I love Cancers, but I DO NOT UNDERSTAND

So my cancer male friend (just a friend) mentioned that it has been 3 months since he spoke to his dad. I asked why and basically his dad did not behave towards a family member the way the cancer thought he should. They talked about it and dad told him "I did what I did and that's it". Cancer said okay and dad thought it was dropped. NOPE!! Dad has been reaching out and Cancer has been ignoring. Saying he would get around to him....eventually.

I attempted to use some logic to explain that when they do speak his dad will be upset with him and that he would probably get upset with his dad because his dad is mad at him. He didn't get it. Why do some of you start stuff and then get mad because people are upset with you— It is maddening I swear. And no matter how nicely I try to put it....like talking to a wall. Anyway....just a cancer male vent for today 🙂.

Cancers logic works in mysterious ways, my friend...
They'll be upset at people but won't let said-people amend their "mistakes", haha. They're like Scorpios except Scorpios freeze people out completely and Cancers just keep them around.

Yes they're minds do work in mysterious ways. My cancer guy stopped talking to his father 8years ago because the father expected him to wake up early for the family business and work regular hours. And he wanted to make his own schedule working whenever he felt like it. :p figure that one out!

I havent spoken to my dad in 10 years, what of it?

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So my cancer male friend (just a friend) mentioned that it has been 3 months since he spoke to his dad. I asked why and basically his dad did not behave towards a family member the way the cancer thought he should. They talked about it and dad told him "I did what I did and that's it". Cancer said okay and dad thought it was dropped. NOPE!! Dad has been reaching out and Cancer has been ignoring. Saying he would get around to him....eventually.

I attempted to use some logic to explain that when they do speak his dad will be upset with him and that he would probably get upset with his dad because his dad is mad at him. He didn't get it. Why do some of you start stuff and then get mad because people are upset with you— It is maddening I swear. And no matter how nicely I try to put it....like talking to a wall. Anyway....just a cancer male vent for today 🙂.

That bolded part leaves for a lot of interpretation.
Did his dad savage that family member? Treat them badly? Play favorites, etc.?

If ot is one of the above, and the dad was unapologetic, and the recipient didn't have it coming, I could see how a Crab would decide not to communicate

The "okay" in that case would be translated as " fine, if thats the way you're going to be, screw you"

That bolded part leaves for a lot of interpretation.
Did his dad savage that family member? Treat them badly? Play favorites, etc.?

If ot is one of the above, and the dad was unapologetic, and the recipient didn't have it coming, I could see how a Crab would decide not to communicate

The "okay" in that case would be translated as " fine, if thats the way you're going to be, screw you"

Dad did not agree with another family member's actions and basically stopped talking to the family member. The crab is close to the family member and was mad that Dad stopped talking to him and then stopped talking to the dad on the family member's behalf. He is basically doing what irritated him about his dad! When I tried to point this out I was in the wrong lol. Oh well. They are speaking again now. The crab decided to pick up the phone. He got cursed out by Dad and now they are good 🙂.

I'm with the cancer friend. His Dad sounds like a dick. Is he a bigot too? He'll talk to him eventually. Hard to tolerate asshole'itis. Gotta deal in stages.