Cancer's persistence

Are we that persistent? I know i am ,i think that is where the so called clinginess comes from, the persistence. But i can attest to the fact that when we try to hold on to someone we love but lately,i kinda enjoy being out and about and Not contacting the loved one,makes em wonder.

Yes Cancers are persistent. If they have to they will let their limbs disintegrate rather than having letting go. I find that determination to make it work very sexy.

I don't see the persistence thing. My boyfriend is Cancer and I'm a leo. there's weeks where he gives me plenty of attention and others (like this week) where i'm starving for it. i don't understand and it makes me feel like he doesn't care for me at all. I have dated cancers in the past who have been disgustingly clingy, but this guy has been just perfect except for when he withdrawls every now and then.

the problem is that i take it so personally (like i am now) and i worry that he doesn't want to be with me, or have feelings for me. i mean, if you love someone, why would you not show it?

Hmmm.Okay i will tell you when the persistent thing comes in .You see when you decide to see someone else,even on a friendly basis and it seems like he gonna lose u,ooooh yes u will see the Persistence come up. And they say when you are distant it makes the heart grow fonder and yearn for more. And we can be lacking emotion at times, he just wanna make sure babes,that u are deep with him.

so do you think the best thing for me to do is be distant? it's so hard for me because i just want to lavish him with everything i've got. is there a way i can show him how deep my feelings are?

Distance is necessary when u think the person needs a breathing space. and soemtimes one needs it even form the one we love hte most. Cancers can get distant due to soem preoccupations. Next time when he comes around sit him down and talk to him Tell hm that you respect his need for space, but you would be very gald if he let's you know when he needs his time away form you.

Now keeping dsitance as a strategy may or may not work with a cancer.

When in a relationship I definately cling/love all the more if my significant other becomes distant with me. I never show my clinging/love though (well, I don't think I do anyway):S.

"seems like he gonna lose u,ooooh yes u will see the Persistence come up. And they say when you are distant it makes the heart grow fonder and yearn for more"

-- Lol yes that's true! I do it when I'm mad that he hasn't been giving me enough attention... gets too comfortable, that crab hee hee Then he starts calling a lot, texting, saying, doing nice things and so forth.

He gets too comfortable because I'm very jelous and want to know what he's up to... I have a pet peeve, I HATE and I mean HATTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTEEEEEEEE to not have my phone calls answered! Rage rage rage rage... I can't breathe!

Ok but we'll leave that between you and me 🙂 I don't tell him that and won't admit to it lol I get it, he could be doing something, but how hard could it be to call back in twenty minutes? I call twice and if I don't get a call back in an hour I will call and call and call and call and call and call and call and call... I put my finger on that redial button and just keep pressing it and he gets mad at me.
It has happened a total of two times and the other day he said that he gets mad and thinks I'm trying to check up on him and he's not a baby and the more I call the more it makes him not want to answer... but the thing I appreciated the most was that he said that out of so many reasons for not answering the phone maybe he just didn't feel like talking to me. He could of spoken up before instead of having me paranoid! Anywayyyyy so I had an episode the other day and he didn't pick up so I was very mad but after much pacing around and getting rid of my murder thoughts I got caught up doing something and by the next day had forgotten about it. He seemed a bit irritated at me but didn't say anything and as much as I wanted to argue about it because the anger came back I didn't. Instead everything was nice for a few days.
After that I acted distant and disinterested so he asked me if I was mad, said no. Made excuses to not go out with him after that and finally didn't answer my phone for a whole day or answered texts... ah ha ha ha taste of your own medicine! He called and texted early in the morning which he only does when he's worried but I didn't answer until I got off work and I acted cheery and happy but still made excuse to not see him. I also suspect he kept calling me 'private' cuz I know he can be as paranoid as me hee hee background sounded like it does when he calls outside his house. Then he was sweet, said he missed me, answered his phone quickly and without delay 🙂 Freaken crab is a real smartass... old dog, what can you do? lol Is that really by signs though... I mean men in general kissing butt when they've been naughty and know that a certain something bothers the lady but they still did it?

It'd be wise to not play any type of game with a water sign,just a suggestion,it may backfire😉

Man I hate phones.. too impersonal. The thing that I hate the most is when i'm talking to someone and their phone rings.. might as well just walk away right there.

Right said Tiamat. Any type of game with a water sign, specially the negative psychology, will backfire, big time.

Oh it's not a game... I always end up being straightforward in the end 🙂 Just last night I finally said 'What you do last friday?' and he told me what he'd done morning to evening (see! I knew that he knew that I mas bothered lol) otherwise he woulda given me the 'oh shit...' he had called me back but I was doing something and then didn't wanna call back. We didn't argue about it, we have the tendency to talk about stuff and pretend we're not mad but curious instead and then things tense and he finally said 'and why didn't you answer on tuesday? what were you doing?' la la la I had been busy... just not as busy as I said I was lol Then I had to go right away 😛

It is so funny how we do the exact same things sometimes. I rarely ever take anything personal but this one time I had and I left and for bla and bla reasons he thought that I might be going out with a guy. He text me 'thanx for the food, miss u already' and I replied with ( 🙂 ? private) so he called and was like 'where are you going? i know you're meeting someone' And on another occasion it was the opposite (I knew he was kinda mad) so I started texting stuff like 'wanna see u baby' 'i miss you' 'thinking of you' and finally I was like 'where u at fukker?!' and immediately I thought 'oops' so I called and was like 'ummm sorry bout that last text there lol rock music i tell you' it was true! music can have such weird influences on you lol He just said I was crazy and laughed.

"Any type of game with a water sign, specially the negative psychology, will backfire, big time."

I notice the pisces in particular can be big on mind games, especially blackmail, manipulation, trying to make you feel bad about stuff.
Backfire ey? How would that work? Edumacate me here 🙂 Eh I already left it clear that I can compromise but I can't change certain things and he can do what he wants with that. I said that if he gets mad because I check up on him once in a while then that gives me something to think about and that he could do whatever it is that he wanted, I'm not tied to him and I wasn't gonna force him to be with me if he got tired of it. I'm not demanding and yes I can be a little jelous and possessive but, well... that's moi.

Anyway, disappearing a couple of days is meant to cool me off more than anything cuz I don't want to seem crazy for not letting something dumb go... but ummm I guess my noggin doesn't work that way and it's better to just come out and say it. Plus, space is good and that way he doesn't think that I want to be with him 24/7. BTW when I do something like that I go in with the idea that it's already over... it's a matter of winning me back or I've walked for good, that's all.

Eww so much drama... anywho we've got a hot date for tonight! lol

Oh I didn't even read your post TC,too long and had a headache at the time,was refering to sunniegrrl asking how she should act and what she should do around him.In my opinion it'd be better for her to just be direct and ask him whats going on if shes really,really concerned about it.Otherwise just trust him especially since its happened before with nothing too bad to come of it.

How it'd back fire at least for my scorp self would be I'd prefer my baby to just ask instead of acting distant or other little fronts if they're not serious in doing those things.1 it says they can't be an adult and confront me about problems and 2 it says they're not too serious about "us" if they would rather risk ending it by acting like an ass over working it out in the first place.The cancers here can give thier reasons if they were in the situation,its usually always the "reading between the lines" stuff popping up🙂