like he only agreed cause i pressured him ):

I also asked, " are you scared that I might hurt you again? "
He said yes.

Is there something I could do more to make him feel safe? That I wont bring the word, break up again?

What do you think?
Id think im on the right track in getting him back, BUT I dont know............ Because cancers generally will want to be close still and will be there for you even after a break up....

All I am asking, is for you, as a man, to let me in on what should I do, be it cancer or not, to get my man back, to show him im sincerely sorry and that he is safe with me. He is in fact very sensitive and emotional but he doesnt show it but i know it.

Thank youuuuu

So you live in different cities now ? how is it going to work like before ?

Do you think he is dating other people?

Ok so I can't answer ur question. But I also have a cancer who said he's scared I'm gonna mess him around and hurt him again. I also need to know how to make him feel safe....considering I'm a heartless cappy ....very difficult

Ok this isn't very helpful... I need a guy's opinion.. Cause I kinda predicted that females will react negatively and assume... Thanks though for your input!