Cancer man got anxious about us

I'm a Taurus woman dating this Cancer guy (we're in our 20's). I have Sag Moon/Tau Venus/Gem Mars, he has Vir Moon/Gem Venus/Can Mars. It has been 2 months now, we meet 2 to 3 times a week, it might be just for lunch during broad daylight etc. It started so wonderfully, he seemed to be head over heels for me, just staring into each others' eyes and cuddling, having great conversations (I don't think I've yet ever met a guy who makes me laugh so hard, or who is this tender and caring toward me). It's funny how he actually does "move sideways" like a crab, especially if he's giving me hugs, he approaches me from my side.
But he has his dark side too, one being prone to depression and worrying about the tiniest details (he also seems to have a hard time relaxing when we're alone). Also he seems to guard his inner feelings and thoughts really tightly, only sharing a bit from here and there.Currently he's trying to finish his thesis and is waiting for info for getting into one school, these seem to make him really anxious at times. I have been trying to be there for him, and to cheer him up.
Today it was my turn to get super anxious. We met in Tinder, and I was checking mine with intention of deleting my account, actually, since it seems we've been doing well. However, while I checked my match list, he wasn't there anymore - he hadn't told me he was going to unmatch me or delete his account. So I checked also is he still using Tinder - he is. His account came really quickly while I swiped a few guys, and it also claimed he had been using it "0 minutes ago", which is supposed to be really accurate. My stomach almost turned around at this point (heh what a Taurus thing to say...), and I had to confront him about it. First he claimed that he had deleted his account. I said I just saw it, which he replied "Yes, but I don't have anyone on my match list". I asked does he still want to date other women, he said no, "but I just want to take things easy with us". He claimed everything's OK, I shouldn't worry etc. But then I guess his Cancer moodiness hit him, because 2 hours after that, he told me he's feeling really anxious about our conversation. That we should "have a pause from talking about our feelings", that it's OK we talk about other things, but not our affair/feelings. That his thesis is already making him so anxious and he can't really take this kinds of things now.
I replied to him OK and gave some points what things were making me anxious at the moment

I replied to him OK and gave some points what things were making me anxious at the moment, and then I told him I won't be bothering him for some time now (I think he needs his space). He didn't answer that msg anymore, maybe because I said I won't talk for a while.
But now I'm feeling really panicky. He lied about deleting the account, why is he keeping Tinder account, why it said "0 minutes", it's only been 2 months and we're already having a "break" of some kind... And also did I scare him into his shell now, and will he come out of there? And am I completely delusional here? Yes, my Taurean possessiveness definitely took the best of me now. Now I'm scared our whole affair (which I was hoping to turn into a serious relationship) is braking down and that I ruined it...

Affair? So you two are cheating? If yea then that probably has something to do with it. Guilt is taking him over and he bit off more then he can chew. Why does he get anxious so bad? You are a trigger it looks like and he likes you but won't let you in maybe because you are having a affair and it makes him feel insecure or he didn't mean for you two to fall for each other but it happened now he's trying to deny you because he doesn't want it going deeper because the deeper you go the more problems you have but at the same time he wants to go deeper. But he's confused and everything is falling apart because he can't stick to one decision. You need to stop fucking with him until he decides to take you or leave you or else a confusing broad daylight fuck he happens to have feels for is all you will ever be to him. Demand respect. And respect yourself. Either he's goes or stays but you can't let him straddle the fence.

Posted by KsamCancer
What youre about to hear is some top secret info that I shouldnt even be giving out. Ill respond to this because I can relate and him and i have the same placements. If you guys have been talking for 2 months and things havent gone further, then hes looking for something more. You may not be fulfilling all his wishes, I dont know about him but if my desires arent fulfilled within 2-3 months ill move on. And this is being lenient some people even give it a 5 date rule. You guys have been on what like 30 dates now? If my math is correct (3 dates a week) thats alot of hanging out. Its good that you guys cuddled and did the lovey dovey stuff, I dont know what all that entails but I can assume. I can hope actually that this guy is happy after all those dam dates, I would of bailed a long time ago. But thats not that case.

Theres also a big chance that his work outweighs you right now, in short youre not worthy for his time. If he had to choose between doing work and hanging out with you, hed rather do his work. Until he finds a new girl, hed rather do his work and keep hanging out with you to a minimum.

The reason he deleted you from tinder is so that you cant see him online so he can continue to find someone better for him. Gemini venus is always seeking out perfection. Its not saying that you arent good enough, but he wants perfection. Scratch that, he wants someone who understands him without him having to blatantly say it.

Also if he denies any of this he is just being nice to you to save feelings. But in the end, you guys arent a couple. If he hasnt officially said he wants to be with you, then you cant get upset if he looks for more because you guys are just dating. You can date multiple people at once if youre not in a relationship, there is nothing wrong with that. Its called just playing the field, until you find the one, then you ask them out.

lmao 😆 i thought this was an awesome read.

I agree with Kam. In a contradicting way. Because cancers are contradicting. If by 2-3 months of consistent dating and there was no next move like a commitment then I could see a cancer stepping back and deciding what you have is non committal fun. They will assume that's what you want or that's what they want. How can I explain this. It's like Cancers are true romantics. After dating that consistently after months and they like you the next thing is a commitment. BUT here's the contradiction. If they either like you and you don't show signs of you wanting to commit or they don't like you in a romantic way and you two are past getting acquainted and are comfortable with each other and no commitment happens in tht time frame then chances are they will slow it down and see what you two have as noncommittal fun and might think it will always be like that and will be open to others because they're not committed. Their burning flame will either start to die down or just stay the same until something changes-either someone requires a commitment or one or both of you will find new lovers. Then this is the point when they start going slow and getting distant and showing interest in other people. This is where most cancer chasers on this site are in this process. You have to catch them at their peak when their the most passionate. And if their not at their peak anymore you need to figure how to get them back there with you and fast. Otherwise they will make up in their mind what is what and will put you in a certain category and that determines how much affection and openness they give you. No matter how sweet it is cancers will only honor actual commitments. And if you keep showing signs of fun only and no commitment that's what they'll give and unless you do something major to kick yourself out that category that's how it will be for a very long time.