Do Cancer Men ever changed their minds?

Hello everyone,
I have been reading all the posts on here hoping to find some answers.

My sole experience with cancer man is;
I recently started talking to a cancer man online, I am scorpio woman.

We communicated everyday either by phone, text or skype, things were going really well between us, so after 1 month, we decided to meet.

When we met for the first time we got along really well, there was a chemistry, I felt so comfortable with him and I didn'nt want the evening to end.

The next day we met for lunch, we felt comfortable and at ease with each other and talked as though we had known each other for years. We talked about trying for a long term relationship, and he asked me to move to his home town 400 miles away. I thought this was way too soon, but I was happy that we felt the same way about each other. He's also a very good kisser. I went home with my head in cloud 9. I felt so positive about us. Take it slow, and who knows, it just might all work out.

Then I didn't hear from him for 3 days, nothing at all. I wondered what had happened. When he did finally contact me (via email - what a coward) he told me that I am a beautiful woman, enchanting, full of humour, wondering, exceptional kisser, but that he has a problem with my bodysize (apparently I am too overweight for his tastes). I couldn't believe it. I was devastated, hurt.

I am on a diet and working on it and have been for a while anyway, these things take time, but I know I will get there, and I am doing it for me not for him. So this insult from him was like 'kicking me while I am down'.

Since then he has text me a few times, asking me stupid questions like, 'am I angry/upset with him'. Of course i am, and I have told him so and why.

I go through extreme feelings of hating him tremendously and then wanting to be with him. (I have thoughts like; he is a shallow piece of cud, a low life and he is better out of my life). I am hurt and confused. I am just wondering, once a cancer man makes a decision, do they stick with it forever, or are they known to change their minds? Can anyone offer advice on this? thanks.

Cancer men give their heart easily... But it takes much time for them to assure that u r the one.. when they do so, even the mood shifts can't be between u n him... But a cancer men is prone to stick on to one even when he likes many(true)....... One good thing abt cancer is that " he always speak the truth, he thinks its easy that way"...... I am sure they r undeniable since they master every single move towards u, they craft even a single mail word by word to make it look pleasant...... When its a move of a cancer.. It will be a checkmate... I can be sure coz i am one too... if u want him, u better wait..... cancerians r so precious... they can hurt any one easily but they cannot bear a single word... that's another reason, they speak truth...

All cancers are usually able to change their minds. They are emotional and their emotions play on their mind and decisions. He likes you but is just being honest. If you lose weight, he will do just as he said and be with you as long as no one else has come along. You not responding to him will make him chase you, but not necessarily want you. Forgive him. Be friends until your weight is down. (Know he may not be th best marriage material if he is willing to leave you over weight.)

Posted by suresh0807
Cancer men give their heart easily... But it takes much time for them to assure that u r the one.. when they do so, even the mood shifts can't be between u n him... But a cancer men is prone to stick on to one even when he likes many(true)....... One good thing abt cancer is that " he always speak the truth, he thinks its easy that way"...... I am sure they r undeniable since they master every single move towards u, they craft even a single mail word by word to make it look pleasant...... When its a move of a cancer.. It will be a checkmate... I can be sure coz i am one too... if u want him, u better wait..... cancerians r so precious... they can hurt any one easily but they cannot bear a single word... that's another reason, they speak truth...

suresh0807, thanks for your message.
I get it about speaking the truth, but why be so cruel about it? that is what i don't understand.
How can a person be so caring and considerate on one hand, and then the next be so cruel?!
Was that his 'checkmate' i.e., him being cruel, was his way of encouraging me to loose weight??!! Jeez!

Posted by cancerlovestaurus
All cancers are usually able to change their minds. They are emotional and their emotions play on their mind and decisions. He likes you but is just being honest. If you lose weight, he will do just as he said and be with you as long as no one else has come along. You not responding to him will make him chase you, but not necessarily want you. Forgive him. Be friends until your weight is down. (Know he may not be th best marriage material if he is willing to leave you over weight.)

Hello cancerloverstaurus,
thanks for your message. As I mentioned earlier, the honesty I can take, but the cruel way in which it was done is a totally different matter. I did not have cancer man pegged as being cruel, but there you go. Its proof this cancer man is really shallow too - don't think I will be sticking around for a guy who can be cruel and mega shallow to boot.
I'm wondering, If I ignore him long enough, will he finally get the message and leave me alone?

Ignoring does not work for many Cancers. It may have the opposite effect if he likes. Just tell him you are not interested...unless you want revenge.

Posted by addictedtochoc

Posted by suresh0807
Cancer men give their heart easily... But it takes much time for them to assure that u r the one.. when they do so, even the mood shifts can't be between u n him... But a cancer men is prone to stick on to one even when he likes many(true)....... One good thing abt cancer is that " he always speak the truth, he thinks its easy that way"...... I am sure they r undeniable since they master every single move towards u, they craft even a single mail word by word to make it look pleasant...... When its a move of a cancer.. It will be a checkmate... I can be sure coz i am one too... if u want him, u better wait..... cancerians r so precious... they can hurt any one easily but they cannot bear a single word... that's another reason, they speak truth...

suresh0807, thanks for your message.
I get it about speaking the truth, but why be so cruel about it? that is what i don't understand.
How can a person be so caring and considerate on one hand, and then the next be so cruel?!
Was that his 'checkmate' i.e., him being cruel, was his way of encouraging me to loose weight??!! Jeez!

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Sometimes cancers get attracted to your character than your physic. He will pester you to extreme until he is satisfied of making himself assured that you don't have that character anymore.... for instance, if its your nature not to scold any one and he likes it, he will make you scold him..... But it can be real hard unless it comes from his mouth of what he likes in you... when he asks you if you r hurt, just tell him " yes, I'd better be dead than speaking wit u again". He will never come across your life again.. but you should be strong to resist the cancer's thoughts as he will never come again but will think of you every day and grieve for what he has done to you..... See, its very complicated to be a cancer.......

All the best

Hi,

I feel for you scorpio sister. I too am a Scorpio girl. I would feel bothered if someone told me that about my weight,and to state that they would be interested in me only after the weight issue is resolved. I can take criticism well. But clearly to hurt someone is wrong. I hope he understand a person will not lose weight to be with him they will do it because they love themselves and understand the health risks that they are up against. I sincerely wish you the best In your weight loss journey.


Good luck! 😛

(( Hugs ))


Piggy

'when he asks you if you r hurt, just tell him " yes, I'd better be dead than speaking wit u again". He will never come across your life again.. but you should be strong to resist the cancer's thoughts as he will never come again but will think of you every day and grieve for what he has done to you..... See, its very complicated to be a cancer.......'

suresh0807,thanks for sharing,
Well, he must have got the message then, coz I have not heard from him in 5 days.



'I sincerely wish you the best In your weight loss journey'.
Now,This is the type of positive support I like. Thank you Piggy!

Posted by iwin32
I'm stubborn!

even to the point of letting a good thing pass you by?!