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Cancer Female dating a Gemini Male
I feel like the closer we get he wants to run. He will say, if I can't have my way with him that I'm ready to throw in the towel which is not the case. You can already see our disconnect 🙂
He's as sensitive as he can be and most times it's enough. The times that he doesn't it's frustrating because I know he knows what to do with me and how to handle me.
He's as sensitive as he can be and most times it's enough. The times that he doesn't it's frustrating because I know he knows what to do with me and how to handle me.
I don't think he is ready...
I am a Gemini Female, but I am a very watery gem. Do you know his other placements? I have a Cancer venus/mars.
I am dating a male scorpio and we see each other A LOT. At least 3x a week we have agreed for when school starts next week...I work 40+ hours a week and I am taking VERY hard classes (including Anatomy and Physiology which I have been advised from everyone to drop, but I can't) And he works 2 jobs and is also in school. But we have agreed to AT LEAST 3x a week. I stayed the night last night, stayed until about 4pm today, and will see him later tonight and we are spending the day together. I also saw him Monday and Tuesday, Sunday before that as well.
I am a Gemini and I CRAVE closeness. If I say I don't want it, it's because I don't want it with that person.
I have found with dating male signs such as Gemini/Aquarius/Sag/Aries, they like "space" and will tell me to back off, or slow down...I even had a Cap do this. But I deserve more (as you do!) And if they want their space, I take myself out of the equation 100% .
I had a good thing going with a Virgo 20 years my senior but ended it because he wasn't a talking every day person and I NEED that communication. We are still good friends and he was sad that it ended, but it boiled down to him not giving ME what I NEEDED.
It sounds like you two have different needs and that you are not 100% happy with this. If it feels like he is going to run, and he is putting blame on you by trying to say what YOU Will do...I think it's time to let this Gem be free. I don't think he is ready for commitment.
You would do better with someone who WANTS to spend time with you, and can give you the attention you want/deserve =)
Good luck!
I am a Gemini Female, but I am a very watery gem. Do you know his other placements? I have a Cancer venus/mars.
I am dating a male scorpio and we see each other A LOT. At least 3x a week we have agreed for when school starts next week...I work 40+ hours a week and I am taking VERY hard classes (including Anatomy and Physiology which I have been advised from everyone to drop, but I can't) And he works 2 jobs and is also in school. But we have agreed to AT LEAST 3x a week. I stayed the night last night, stayed until about 4pm today, and will see him later tonight and we are spending the day together. I also saw him Monday and Tuesday, Sunday before that as well.
I am a Gemini and I CRAVE closeness. If I say I don't want it, it's because I don't want it with that person.
I have found with dating male signs such as Gemini/Aquarius/Sag/Aries, they like "space" and will tell me to back off, or slow down...I even had a Cap do this. But I deserve more (as you do!) And if they want their space, I take myself out of the equation 100% .
I had a good thing going with a Virgo 20 years my senior but ended it because he wasn't a talking every day person and I NEED that communication. We are still good friends and he was sad that it ended, but it boiled down to him not giving ME what I NEEDED.
It sounds like you two have different needs and that you are not 100% happy with this. If it feels like he is going to run, and he is putting blame on you by trying to say what YOU Will do...I think it's time to let this Gem be free. I don't think he is ready for commitment.
You would do better with someone who WANTS to spend time with you, and can give you the attention you want/deserve =)
Good luck!
When he is around do you bring up relationship stuff?
He gives me mixed messages on wanting a commitment. Month one he wanted to talk about being exclusive and I wasn't ready for that. It pretty much has been up and down since then. Apparently I hurt his feelings by not responding how he wanted.
I do believe he cares about me and wants this relationship to grow by his actions and words. My main complaint with him is that I think he wants me to be good with knowing that he cares without having to tell me. I like knowing my man is happy and having him tell me that. He doesn't do that as often as I would like. We are both single parents and I travel for work so we usually see each other once or twice a week depending on our schedules.
Last month we had to go two weeks without seing each other and he was freaking out on me. Last week he blurted something out about moving in together which is not anything I've ever mentioned nor do I want to do. He's all over the place depending on the day.
But when we are together, it's all good. No complaints ever. We always have great conversation and the time is all about us which is nice. We don't typically talk about "us" it's almost like its understood. And when we're in the moment together it is understood. It's after we've departed that my frustration with him begins 🙂
In January I will be in town more so I'm giving him until then to see how this goes. After that I may have to say adios.
I do believe he cares about me and wants this relationship to grow by his actions and words. My main complaint with him is that I think he wants me to be good with knowing that he cares without having to tell me. I like knowing my man is happy and having him tell me that. He doesn't do that as often as I would like. We are both single parents and I travel for work so we usually see each other once or twice a week depending on our schedules.
Last month we had to go two weeks without seing each other and he was freaking out on me. Last week he blurted something out about moving in together which is not anything I've ever mentioned nor do I want to do. He's all over the place depending on the day.
But when we are together, it's all good. No complaints ever. We always have great conversation and the time is all about us which is nice. We don't typically talk about "us" it's almost like its understood. And when we're in the moment together it is understood. It's after we've departed that my frustration with him begins 🙂
In January I will be in town more so I'm giving him until then to see how this goes. After that I may have to say adios.
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In January I will be in town more so I'm giving him until then to see how this goes. After that I may have to say adios.
lmao
Ok - well it is really interesting to hear another perspective on this. I talked to my BF last night and I got his perspective lol. I see now where he's coming from. He's basically scared. His ex has done a # on him and apparently he thought I was taking him for granted. So maybe all of this was not him being a "Gem" 🙂
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