Cancer, scorpio and that weird connection.

This topic was created in the Cancer forum by shishno on Friday, October 30, 2009 and has 34 replies.

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@shishno
18 Years

There's some kind of connection here. I'm a cancer she is a Scorpio.

My intuition says she likes me. tho at the same time she doesn't wanna fully show it. She doesn't ignore me. Smiles at my stupid jokes tho sometimes I don't even mean to say anything funny but she laughs. She has this cold gaze that I can see right threw. I think she likes me. πŸ™‚ I sorta test her interest. For example we??ll have a talk and I??ll give her a smile and she would start smiling. Tho every time I compliment her she seems to blow it off with quick thanks and walk away. My intuition says she likes me but I have been wrong before. Then again I just meet her 3 weeks ago. what sucks is that im starting to feel shy around her... and im a very outgoing witty person. I have a sag rising!

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@Eaglegirl
19 Years500+ Posts

I've got something going with a Cancer man, too, though you'd think I know better seeing as I am divorced from Cancer.

The Scorpio lady appreciates candour, so I would just gently ask her. "You know, I find you very attractive. Am I right in thinking there's a buzz between us?" or something like that (Excuse my outmoded expression, but I'm old πŸ™‚)

Set your mind at ease, Cancer. Quit walking sideways, and come out with it. Though strong, we are ladies at heart, and like you to make the first move.

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@Eaglegirl
19 Years500+ Posts

Also, seeing as she's your manager, she may be afraid of workplace harassment or being out of line in that way. So take it off work turf....ask her to an art gallery on Sunday πŸ˜‰

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@shishno
18 Years

yea. well I've done that in the past with girls and didn't quite worked out like it does in the movies. I'm just going to chill and go with the flow with this one. If it's meant to be, that moment will come.

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@shishno
18 Years

I totally agree with you Scorpio chick. atm im just doing the non-direct approach and at the same time giving her hints that I am interested. Complementing her some days (but not all the time) keeping eye contact with her. Looking into her eyes while she's talking, it's like having 2 completely different conversations. One verbal and non-verbal It's (in a good way) intense. Like I said if it's meant to be it'll happen. I pray and I hope it will. If not, I will be disappointed but what am I gonna do? With each rejection makes me that much more experienced. And with each experience I have notice they only get better. (Type wise) πŸ™‚

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@prettyladii
16 Years1,000+ Posts

I'm surprised no one came in here to say it won't work, or Scorps are too harsh and Cancers are pushovers and so on and so forth. Not that I believe any of those things, but I heard a lot of that when I made a post concerning my Scorpio.

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@prettyladii
16 Years1,000+ Posts

I think some people are just territorial over Scorpio. Scorpio is one of the most sought after signs, so for a Cancer ( a sign thats not respected much here) to be with one.. would cause people to get a little mad, maybe more than a little. Once they're sign for example Aquarius meets Scorpio and all is going well, they feel like. Well I must be Scorpio's best match, i don't care what astrology says about Scorpio/Cancer or Scorpio/Pisces. I did think it was insane how they said I need to have air in my chart in order for it to work. Air isn't even compatible with water, it's less than 50% chance it can work. When it does sort of work, its often a love/hate relationship that goes on until one or both get tired..
Anyway back to the op question. This is a great match, and speaking from personal experience it can go on forever. Either you will always be coming back, or she will always be coming back, if not welcoming you with open arms. This electric connection is because your both in the water element, the sexual chemistry is high and more importantly the emotional depth is there. You two can have a lot of fun, have a lot in common, and your morals and values may mirror each other in one way or another if not all the way because your mindset is similar. I hope it works out for you.

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@SexyBanana
16 YearsSagittarius

I'm a Scorpio Rising/Venus, and I went on a date with a Cancer this past Friday. It was a disaster, and I'll tell you why...

He was WAY too shy and nervous. He wouldn't keep eye contact, did not initiate any conversation, and would kinda pull away from my touching him. Yeah, maybe he just wasn't into me..

But seriously, don't do the sideways crab thing. Be direct! Be unwavering! The thing that is probably playing a big factor is that she is your manager. By messing around with you, she's risking a sexual harrassment issue...especially if she doesn't trust you yet.

How long have you known her?
Do you ever see her outside of work?

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@Rays Heart
17 Years1,000+ Posts

Every relationship can work if you both want it to. As for me Cancer, sun sign speaking are too much to deal with, I'm not built to deal with the emotional turmoil. All the drama that they seem to always feed into, those I meant are loud too, which is a feature that I truly don't like. However no one is only their sun sign so. So maybe a more earthy Cancer could do. I don't know.

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@Gingerscorp
17 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by SexyBanana
I'm a Scorpio Rising/Venus, and I went on a date with a Cancer this past Friday. It was a disaster, and I'll tell you why...

He was WAY too shy and nervous. He wouldn't keep eye contact, did not initiate any conversation, and would kinda pull away from my touching him. Yeah, maybe he just wasn't into me..

But seriously, don't do the sideways crab thing. Be direct! Be unwavering! The thing that is probably playing a big factor is that she is your manager. By messing around with you, she's risking a sexual harrassment issue...especially if she doesn't trust you yet.

