Friendship between Cancer and Scorpio

Hi all! Long time no post.

As ya'll may or may not know, I moved cross country to Texas back in January and my husband finally joined me in April. We are both Cancer, so making friends is somewhat of a feat lol. Neither of us are the type of person who just walks up to someone and starts talking. I miss my friends back in SC and the idea of starting over is quite overwhelming. So...on to my question!

My first week at work I met a girl in another department that seemed to be around my age and she was definitely intriguing. Not too excitable (unlike myself), sorta intriguing but personable. I thought that first week that I should try to become friends with her, but wasn't quite sure how to go about it so after working there around 5 months I asked her a few weekends ago if her and her husband would like to meet up with me and mine. So we met up for dinner that very weekend and we really hit it off. Then the following week I emailed her and told her that if they'd like to come over sometime and play xbox kinect just to let me know, then she came back and we made plans for that very weekend.

During the week at work we hardly ever talk, her job is a little busier than mine, but at the same time I'd think she'd try to make small talk or text at some point. I'm probably reading way too much into this, but I'm getting mixed signals. I'm afraid of being too pushy, but at the same time I wish she was more chatty. Every other Scorpio I know have been chatty, and really, it's unsettling to me that she doesn't do that. She's always aloof and when she does act excited it seems forced. I asked her if she'd like to go with me to the New Kids on the Block concert and she said no thanks and concerts aren't her thing. With all the mixed signals, she texted me yesterday around 2 and asked if we wanted to come over. Three weekends in a row with a new couple? We said maybe next weekend. I'm afraid of screwing this up like we have with friends in the past (too much togetherness).

I was reading in an astrology book of mine that you can't become instant friends with a Scorpio and you have to earn their trust. Has anyone else tried to make friends with a Scorpio and got this much of a run around? What is she thinking and am I reading wayyyyyy too much into this? One minute we're best buds and then I don't hear from her for days. I'm so confused LOL. Am I being too sensitive? Typical Cancer.

Good to have you back! Funny....a cancer with questions bout the scorp...its funny cause we always have questions about you! =) its true with scorpios..we are very friendly & outgoing..we make friends everywhere we go...but really they are merely aquaintances..I agree with the others about trust..we very private creatures and will only allow a cern't few into our inner most circles. You seem to be a sweet girl and in my opinion have won her over...if she is inviting you into her home with her family and bringing her loved ones into your home then you've rubbed her the right way. Since we are very private creatures I know myself with another co-worker...we chat all the time at work but when we started hanging out sometimes outside of work...I never brought it up...like that was my personal time and didn't want to share? So take it for what its worth...she's initing you over so she thinks she has found a friend as well..never pry...when she trusts you she will share everything...never share your personal outings at work unless she does and if your genuinely good person then you've found a friend for life...we don't have many close friends but the ones we do are friends for life =)

At pisces....poor thing! You must have got f'd over by a scorp...stung maybe....don't dwell on it sweety life goes on =)

When I meet someone new I always wonder if their friendlyness is genuine or if they're just doing it...to do it. Like you know...those people who smile really big and say "Hi, we should catch up sometime!!" and then as soon as you pass them their smile dissappears. So I get rather insecure when I meet new people and have lost some good chances to make friends because I've been too reserved. I won't contact them unless they contact me so that I KNOW they want to spend time with me and sometimes I will even turn invitations down because....I don't know why.

But it all comes down to insecurity for me and once I feel secure and can trust your motives I will be just as dedicated to the friendship as you. And I know it's not just me who feels this way because I've met a lot of scorps that have a similar type of insecurity so I wonder if that's what's going on with this lady?

Also I don't do chit chat...I sometimes feel like what I have to say is boring or I don't have enough knowledge on the subject or I just CAN'T find words to talk...but bring up something I LOVE and I won't stop talking. Reading that back to myself makes me sound rather selfish...it's not that I don't want to/care to talk about the small things, it's just that most of the time I CAN'T and that's another thing I've noticed of some scorps...so I wonder if that's what's also going on with her.

Anyway someone up there ^^ said that the fact she had invited you to her home says a lot because of how private we are and I think they were 100% correct. I think that's a big sign that she values your friendship and may just take a bit longer to be able to be more loose in the friendship.

Thanks for the encouragement everyone, I think you're right and it's just gonna take a while to build that trust. 🙂 Making new friends is so nerve racking...especially for us Cancers!

Now I don't have anybody to go to the concert with though 😢 bummer. I suppose I could drag my husband along lol.