Crab guys, why the hot and cold?

Cancer men seem to be famous for sending women on an emotional rollercoaster ride with this behavior.
Some people say when they demonstrate this behavior it's because they aren't really interested or are playing games and you should ruuuuuuun! Others say this behavior is indicative of his dealing with something or he's testing you to see if you're "the one."
All I know is I'm a Cancer, and I never do this. I don't understand it at all.
Thoughts/opinions/criticisms/stories of dealing with this BS as well?

No I do it too but it's normally because I'm not at ease with you..like something you either did or said is weighing on my subconscious mind.I put you through it because I just want to see how you'll handle things and if you'll stay...and also about not being sure if you're the one.

Posted by M00Nchild
Cancer men seem to be famous for sending women on an emotional rollercoaster ride with this behavior.
Some people say when they demonstrate this behavior it's because they aren't really interested or are playing games and you should ruuuuuuun! Others say this behavior is indicative of his dealing with something or he's testing you to see if you're "the one."
All I know is I'm a Cancer, and I never do this. I don't understand it at all.
Thoughts/opinions/criticisms/stories of dealing with this BS as well?

I never do this either, and don't do it either. I cannot not talk to my SO for longer than a day at a time. I need my communication

i am 22 june cancer cusp
if i did hot and cold its not like i want to do
but its more like response i get from the other person

like when i feel really close to someone, but then the other person not showing closeness as much as i do, such this might make me turn cold, this not because i want to
but i think its more cancer natural things (subconscious mind.), which i think most cancer person have defensive state to not let themselves get hurt

for me if i clearly seeing your feeling (cloneness) then there no reason to be hot and cold

so we can simply say : hot&cold = feeling that unsure about the other person

but if u talking about hot and cold after being with me long time ...
well i think its all about private-alone-time, and i think not only cancer that this alone time time

^same boat. Wits end..

Posted by Cheeseburger

Posted by YourFavoriteDXPMember
Yeah, the camp 2 cancers are notorious for bad communication skills.

Keep clear of them, and find a camp 1 Cancer instead!!

There is no such thing as a Camp 1 or 2, for the Nth time. There are Cancer Women & Cancer Men, who deal with things differently. There are good people and bad people, who deal with things differently. There are smart people and dumb people, who deal with things differently.

I've known so many cancer women and cancer men in my life and the only common factors between all of them are that they are born under the sun sign of cancer, all of them are emotionally intelligent and very sensitive and all are extremely unpredictable.

Better communication wont make them more predictable, because we are more unpredictable than any of you people know.

click to expand

Standing ovations!!!!!!! well said!!

Posted by Arielle83
If a cancer isn't sure about you or doesn't trust you, they won't be 100% there for you. Life's too short to waste our busy lives on ppl we don't really care about.

That's the one thing I hate about cancers they will never say this to a persons face.

If you ask me being hot then cold is a sign of cowardness. And the only type of men who do this are they ones who are not sure of themselves.

Cancer guys , make hot and cold, when they don't know if they want to be with you and have another people in their life and are in hold on for them.."Hot and cold" it is a sign of indecisiveness not love. Think ladies and don't waste your time just because you are stobborn and want to demonstrate that you win the heart of a cancer man.
I have friend cancer man , and believe me when they are sure that they like you, love you and want you , ohh boy you see that ..

Arielle83, though I agree with you, that doesn't apply to my situation. I've been honest, faithful, I've communicated when I was unhappy, and I've shown him the respect he deserves. I have not received the same treatment.
I agree that the "hot & cold" treatment I'm receiving may be the result of my holding back from him lately. I didn't at first because I believed him when he said going back to his ex was a mistake and he wants to be with me. I have him my all, and he reciprocated. But lately I've been questioning how serious he is about being with me and once again feeling like he's playing a game. He proved himself to be untrustworthy in the past, and although I believe people can learn from their mistakes therefore deserve a second chance, seeing much of the same behavior as before has caused me to feel like I need to protect myself. It's clear what I need to do is stop holding back and openly communicate with him about everything.

Posted by Cheeseburger
... There is no such thing as a Camp 1 or 2, for the Nth time. There are Cancer Women & Cancer Men, who deal with things differently. There are good people and bad people, who deal with things differently. There are smart people and dumb people, who deal with things differently.
...

I have a theory that says the good ones are the bad ones in other scenarios.

The special case of my theory is this:
someone's trash is someone else's treasure.

That's the biggest issue I had with this cancer guy I was talking to. He would beat around the bush bad. I would ask a straight forward question and would never get a straight forward answer. Ain't nobody got time for that lol. However, you cancer men are so darn addicting.:/