Cancer-Pisces. Is this weird?

my bf(cancer) and I(pisces) are in our early 20s. We have been together for about 8 months now. We met through facebook and started liking each other at the very 1st instant and then we got in a relationship after a month. We really love each other and plan our future together.We are in a long distant relationship. Both of us are students in different countries. We have only seen each other through photos;we chat a lot everyday and we talk on phone everyday amidst our busy schedule and time difference.Never met in real but we are very strongly emotionally attached to each other.
We both are virgins and we have never been in a relationship before and are against premarital sex. We share our sexual fantasies/imaginations about each other. So basically we make love online on chat. We create a story plot,write our actions simultaneously and react based on each other's act.We pretend that we are married and we have a sweet prolonged foreplay and then make love. The thing is,we get very heavily emotionally involved.As if it happened in real.Initial months,we used to just have foreplay(on chat) but we made love(again,on chat) 3 months ago for the first time and both of us got very emotional and behaved as if we really lost our virginity.We had a real orgasm together too. We are very open and honest with our thoughts.We confess when we feel aroused.We have never exchanged obscene photos of each other or anything. Whatever we do sexually,it's all in our imagination yet it feels very sensual and real. We both are very happy in our relationship.Very committed and devoted.

However,some feel that the fact that we emotionally invest ourselves so much in our online sex is weird.Any thoughts?

Posted by KsamCancer
Lol i cant tell if this person is being serious or joking

I am sorry you feel this way. This probably explains why some of my friends find it weird

Posted by KsamCancer
Lol i cant tell if this person is being serious or joking

I felt the same way.... +100000

You like cyber sex. So what?

Posted by CluelessCancer
why would you tell your friends about this? Keep it in the closet.

I agree with you.Actually they were talking stuffs like "how can you know if you two have a chemistry or if who's good in bed" I told them it doesn't matter to us but then i very precisely told them that we do express ourselves online and they felt it's weird.

Posted by Kim31
You like cyber sex. So what?

It's not exactly the cyber sex.They feel weird about the fact that we emotionally invest ourselves so much into it and behave(genuinely) as if we really did it in person. I have read that cancer males are emotional too(especially even more during the love making) and so am I but they feel it's weird considering the fact that it's all just online on chat

It's not weird, it's your reality and it's called tantra. I'd keep it to yourself if I were you.

Posted by shellshocker
It's not weird, it's your reality and it's called tantra. I'd keep it to yourself if I were you.

yeah,I agree.I wouldn't want to but my best friend was just too excited to see me get in a proper relationship and she asked me questions related to our intimate life since people know we are long distant so had to mention a bit.

I don't think it's weird. Attraction and sex can be very much a matter of mental stimulation, as it is physical. If it wasn't, then romance novels would never sell. As for telling your friends the details, just don't. It's not their business, they don't need details, and so far they've been judgmental towards your experience. Beware their motives for needing to know. This is coming from a Cancer perspective, but maybe we're a more private and paranoid bunch. lol

I feel you. It's like you have a very loving connection that most people don't reach, like most people would think the idea of the two of you really being in love is bizarre but you actually do and it's only something that the two of you know and understand.

Thank you guys. Really appreciate the answer 🙂 He did mention once that his guy friends were interested in knowing how do we manage to get intimate.He said he punched his face when he asked him that 😛

I have never had any sort of relation with a cancerian before.This is my first and its been such a wonderful journey so far. We both are very emotional. At times he's even more emotional than me and that surprises me to an extent because I have never seen such emotional men. I love this fact about him. And we both are so sensitive.That leads to petty fights at times lol. But we don't possess much ego so we apologize usually him being the first one to. His family knows that we share a special connection so they poke him a lot. He said he loves the fact that his parents know me. I have so many guy besties and I know that they would freak out/be hesitant if they are asked to introduce their gf to their family in such short duration but he's just the opposite. I read that Caner males are family oriented peeps.However,I have also read that they are highly possessive,insecure and easily get jealous about something they love but he never revealed any such signs. There is a guy in my class who has a crush on me and he's pretty good looking and we are best friends. My bf knows about it because we share everything and he has never manifested any signs of jealousy when he asks me what am i upto and when i tell him that i am with him(the crush guy). I have never fabricated a story though.They have been genuine cases but I was bit surprised to see his "i am absolutely cool about it" reaction considering that almost all articles i have read on Cancerians it always mentions about the insecurity.So at times I wonder if he's trying his best to not reveal that side of him or if he's genuinely cool about it.When I asked him about it,he said "I am possessive about you but I don't want to be a burden".

Don't believe everything you read. First off, if he's truly mature, he'll have a good handle on his possessiveness, especially if he trusts you. Secondly, it's possible he's quietly paying attention to everything you say and do, and cataloging it for later. If he picks up on something that's a warning sign to him, you'll know about it at some point. Myself, I read people without even thinking about it, and behavior gets cataloged and analyzed. If there's a problem, I'll bring it up, and if bad behavior keeps getting repeated, I'll eventually just cut that person out of my life (I'm talking about betrayal). Most people I've dealt with have no clue what goes on below the surface with me, and most ignore or make light of my warnings when I bring stuff up. It's usually a huge surprise to them when they find themselves and their bad behavior shining in the spot light, and kicked to the curb. Apparently the nice, sweet girl is supposed to be too nice to actually notice when she's being back stabbed. So, I'd say it's possible there's a combo of both things going on with him. He's watching, and he's mature.

Posted by MoonArtist
First off, if he's truly mature, he'll have a good handle on his possessiveness, especially if he trusts you.

couldn't agree more. He's a pretty mature guy.Whenever this topic comes up,he says "I trust you and the fact that you reveal every detail makes me trust you even more.Everything is fine till the communication is honest"
I am a person who gets along better with guys generally.So I have more number of guy friends than girls. He's someone who isn't too social and he doesn't have female friends.So it's easy for such a person to not-be too trusting knowing I have so many guy friends but ,on the contrary, he's been very understanding.