deep signs

hey people.. i am sure many of you people know me. if not then stil it is ok.
hmm OK so my query is that my cancer know i love him. i broke up for him ( 2 mnths passed)
he ignored...

i thought of leaving him as he made no move ( i am Aquarius)
shit happened... as he got hell angry but now he is OK. don't tell me i did wrong because i am a human also.

now .. i don't text him the whole week as i know he is busy. and most probably he will ignore my texts..

yesterday he text's back "are u alive?"

i respond.. and after that no reply.
i called.. he talked.. but after that again 24 hrs later no reply..

if he likes me, why he don't text me or talk me or anytihng. .. and if he don't like me, why he contact me after 3 or 4 days?
i mean he know i have feelings for him. can't he leave me if he don't want anything?

you slept with someone else.

He got hurt

He wont get over it

But he is still hurt

He is still attached

He wants to reconnect, but every fibre in his body is telling him its a bad idea

he will reattach, build bridges with you

then he will dettach, and burn them bridges

and repeat

till you wise up to it

and stop this process

and then when he feels that you're going away, he will seem like he is committed to your happiness

it will be temporary

he will build bridges

and burn them

this whole process will take months, possibly years

you will gain heartache and lose years of your life.

the only way forward, is tell him that you're sorry that he is hurt, but you need to move on

and you need to move on

you have been warned.

Yeah he is going to hurt you like real bad. I suggest you apologize to him and run away as far as you can.

Hi Honeybees, just read your post and I know exactly how u feel besides I havent done anything wrong that hurt this cancer man's feeling...he came in so strong and got me head over heels. Then all of the sudden he just like a stranger of my life, not texting no sign of him. But then every now and then he will text me to share his daily life with me and tell me what he's upto etc. But when i replied, then it'll be no sign of him for hours or even days again. He knows how I feel about him and he WAS the one telling me need to take the time to get to know each other. But how do I do that without proper communication?

Lately he's been in touch again and I was planned to go visit him (he's on business trip)...like yesterday when i woke up, i got few massages from him out of the blue asking me how am i doing and said 'its been a while...'. I have second thought about going to see him as I dont know if he still feel the same way? I still have very strong feeling towards him and one side of me saying MOVE ON the other side screaming GO GET HIM GIRL! My gut feeling is telling me its another woman in the picture...BUT then why is he coming back to test the water? Why cant he just let me go? I'm sure I have done nothing wrong that upset him at all. I just dont know...

Sorry didnt mean to barge in and steal your post but after reading yours just wanna let you know you definitely not alone.

Posted by BommyKnocker
you slept with someone else.

He got hurt

He wont get over it

But he is still hurt

He is still attached

He wants to reconnect, but every fibre in his body is telling him its a bad idea

he will reattach, build bridges with you

then he will dettach, and burn them bridges

and repeat

till you wise up to it

and stop this process

and then when he feels that you're going away, he will seem like he is committed to your happiness

it will be temporary

he will build bridges

and burn them

this whole process will take months, possibly years

you will gain heartache and lose years of your life.

the only way forward, is tell him that you're sorry that he is hurt, but you need to move on

and you need to move on

you have been warned.

i didn't slept with anyone. :S i broke up with my ex for my cancer guy. when he stopped responding, i warned him that he is making me fragile and letting me talk to other bunch of idiots...

Posted by chinkywinky
Hi Honeybees, just read your post and I know exactly how u feel besides I havent done anything wrong that hurt this cancer man's feeling...he came in so strong and got me head over heels. Then all of the sudden he just like a stranger of my life, not texting no sign of him. But then every now and then he will text me to share his daily life with me and tell me what he's upto etc. But when i replied, then it'll be no sign of him for hours or even days again. He knows how I feel about him and he WAS the one telling me need to take the time to get to know each other. But how do I do that without proper communication?

Lately he's been in touch again and I was planned to go visit him (he's on business trip)...like yesterday when i woke up, i got few massages from him out of the blue asking me how am i doing and said 'its been a while...'. I have second thought about going to see him as I dont know if he still feel the same way? I still have very strong feeling towards him and one side of me saying MOVE ON the other side screaming GO GET HIM GIRL! My gut feeling is telling me its another woman in the picture...BUT then why is he coming back to test the water? Why cant he just let me go? I'm sure I have done nothing wrong that upset him at all. I just dont know...

Sorry didnt mean to barge in and steal your post but after reading yours just wanna let you know you definitely not alone.

its ok.. your and mine story is alot same. i wonder if u are also aquarius or not lol. update is that he contacted. and well he sounded ok. i have three bullshi*t exams this week and he is controling my brain, entirely. 😢

from another thread"

Posted by BommyKnocker
Dating the cancer man:


Never ever give him a reason to be jealous. You can kiss the entire relationship goodbye then and there.

I still think you're better off moving on. It will require a phenomenal effort to save the relationship with this person.

Posted by BommyKnocker
from another thread"

Posted by BommyKnocker
Dating the cancer man:


Never ever give him a reason to be jealous. You can kiss the entire relationship goodbye then and there.

I still think you're better off moving on. It will require a phenomenal effort to save the relationship with this person.

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probubly you are right but.. giving up on a cancer is hardest of all. as he gave hope and now he is the one distant. hmm i don't think i will ever be able to fall for another guy after him. coz i am hack of sure i wont get anyone better then him. 🙂 thanks anywayz

Posted by BommyKnocker
from another thread"

Posted by BommyKnocker
Dating the cancer man:


Never ever give him a reason to be jealous. You can kiss the entire relationship goodbye then and there.

I still think you're better off moving on. It will require a phenomenal effort to save the relationship with this person.

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btw.. we never were in relation or *friend with benefits* .. just normal friend or many be more of best friends, i don't know. i fall in love with him , without desiring.. and did stupid mistake of telling him

I don't know if you did something stupid by telling him. You need to know where you stand in this relationship because if you fall for him and he is not falling for you it is bad. This is not a cancer guy thing - it happend to me with a Virgo guy a few weeks ago when I told him that I have feelings for him he started acting like your guy. He didn't say anything but he started acting cold and disinterested, even sometimes ignoring me like it is my fault that I have feelings and I want to know what he wants from our relationship because if he doesn't feel anything I will move on.
I you feel like this cancer guy is not acting like a normal people would act - run because he will not change for you. I am a cancer and if I don't feel nothing for a guy I will stay with him until a better thing comes in my way. If I am feeling somenthing he will know from because I am not afraid of telling.

Posted by Areya1307
I don't know if you did something stupid by telling him. You need to know where you stand in this relationship because if you fall for him and he is not falling for you it is bad. This is not a cancer guy thing - it happend to me with a Virgo guy a few weeks ago when I told him that I have feelings for him he started acting like your guy. He didn't say anything but he started acting cold and disinterested, even sometimes ignoring me like it is my fault that I have feelings and I want to know what he wants from our relationship because if he doesn't feel anything I will move on.
I you feel like this cancer guy is not acting like a normal people would act - run because he will not change for you. I am a cancer and if I don't feel nothing for a guy I will stay with him until a better thing comes in my way. If I am feeling somenthing he will know from because I am not afraid of telling.

hey i am sorry to hear about your virgo guy. my cancer guy told me that he is want *go with the flow* concept.. so may be i understand his insecurities.