Cancers.. How do you deal with heartbreak & loss?

Subjects of relationships and death>>>

Just wondering...Anyone have any ideas to supress emotion or uplift them?

I shut off for a while by reading, praying, working out, dog walking, cooking and making music. The entire time I'm digesting and processing the ordeal. Eventually I'll open up and talk about it. I just found out a childhood friend of mine died so this topic is kinda eery. All the same I hope I was of some help.

One of my best friends..her 1st boyfriend whom she dated for 3 years died. She has dated like a hundred guys since then...still not over it. But thats cuz she refuses to talk about it. Since cancer is emotional, i suggest...talk it out and don't bottle up emotions as that can prove fatal. I'm sure if someone close to us dies, the last thing they'd want is for us to be unable to be happy because of them. So vent out to someone close, go out, meet new people..for all we know there are people out there with similar tragedies but trying to move on with life and be happy. First step is relentlessly trying 🙂 that alone will create quite the difference! good luck 🙂 take care.

Thanks a lot. Since I initially posted on here about a guy that I liked but was so overtly being used and ran over and was still going with it (idk why, have no clue). I had to take a step back and re-evaluate what my issue was. Since reading and talking about my issue with close friends. I have come to realize that I have been out of character since my break up with my ex in Feb. Harsh lost (he had a baby with someone else - long story)... losing someone who I thought I can trust (another Cancer female), my dad passed away in August. With all these things happening, I got latched on to this guy who obviously saw his shot as I was vulnerable. When I finally realized that wow, I have not been allowing myself to get through any of these losses. I kept pushing through thinking that I must be happy and fighting the feeling of being sad. Ironically, as stupid and open as I was with this guy, I got my light bulb and realized it was never about him. Hell I am still grieving, I need that emotional support. It was crazy when I realized wow, I am not 25 and am without parents (mom passed at 14). I am taking on a lot with sch and now I am at this point...a mini depression.

Thecontender>> I do the same things, the exact same things lol I obsess over my thoughts or get stuck on what happened though and that is where this alone idle time is not a friend to me. Still haven't quite talked about my dad. I guess those emotions will surface soon. I just need a place of peace mentally because I feel so deeply. Even the jackass that I left alone some fews weeks ago still had affect because I never put up with fakeness like that. No one has ever done me like that (I know I took part in it too) but the disappointment in myself like WOW, what in the hell was that.

AM92>> Thanks for those words. I do hold a lot in. I don't want to show emotion because I am afraid of looking weak but it eats at me. I try to be a friend and family member at best and not burden people with my issues. Maybe I need to express more and get it all out and just deal with what I truely feel for a couple of weeks and MOVE THE EFF ON!!

Cancer Sun- Virgo Moon , I have been practicing logic over emotion and this has helped me have some tough skin in several situations...

You are amazing 🙂 being able to put on a brave front to not worry others. I understand that you want to be more logical than emotional here. I am a virgo sun/Aqua moon...so i get that. But hon, we are humans and we cant hide emotions for too long. We need to pour em out. Talk to someone who's seen u in good times and bad...like close friends, relative, or a mentor. Certainly don't give a damn about the guy who missed out on you! His loss! And he's not even worth feeling bad about... u deserve way better. And don't blame yourself. Anybody else in your shoes wouldn't have done so well. I can understand your stressed and upset... so why not take a vacation? you deserve it. go to some peaceful place where u can do some soul searching and you will find peace to understand your emotions and let them out. remember, crying or breaking down is never a sign of weakness. Its just a reminder that you're a beautiful human being. and like all human beings u have emotions. Its never a bad thing to show it. And about the guy.. karma's a bitch. it will get back at him so bad you wouldn't even want to know 🙂 So cheer up, flush him out, and focus on the most important person now....yourself!
Take care and god bless!

O wow!! You two are actually helping! This is infact talking about it a little bit.

@caesarkreshen>> I read this as well. Right down everything that has hurt me in my life on a pc of paper on the left side and on the right side everything that I learned from it or how I know better now (heartbreak). As far as death, wow... I have learned so much from my mother even with her gone. She is a great inspiration to me. My father on the other hand, was a Cancer. I realized after he passed. Never had a relationship that I would like. Very distant and blacksheep type relationship... so many unanswered questions that I am left with. It hurts so bad but you know what? He has taught me so many things that I can't just opt to go bad on him and what we didn't have. I will take your course of action and look at the positives.

@AM92>> Aw you are so sweet. I see now that I must talk about it because holding all this in is surfacing in the wrong areas and at the wrong times on the wrong people.lol I will cheer up and get out the house. Consider that guy in the process of being flushed and he really did miss out. I am a true believe in karma so I have no doubt about him getting his. The realization of him knowing and still not being upfront is mindblowing. As a compassionate person, I can not imagine treating anyone like that but people aren't mindful outside of themselves and I am aware of this. But karma takes notes much better than us all!!

This has helped a little bit...