How long have you known her?
Do you ever see her outside of work?

Yup. Pretty much sums it up for me. Scorps like direct and Cancers are too passive for that. I agree with Ray. Too much emo drama for me. I hurt Cancers feeling alot and I don't feel sorry for them when they start to cry about how "harsh" I am. Thats me, I say what I say because I mean it and if you can't handle it.... see ya. I'm not gonna hash out everything I say because it hurt someone's feelings. The reason i'm direct is to cut the bullshit not to start more.

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@shishno
18 Years

My rising is in Sagittarius and moon is in virgo/libea cusp. I said this on another post. You can't judge a book by its cover until you have read the contents of the pages. I'm very direct (for a cancer), tho you can't be too direct, it doesn't work! You gotta show some sort of interest. If your to easy its to easy if you take to long it just become annoying. Show some self worth! You gotta be in between and not offer your penis the first night you meet a gorgeous chick. Give it a little challenge. Don't be boring be spontaneous! Girls love that shit. What Im doing is getting to know her (I just met her 4 weeks ago) I observe and if I do see an opening I??ll go in for it. I sure as hell will not look away at her beautiful gaze (so far I have kept eye contact with her). Most time's its me talking. Only amateurs are shy and im sure as hell not an amateur. You live and you learn and when you are in this situation you just gotta go with the flow. Don't cancel out the β€”strong?? cancers from the weak. Then again my chart has lots of fire in it. being direct is more my cup of tea πŸ™‚ tho you just gotta be cautious. Those effing pussy cancers had it coming and your right not to feel sorry for them. Live and learn and move on! There is always something better out there.

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@prettyladii
16 Years1,000+ Posts

People have a couple bad experiences, and hold the whole Cancer sign accountable. I'm a Cancer and am direct. I don't get any thrills or any kind of satisfaction from making people guess about what I want, or who I am, why I did this or that. The whole game playing is very juvenile to me. Though I've seen a lot of Scorpio female - Cancer male couples, I think it works better when its Scorpio male & Cancer female. Either way.. couples in the same element have a lot of potential, more so than any other combinations.

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@SexyBanana
16 YearsSagittarius

Yep! Must be your Sagittarius Ascendant that gives you the spunk, shisno! Wait...that didn't sound quite right...but you know what I mean.

I love that you do NOT pull away from her "beautiful gaze." That is the NUMBER ONE thing about Cancers that I admire. They have the most expressive eyes on the planet! If I'm looking through random pics, I can spot a Cancer by their eyes immediately!! The Scorpion has INTENSITY in his/her gaze! Cancer has EMOTION in his/her gaze!

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@shishno
18 Years

Same here prettyladii. If a girl came up to me and said "Do you like me" if I do I'd say yes and go into detail. If not I will say no. btw I know how sexybanana and gingerscorp feels about how cancers side step cuz I had a cancer girl wanting to get to know me but it was frustrating how effing long and non direct she would be. I'd give her every opportunity to open up. But nothing. I moved on. Tho I just wanted to tap it πŸ˜› doesn't judge me!
this Scorpio is different tho. I actually starting to like her a bit. and if things go good and I got to know her and she's cool I don't mind starting a long term thing with her. that connection is there just gotta see where it goes from here.

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@shishno
18 Years

yea I will have to admit it is intimidating sometimes. but I'd rather be looking into her beautiful eye's then not. at that moment there is nothing in the world that would be more intoxicating then that gaze. so I give in to it. and if she can read me by looking into my eye's? awesome! least im being direct in a non verbal way. πŸ™‚ tho I do sense a little nervousness from her when I look into her eye's. I'll take it as a good sign πŸ˜‰

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@shishno
18 Years

Tasha I totally agree with you! been there done that and failed. Only take your own advice. with that in mind you are being yourself. Different things work for different people. Remember, with each rejection only makes us that more experienced! Tho I always listen to what others have to say. Could be interesting πŸ™‚

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@shishno
18 Years

Nothing interesting has happen yet. Still trying to get to know her. (more like she's getting to know me)Tho I do believe she is as moody as a cancer. hah like I said nothing interesting.

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@shishno
18 Years

I gotta get her outside the work place... atm im been getting lost of potential prospects soooo... we will see if this Scorpio chick can keep my interest.

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@shishno
18 Years

Update:
She definitely keeped my interest. To the point where I got frustrated one day because I got a little jealous and she sort of blew me off and give this other guy attention. When she walked off i couldn't control my emotions and told he to quit being a bitch. To be honest I was shocked that I did that. I apologized later and she accepted. I F*8ed up and got a little clingy. emotionally if that makes any sense. I can't be my witty spontaneous self anymore around her??_ and it sucks! I need my sag rising to take over! Gaaagggaodsafk fucns damn emotions... >πŸ˜‰

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@shishno
18 Years

We are not going out to have make up sex. I wish. tho! Well she's pretty much blowing me off now and I think purposely getting me jealous. she now knows how to push my buttons. I wrote her a poem but now Im not to sure if I wanna give it to her if she keeps ignoring me like she did the other day. Then again she is my manager. But I will quit my job if I knew she felt the same. Atm its not looking so good. I think I did screw up. Yea she did accept my apology rather quickly. But I didn't text her back or anything when she did. and she found out the next day I helped a bunch of girls at a clothing store (sorta like victoria secret kind of store) but it was only to help them put up underwear. All I talked about was her during that time.

