Cancer men - when will they commit?

Hello all. Ive been talking to & going on dates with a cancer man for about 3 months or so. I am a virgo woman and have never been with a cancer and only have known one male cancer (my brother) so I am struggling with interpreting his behaviour. At the start, this man was very open, charming, and pretty much “sweeped me off my feet.” I am finding that he is a bit more distant now, emotinally, and more withdrawn. We communicate with one another quite a bit and see each other often. Recently, he has told me that he wasn’t sure if he was ready for a relationship yet as he has never been in a serious one but wants to work on us and know more about me, then see what the future holds. I was understanding but also suggested we dont continue communicating if we dont want the same things. He then drove to my house and talked to me in person, clarifying his thoughts and basically insisting that i do not to stop talking to him. I decided i was in no rush either for a relationship as we only just met recently. I just find his behaviour to be kind of all over the place & at opposite sides of the spectrum and i have trouble understanding cancer men. The things they say and do are very different & their behaviour fluxuates (one minute they are distant then the next they cling on to you). Someone help me understand.

I can cornfirm that the distant/clingy behavior is normal. When my Cancer and I first started talking he had gotten out of a long relationship so he was pretty hesitant about getting into another one but he did express that he liked me and how great we hit it off to begin with. I believe that him driving to your house wanting to communicate shows that he does like you he, like he said just isn't ready for a relationship. It's pretty much up to you whether you think it's worth it to wait for him or not because cancers do move pretty slow depending. I'd say for me it was worth it. Good luck!

I am in a really similar situation with a Cancer right now. We've known each other for over a year, but have only hung out a few times until this past month, when we've been seeing each other and sleeping together on the weekends. He has a toothbrush at my apartment.

He told me he is not ready for a relationship because he is still not over his ex completely, and asked how I felt about it. I told him I understood and I wasn't pushing him to call me his gf (he said "you are so cool, you are so understanding" and was very relieved), even though I do feel like I am committed to him in my head and I am starting to have pretty intense feelings (he is very special to me, this is the best sex of my life plus I feel like when we talk, he can really see me...).

Over the past year I was the one pushing him away and saying I wasn't ready... now it's flipped.

I have been thinking lately that sure I'm willing to wait but not forever. My Aries Venus is getting impatient and my Scorpio Mars has got my blood up about wanting movement. I want to be in love and in a relationship with him, and having to stifle my feelings and be okay with him not texting me for days at a time (or to be okay with spilling how I felt and having him reply with just an emoji) has been really difficult.

I think what yours is doing is normal. We just have to decide how long we are willing to handle it, or if we can handle it...

Posted by taurusgirl9000
I am in a really similar situation with a Cancer right now. We've known each other for over a year, but have only hung out a few times until this past month, when we've been seeing each other and sleeping together on the weekends. He has a toothbrush at my apartment.

He told me he is not ready for a relationship because he is still not over his ex completely, and asked how I felt about it. I told him I understood and I wasn't pushing him to call me his gf (he said "you are so cool, you are so understanding" and was very relieved), even though I do feel like I am committed to him in my head and I am starting to have pretty intense feelings (he is very special to me, this is the best sex of my life plus I feel like when we talk, he can really see me...).

Over the past year I was the one pushing him away and saying I wasn't ready... now it's flipped.

I have been thinking lately that sure I'm willing to wait but not forever. My Aries Venus is getting impatient and my Scorpio Mars has got my blood up about wanting movement. I want to be in love and in a relationship with him, and having to stifle my feelings and be okay with him not texting me for days at a time (or to be okay with spilling how I felt and having him reply with just an emoji) has been really difficult.

I think what yours is doing is normal. We just have to decide how long we are willing to handle it, or if we can handle it...

Yes i see how that could be tough, cancers give me a bit of a headache. I am pretty impatient as well so I don’t know how much longer i’ll be able to deal with it to be honest. My cancer is the same in the sense that he won’t text me periodically even though I know he is on social media, etc. A few red flags that i see. Good luck, I hope it works out for you.

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