Cancers I need advice, is it normal?

So it's been a while but so my cancer guy

Well a couple weeks back like I said how he was acting different and not texting or making time to see me so I confronted him

And he told me that he didn't see me that way or felt the spark so of course it hurt but eventually I moved on and dated this other guy (Virgo)

Then he dated this guy and it hurt but me being a Scorpio I moved on,.. Then he told me "the guy and I ended up wanting to be friends only" and at this time i was talking to this new guy already so I was like "hope for the best, You will find someone" etc.


But now the cancer guy recently coming back saying he didn't mean what he said that he takes it back and wants me to take him back and that he was scared of his feelings and commitment but wants me to take him back and he's come to realization and doesn't wanna lose me.

And now he's coming off stronger and clinger then before and saying he's mine forever talk and family and kids and wedding talk like really strong

It's hard for me to believe his words now and I wanna know why is he all of sudden coming back? Is it because I'm with someone new or he actually did like me but was scared? I wanna believe him but he already made me put my guard up.

Posted by thinktoomuch
Oh I´m looking forward to comments, ´cause this is basically what all the females coming here complaining about "their" cancer is wishing for!!!! Sometimes that even goes for me.

I am a scorpio too, and I can really relate to you now being suspicious of everything..

Take things slow maybe, really slow.

Lol what do you mean?

Posted by Impulsv
He tried the field n it didn't turn out so good for him n now that he sees things went well for u he wants that.

So is that bad or good? Like is he coming back cause it's safe?
I didn't wanna be his second choice type

Do you want this Cancer guy or are you just confused by his behavior?
What do you want from him, what's the end game?

He's either a wack job, like most of you guys are these days.

Or the fact that you moved on and became aloof towards him gave him the stimulation and spark he needed to pursue you.
He's looking for something.

Many Cardinal signs are GREAT starters but we are poor finishers, we even have a tough time maintaining the stamina in between.
This is where you as a Fixed come in.

Don't take over, just maintain and guide it forward.
My advice is to maintain an aloof persona showing little interest.
Let him think he is winning you over.

Keep dating the Virgo.

How is your relationship with the Virgo btw?

Posted by LunarMaiden
Do you want this Cancer guy or are you just confused by his behavior?
What do you want from him, what's the end game?

He's either a wack job, like most of you guys are these days.

Or the fact that you moved on and became aloof towards him gave him the stimulation and spark he needed to pursue you.
He's looking for something.

Many Cardinal signs are GREAT starters but we are poor finishers, we even have a tough time maintaining the stamina in between.
This is where you as a Fixed come in.

Don't take over, just maintain and guide it forward.
My advice is to maintain an aloof persona showing little interest.
Let him think he is winning you over.

Keep dating the Virgo.

How is your relationship with the Virgo btw?

What do you mean by maintaining it? Can u explain? And he should
My fix self keep it going?

And I wanted him, I wanna be with him and I want long term
But now scared and with this Virgo guy it's amazing like so good!!! We get along so well and I'm conflicted now too cause I still care about my cancer


So don't fall hard like last time before?
I have been playing less interest because I'm scared so when he says something cute I brush it off. He doesn't want me to keep dating the Virgo but I said I was still going to and he's like you're right I don't deserve to tell u what to do right now im just glad you're giving me a second chance!?

Posted by Impulsv
Truth is if he returns will he bore again n forget n think the grass is greener elsewhere?

How can one know that he is in for the right reasons not because ego cants stand u moved on or have it better than him. Time n action from his part I say. I would t return unless he showed me n not for weeks or months but for awhile. I'd take things slow

Exactly I don't wanna let my guard down and I told him he's going to have to prove it and he said he would and I'm like we will see:

But yeah that's why like who knows if he will do again? It's scary

Scorp - he has you exactly where he wanted you to be. Irrespective of sign you are happier with your newer guy. The cancer guy only came back because he knows how good he has it with you and soon he will be playing this game all over again! The virgo guy has done you no harm and thats what you need - someone considerate and caring.
Think this over and make your own choice!