Flakey Crab

I hate flakes, I hate people who say they will do something and then they don't. Not wanting to sound overly Taur/Scorp but unreliable people are rubbish. We'd get stuff done if they all just sat in tree's reading and let us crack on with making things work.

And on that bombshell, Gemini's, Sag's, Cancer's - you can all poo right off. Why do most of them not realise the impact they might have on someones feelings who cares about them and wants to see them.

Discuss.

feelings, and time. Precious time. MY precious time, you ferret friggers.

Trust me, if a Cancer is in a funk and doesn't want to see you... consider yourself lucky. Not pleasant to be around...

ferret friggers... that's cute

This is true..think of is as them doing you a favor

Sometimes Cancers are flaky or unreliable without even realizing it. Their minds/emotions are so complex. Emotions constantly change from day to day, & sometimes even from min. to min. So it's not that they forget on purpose or purposely become unreliable all just to piss you off. Sometimes their minds literally had a "change of plans," & unfortunately, they won't apologize for it, since they love & put full confidence/trust into how their emotional minds tick.

1 of my Cancer friends is so flaky when it comes to friendships/relationships. 1 min. she gets us all rowled up by telling us how much she hates someone & wants to be done with them. We'll actually believe her & start giving her the necessary tools/advice to move on. But yet the very next day, she'll be right back friends/cool with that person as if nothing ever happend. When she's going through a break up, she'll call us 24-7; we'll get our old friend back. But the min. her relationship starts getting better, she'll stop calling & conveinantly cancel our "ladies night out." Hell sometimes, she's a no-call-no-show. And when we confront her about it, she acts as if she's offended or insulted at the fact that we demand reliability from her, regardless of her personality, circumstances or whose she's in a relationship with at the moment. Smh

A Cancer's mood swings are so constant/often that it's not even worth taking it personal anymore. It's kind of like being mad at a 2 year old kid. You know that they're only 2 & that they don't know any better or mean any harm. You still get frustrated when they put their hands on the hot stove, but before you completely flip, you have to remind yourself that you'd be irrational to flip out on, well a 2 year old!

1 minute my Cancer friend is in a good mood, wants to go out, initiates all these plans with us girls, is sociable & is feeling on top of the world.

And the next min....she retreats back into her shell, doesn't answer her phone, becomes extremely introverted/guarded, disappears & becomes unreliable.

It sucks but I try not to take it personal, especially since I have to constantly remind myself that her doing so is NOT personal. She's not doing to piss me off, throw me off or manipulate things. She does it b/c she's used to doing it, gets away with doing it (smh) & doesn't mean any harm.

Doesn't mean that Cancers being this way simply b/c they are Cancers gets them a "get out of jail free" card, b/c after all, no one likes a flaky person or keeps wanting to make excuses for them. But I can't stress enough that if you know that their intention wasn't to harm or manipulate you, it's hard to stay mad at them, atleast for long periods of time.

So basically, I should not take it personally when someone says they will do something and then disappears for weeks on end not returning contact.

But that is pretty rude, yeah?

How on earth do you expect anyone to deal with that— Personally or professionally.

Man the f**k up!

Posted by shellshocker
Trust me, if a Cancer is in a funk and doesn't want to see you... consider yourself lucky. Not pleasant to be around...

ferret friggers... that's cute

Hahahahaha that is absolutely true!!! You should definately count yourself lucky when zee crab shuts you out around that time of the month? Week? Day....? lol it's best to just leave them be and they'll come around in their own time once they realize no one is waiting on them outside of their shell- 'oh damn I better pop my head out and say hello before she/he forgets about me' 😛

Posted by MayDORISDay
So basically, I should not take it personally when someone says they will do something and then disappears for weeks on end not returning contact.

But that is pretty rude, yeah?

How on earth do you expect anyone to deal with that— Personally or professionally.

Man the f**k up!

Damn right that is flippin' rude, ignore that mofo. But before you do that, tell him to man up...

Posted by MayDORISDay
I hate flakes, I hate people who say they will do something and then they don't. Not wanting to sound overly Taur/Scorp but unreliable people are rubbish. We'd get stuff done if they all just sat in tree's reading and let us crack on with making things work.

And on that bombshell, Gemini's, Sag's, Cancer's - you can all poo right off. Why do most of them not realise the impact they might have on someones feelings who cares about them and wants to see them.

Discuss.

Maybe they don't really think you care that much. I know scorps for instance are notorious for keeping themselves closed off about how they feel. If I don't think a person will care one way or the other, then I can change my mind about something without thinking it will hurt that person in any way.