Cancer Men... What did I do?

This forum has been a lot of help just reading the posts, but I need some advice here too, please.

Crab and I talked for two months before our first date. Very sporadic, because of him. I'm a Pisces woman and I like nothing more than getting to know someone and talking every day, etc. But I realized he's not like that. The longest we went without talking was 10 days when I was getting a little bored and he popped up and everything started all over again. I initiated a LOT.

We finally were able to make time to meet (long distance and crazy careers) and it was like out of a movie. We kissed basically all night and went to a bunch of different places, he said he couldn't stop thinking about me, and sometime he needed to walk away for a few days to get his bearings. (HELLO. Total Cancer). I was in heaven; talked all night and we couldn't keep our hands off of each other; it was so amazing and passionate and way more than either of us expected. I kept it PG because - well, I just had to. It was too intense.

Now he's traveling for work. I contacted him the next three days after and every day he was chatty and way more relaxed (even in msg) than any of our convos. So I got a little frisky on that third night, and he was out with friends, and drunk and very cute. So I asked for his number and called and he was sweet and flirty. I told him to have fun and call me whatever time he got in.

He never called. Or messaged. Five days later, he left for a work trip halfway across the country. I msged him the day before to wish him a safe trip. No reply. It's been eight days, I haven't heard from him at all, and I don't know what to do.

Did I overstep somewhere? Is he in his Crab cave, sorting it out? Do I reach out or wait?? He's done it before - once early on we both confessed feelings, and that was when he disappeared for those ten days, but now... I feel this much stronger connection but I really don't know WHAT he feels. I can be patient but I'm starting to feel like maybe he's over me.

Not sure if I was played or he just needs to process. HELP ME, YOU SEXY CRABS!

Have you ever considered that he might be romancing someone else?
Hard to think about and accept wheb you're totally head over heels for someone but it's definitely something to think about.

Maybe your careers make it too difficult and he's honestly not in a place to look for something serious.

"We were finally able to make time to meet"

"Now he's traveling for work"

He might have had a real connection but might be having second thoughts as to whether he time for a serious and distracting relationship.

Not gonna lie, but its really sexi when a guy has GOALS. Dont fly off the handle and be insecure, it was only a few dates and from what I read you didn't put out. So just keep yourself busy, as of now treat him like an option your interested in.

I have a Pisces friend and she is always anxious about her relationship lol!

Yes. I know that he's been talking with someone on and off for a few weeks. I didn't bring it up.

I had my tarot cards read and she told me (without me telling her anything about my situation) that he's a little freaked out and to give him time. She sees us having an intense relationship. I've seen this woman before and her readings have been 90% right the three times she's read for me. She was right about things that happened on our date that she predicted that I thought there was no way could happen.

The thing is this: I am an emotional person, and this is upsetting me. I feel like I'm being deceptive by NOT telling him how I feel. I'm waiting because I keep reading that this is what I should be doing with a Cancer, but I don't want to wait. Half the things I read say Cancers are insecure and need you to reach out, and the other half say do nothing and let him come to you. So that's VERY contradictory!!

I must be just reading too much into the tarot.

Thank you CapricornLaurie! 🙂

I'm told Pisces woman and Cancer man make a great pair but maybe just in bed!! lol

I think Cancer Men enjoy the chase and if they are interested they will do everything! You need to do very little.

On the other hand when it comes to their deep emotions, you'll need to coax it out of them and express your feelings first. I think its a little too early for that you just started dating.

I think it would be a mistake to become too demanding with your emotions. I think there's a sort of power in controling your emotion and not allow things to get too serious too quick. Pull back and mirror him a little if your not getting the kind of response you want yet and see what he does.

^good advice

I'm mirroring him. I haven't contacted him and it's going to be ten days tomorrow.

CapricornLaurie - You made a lot of sense and as a typical Pisces I was all in my head worrying that I had said or done something wrong when the truth is, he's working long hours in a new city, and plus he told me that night, sometimes he needs to distance himself from me because he can't stop thinking about me.

So I'm going to give myself a positive boost and say that our connection was very intense that night and he may just need to breathe and concentrate on work.

Time will tell.