Cancer's and letting go

Question:

Have any you found thats it's hard for you to let go of bad realtionships and feelings for someone....with some of my other friends,Aries etc, it sseems as though don't dwell over heartache as much as I do....If it's not hard for you, or you have figured out how to MOVE on...Can you please advise....Thank you

Hey, softy, is this your Scorpio? I'm like you...I think we Cancers are just so sentimental and sensitive...both a curse and a blessing. Wish I could help you. I think time and distance are the only things that help. No contact. Just be glad you're not in my shoes, where the guy is your neighbor and you have to see him alllll the time...and see him with a new girl...although actually, seeing him with a new girl helps, as you know it's totally over then as he's a huge jerk who moved on way too quickly and you deserve more than that. 🙂

Yes,,,I just want him out of my mind and head....Yeah that would suck seeing that, but I bet it helped you move on quick.

Poor baby!

I know what you are feeling right now even though I knew nothing of a Scorpio guy...What's up with that?

I think it is harder to get over water signs when you are a water sign because you have such a connection. Even when they are jerks...but you are a true hottie Softy, you'll get someone much better. Apparently soon!

LOL...Thank you Cancerlady...

Softy,

I am not a cancer but for what it's worth, I am going through the same thing with a scorpio. For many years. I am having the same issues about letting go. If letting go is what you really want. I wish you all the best and really hope you find the strength to do it one day.

Thank you Purrrfect...What I really want is him...But I don't like the way he treats me, so I need to let go.

hello softy.Im new here,but i feel for you.I myself am an aries and im in love with cancer myself.we met in december of 05,christmas day and was an instant hit.now let me say this.I was (and still am) crazy about this woman. but at the time i didnt want a relationship.now i said this to her from the beginning.well as you might of guessed,my feelings have grown for her immensely,but because of the hurt and fear,of my past, I continued to go the route i was going about for the past eight years.I still contiued to see other people,and was very honest about that. I continued to treat her like the princess she is,but i've learned that all of the kindness, without commitment was not to good. she said that i gave her mixed signals. that all of the nice things that i said were overshadowed,by the fact i was seeing others. i sincerely do love this woman.well by march 6 she told me from work that she can no longer see me. that she was seeing someone else. when we were together,she bdidnt appear to be upset with how things were between us.IM also learning that cancers operate this way.she did mention to me at one time that she was afraid of falling in love with me, but i must admit, im kind of naive.now im in love with this woman, who i've loved in the secound week of our being together. It is now june, and i still think of her. i want to have something serious with her. it was just outright fear on my part. shes hurt by me, and i do understand that.she said in our last conversation, that she doesnt feel the same about me like she used to, but she would be very sad if i met with an accident.you beeing a cancerian and all,is it true that you guys lose feelings fast, and transfer them on to someone else right away. do you really want to run away from him? maybe we could help eachother.

Wow... I forgot how much I love this forum... I need to come here more often for some inner strength... Softy girl I feel you... I havn't been able to really let go of my past relationship with my X-Cancer and it's starting to ruin me... And I started talking to him again and I know we can never be together but, I just won't let him go completely because I wish on a prayer that he would be the person I thought he was... I'm not one for good advice but, I can relate to how it's so hard to just let things go... I ruined a new potentially good relationship because of this and I was having trouble letting that go at first... I think all in all we just don't like to be rejected...

Yeah...I HATE rejection, it makes me feel horrible, and makes me want the person even more...It's hard being in love with someone who doesn't return the intensity or isn't ready for it. It is SOO hard for me to let go..I've been hanging on to someone for so long and things just haven't got better...I think deep down we hope that something miraculous will happen and they will be on our level or same wavelength

Yes..and if we cant have the one we love...there is no substitute

hey softy,
how r things going for u? jus addin my 3 cents -lol

i find that when i'm into someone and i want it to go somewhere my feelings get stronger and stronger every day especially if the person n i connect emotionally.

however if i know that the person is no longer interested - i look for signs of their behaviour n judge from that - i may hurt and cry for a few weeks a few months but once i feel that in my heart i need to move on then i go full force. meaning i convince myself that i need to do wuts best for me - that i can be strong. once i feel doubt bout the future of a relationship or a relationship i want i start to convince myself to moved on - it's a safety mechanism thing with me.

don't get me wrong it is hard as all hell to be strong - but because it is so easy to cry and dwell on things for us cancers i try even harder to think rather than feel when uncertainty arise. on a last note, i believe cancers have ALOT of will power and strength hidden in their depths - but our emotions keep us from connecting with that part of ourselves - i think despite what is said bout us - we have the ability to be amazingly stong.

Hey softy,

well my goodness we're going through the same thing, only opposite signs... My cancer left, I still love him with everything I have and I can't seem to shut it off either. We still talk every once and again, sometimes he checks on me, yesterday was his b-day so I wished him happy wishes. But just when I thought I was doing okay, yesterday's date brought everything back to surface.
It's hard, cause I'm the type that when I do let go, I don't look back. But for some reason, I can't let this one go- might be because I know I made a mistake. I don't know what the future holds, if it has anything to do with him and I, or not. If it does, I know I will do things different, long story short, I didn't tell him everything I needed to in order for him to understand where I was coming from - I was just moody and difficult to work with, never really told him what was truly up. If it doesn't, I know that time will eventually ease the pain, I just have to be patient, and keep my chin up. Maybe it's my idealistic side, but I've chalked it up to, if it's meant to be, then there will be no stopping it. If it isn't, then all you can do is grow from the experience.
I'm sorry you're hurting sweetheart, it really is tough. It's a curse and a blessing to have a heart. Just have faith that there are better times ahead...

Storm

Oh uhm I just noticed the date that this whole thing was posted... Oops, I feel sheepish 😛