Ex crab back or no?

I really don't care if we get back together. I found out he was cheating (emotional cheating mostly) I told him I would never come back. He never tried to come after me. I saw him months later at an event I was performing at and he spoke and said he wasn't upset and we are still cool (I didn't care cause he hurt me badly) so I left it at that. I reached out months after cause I needed his help and he was the only one I trust (no friends in this town) he's also the only one that really knows me my deepest darkest secrets.

Any whose I gave my number and we had a looooong talk. He said it took him months to get over me and he didn't know what to say. I felt the same and just smiled through it. Made me realize I'm still not really over him and that I dated people to mask it cause I haven't done the same things with any of them that I did with him. He said he loved me but was too controlling. I just wanted him to have the best and maybe babied him and smothered him too much. We were only together for 9 months. He kept saying he loves me regardless of what he will always love me and protect me. And wanted to give it another shot. But he was drunk when he said it (but he's always drunk, functioning alcoholic) I don't mind cause in this industry you hooked to something be it drugs or the lime light and I don't know if he really meant it. Haven't heard from him since. He did say he needed space this time and I'm glad to give it cause I'm too busy now as before I was just starting my career where as now I'm more advanced. He gave me the best advices and he always pushed me. I don't know if I want this again cause of the hurt but I do still love him too.

Did he mean it or was he drunk. Is this manipulation. Yes I have another thread about a new cancer I'm dating but it ain't this serious yet. And in all its now my third cancer (still can't figure them out). He said I'm the only one in this town that knows things about him that could destroy him and he's never heard it back. He's also said (we were long distance at one time) I came all the way to see him and we left his town and went with me and anything could've happened to him out of his element but he trusted me so that should show how much he loved me. I'm just scared to do this again.

I care about being friends though for the first line.

One more thing... Is there something happening with the moons or eclipse cause seeing both these crabs are making me notice they dissapear at the same time

Hi me again.... We're known as moon child so yes to the acting the same bc of moon (not 100% accurate but most of the time yes)

You're not technically with either so keep lines from crossing & see how it goes with both. Or choose the new guy bc he's not wronged you yet. TBH this cancer is prob going to do it again & in entertainment you not security just as much as them.

One side note the cancer with Gemini Venus will not give you a second chance if he finds out even if you aren't official.

I had this stupid problem with mine & I was in no way shape or form guilty & had 3 of his employees/ friends to vouch for me. That's the only thing that saved us. I still had to endure the silence & look of disappointment. That sucked I felt so bad for him especially since he didn't even need to be hurt.

Posted by CalmCrab22
Hi me again.... We're known as moon child so yes to the acting the same bc of moon (not 100% accurate but most of the time yes)

You're not technically with either so keep lines from crossing & see how it goes with both. Or choose the new guy bc he's not wronged you yet. TBH this cancer is prob going to do it again & in entertainment you not security just as much as them.

One side note the cancer with Gemini Venus will not give you a second chance if he finds out even if you aren't official.

I had this stupid problem with mine & I was in no way shape or form guilty & had 3 of his employees/ friends to vouch for me. That's the only thing that saved us. I still had to endure the silence & look of disappointment. That sucked I felt so bad for him especially since he didn't even need to be hurt.

Good thing to know... Cause I do like him. I know he's a little hurt I turned down our date tonight. However last time we went out he asked me to go part on the bottle for VIP (he always pays, I think it was a test) and I did.. But two other girls were there and the whole ordeal was messing with me... Like they were distractions too for something. Also, he left me with his friend while he dropped one home and he made a pass at me and I declined and Left the car and almost went home ... Immediately got a call from cancer to stay and what's the problem ... So that means the friend called him. This is Tiring lol. I needed a break. So now nothing from him. And I'm just gonna let him be for now.

We were in seperate vehicles so I was to meet up back with him and he kept keeping tabs on me and answered when I called.

So here's a thought. Cut them both off until you have missed a few calls/texts from them & see what they say when you answer. Use this when you feel most appropriate though.

Ain't no way I'd drop a dime with other females around. I've bought mine food & small gifts but he's done a lot more for me. He's never asked me to pay for anything tho. That's kind of disrespectful as a man in general IMO I'm not a Dutch type gal tho. Maybe it is a test but mine just tested me more private like grab him a bite omw to see him. He didn't basically ask me to pay for other ppl.

Most ppl don't get having females around is an industry thing & they don't care about those women. As long as you feel your overall relationship is ok then just keep giving him this reassurance by passing tests. Just keep in mind the normal type of women he runs across with his work & what he's trying to protect himself from.

Posted by CalmCrab22
So here's a thought. Cut them both off until you have missed a few calls/texts from them & see what they say when you answer. Use this when you feel most appropriate though.

Ain't no way I'd drop a dime with other females around. I've bought mine food & small gifts but he's done a lot more for me. He's never asked me to pay for anything tho. That's kind of disrespectful as a man in general IMO I'm not a Dutch type gal tho. Maybe it is a test but mine just tested me more private like grab him a bite omw to see him. He didn't basically ask me to pay for other ppl.

Most ppl don't get having females around is an industry thing & they don't care about those women. As long as you feel your overall relationship is ok then just keep giving him this reassurance by passing tests. Just keep in mind the normal type of women he runs across with his work & what he's trying to protect himself from.

Thank you so much. Yes I plan on not being readily available. I did say I'll see him next week. Funny this last time I invited myself and he didn't invite me and he was like you sure you want to come? Guess he was saying not to and I did anyway. Anyways I plan on going and just indulging in myself this time. I sent a text with a question at the end and he never responded. Haven't heard from him since. I plan to be scarce. Been through it enough. They always come back around just be too late. Thank you I will certainly not be readily accessible to both of them next time.