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@shishno
18 Years

So I was thinking it through. I do not think it is a good idea to give her my poem until I do know for sure that she likes me. I will not give in just yet I a man! I have my pride. And from past rejections I should already know what to do. Thanks for reminding me. πŸ™‚

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@shishno
18 Years

eden. From past experience with poems. I have gotten bad results. So far this is my 2nd poem. Id I think it's the best one I have ever wrote. But whats the point in giving her the poem if she doesn't feel the same. The care and the frustration of writing one would be meaning less to someone who doesn't feel the same. So I must know she is at least interested. Body language isn't enough. So how im going to find out is asking her to hang out and get some coffee. If she says no and doesn't suggest another time. I am going to take it as a rejection. I??ll quit my job bc she's the only reason why I stayed there for this long. Regardless of rejections or acceptance. I'm sure you??d love the poem. Tho I dont know if she would. those things sorta creep girls out. and chase them away.

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@shishno
18 Years

I finally found the courage to ask her out. I got rejected??_ after I had finished asking her out I went back to work and when I turned around she gave me a nice cute glance/smile. later she would check up on me and asked if I was ok. I felt like crap but I hide it well and said I was fine. I don't get it. she is still nice and flirty. I cant stop thinking about her and i really need to let go. yet another rejection for the love fool.

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@Sarinka_Moon
16 Years

Ask one of her friends out...I bet you she'll come around then! Otherwise, scuttle your cute little crab self on to the next one. Life is too short my friend.

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@shishno
18 Years

Posted by Hypnoticβ€”
she's convinced that she already has you..
she has to snap her finger and.. bang.. you're at her feet..

Is this true ?

pretty much... :/

I agree hypnotic. Im done with these games. I'm feeding her ego and im losing mine. I was blunt and told her if she thinks im annoying (simple yes or no question) she kinda smirked and said β€”I cant answer that?? then she started being friendly and we had a friendly conversation. But the whole time I saw right threw it. its just a game she is playing with me. She never answered my first question??_ Live and learn. I will not be fooled and manipulated. She is just not that into me... I know her game now... game on! How to drive a scorpio crazy? >:}

Sarinka_Moon. I have done that before. It works. πŸ™‚
She doesn't schedule the girl with me anymore.
I have other prospects that are interested... I sorta blow them off... time to man up.

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@shishno
18 Years

Posted by MegStings
I'm a Scorpio woman and I find that I am always bowing at Cancer males feet,for the most part, but they know it for sure.

Oh I like where this is going πŸ™‚ what's your story megstings? What made Scorpio women like you feel that we (cancers) are worthy enough for such delightful behavior?

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@shishno
18 Years

It's not going to happen. I did what I said that I would never do.. I told her how I felt about her... I knew my situation and I still did it... It's down hill from here. so im trying to avoid her until my 2 weeks I put inn is up. thanks for all the emotional support. truth is, i was doomed from the first moment I met her and I knew it! Im stubborn, at least know she knows for sure(.) my past rejections has caught up with me.

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@pretty713
16 Years

Posted by Gingerscorp

Posted by SexyBanana
I'm a Scorpio Rising/Venus, and I went on a date with a Cancer this past Friday. It was a disaster, and I'll tell you why...

He was WAY too shy and nervous. He wouldn't keep eye contact, did not initiate any conversation, and would kinda pull away from my touching him. Yeah, maybe he just wasn't into me..

But seriously, don't do the sideways crab thing. Be direct! Be unwavering! The thing that is probably playing a big factor is that she is your manager. By messing around with you, she's risking a sexual harrassment issue...especially if she doesn't trust you yet.

How long have you known her?
Do you ever see her outside of work?

Yup. Pretty much sums it up for me. Scorps like direct and Cancers are too passive for that. I agree with Ray. Too much emo drama for me. I hurt Cancers feeling alot and I don't feel sorry for them when they start to cry about how "harsh" I am. Thats me, I say what I say because I mean it and if you can't handle it.... see ya. I'm not gonna hash out everything I say because it hurt someone's feelings. The reason i'm direct is to cut the bullshit not to start more.

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Well Im a Cancer with a Sag MOON and Rising.....I like direct and can be direct. Im dating a Leo with a Scorpio Moon and he is soooo reserved and shy, and observant. His rising is on the Leo/Virgo 28 degrees (he shows way more Virgo) and Im just waiting for him ripp my clothes off but....that may take some time.

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@cancerguy
17 Years

Posted by prettyladii
Scorpio is one of the most sought after signs, so for a Cancer ( a sign thats not respected much here) to be with one.. would cause people to get a little mad, maybe more than a little.

You're not at all self infatuated, are you... I hope you can feel this, it's the back of my virtual hand smacking you through your monitor.