Help Cancer ex has messaged me! hows things

After a 2 year relationship he broke up with me i know some of you have helped me over the last 3 months I Love him but really want him to come to me. I havnt replied yet should i let him wait a wee bit??_ not sure what to do here ??_.

Posted by jaxz
After a 2 year relationship he broke up with me i know some of you have helped me over the last 3 months I Love him but really want him to come to me. I havnt replied yet should i let him wait a wee bit??_ not sure what to do here ??_.

After two years? That's a solid bit of time. It was probably difficult for him. It could be that he genuinely missed you. I don't think he'd like to get back together. Maybe he misses the friendship. It's hard to forget or get rid of the people we truly care about. You have to know, Cancers live in the past. If you were a crucial part of his, then he won't be able to let it go. He probably thinks of good times. Reaching out after so long is a compliment, since we don't usually do that.

ok so i messaged back "things are good. how about you? as kinda expected more from 2 year relationship from him. and i want him to come to me. I didn't reply straight away but he's just not replying for much longer what the hell he messaged me right??_...

How long have you been broken up? Seems to me if he broke up with you, he could do more than "what's up" to try to mend fences. Without knowing any history or context here, this sounds like a half assed booty call. Be on guard. Besides, it rarely works out to go back to the same well after one of you have left. If you were solid, this wouldn't have happened. And the fact you still have feelings for him means it would be easy for him to manipulate you to get you to some kind of BS FWB. Guard your heart.

I wouldn't have messaged him back. He's an Ex for a reason. If he was meant for you, you two would be together now. You responding will only allow him to do it again. You have to show him you got respect for yourself. You don't let someone who hurted you back in soo easily like that. I think it's best you delete his number. You don't wanna get hurt again. Don't give him that kinda power

Posted by 2BlackIndian3
I wouldn't have messaged him back. He's an Ex for a reason. If he was meant for you, you two would be together now. You responding will only allow him to do it again. You have to show him you got respect for yourself. You don't let someone who hurted you back in soo easily like that. I think it's best you delete his number. You don't wanna get hurt again. Don't give him that kinda power

+100%

ok so theres no bad feelings though as distance was our man factor and he works away on ships we have a wedding in august we will both be at but he is currently at work on ships in Antarctica and I'm in aussie he actually lives in scotland. We have been broken up for 3 months now. have spoken for the last 2 months

Havn't spoken*

So i messaged back with yea things are good. how about you at he hasn't messaged back what the hell he messaged me first!! I don't get it

Posted by miha
why are you always in a hurry? if women were more relaxed, more secure in themselves and less overanalytic, men would man up faster...

seeing the behaviour women have, i've started becoming a men fan.... strange....

Correction in bold.

Posted by jaxz
So i messaged back with yea things are good. how about you at he hasn't messaged back what the hell he messaged me first!! I don't get it

And now the games have begun.

ok so i messaged back with "ok hope everything is good with you. Your pictures look good 🙂 (the ones that he put up on Facebook that i have not liked them. SO he came back with hey yea everything is good just was on line while the wifi was good as he's working on a ship and that he was catching up with people and that he saw me online. he also mentioned again about our mutual friends wedding that is in the uk when he is on his break. he has mention this a couple of times in the break up. Ok might be over analytic but I'm definitely relax about the whole thing. I can't help it when to I still this man right??_??_ and isn't this what DXPNET is for??_??_..

I can't help it when i still love this man right*

Posted by Este8
How long have you been broken up? Seems to me if he broke up with you, he could do more than "what's up" to try to mend fences. Without knowing any history or context here, this sounds like a half assed booty call. Be on guard. Besides, it rarely works out to go back to the same well after one of you have left. If you were solid, this wouldn't have happened. And the fact you still have feelings for him means it would be easy for him to manipulate you to get you to some kind of BS FWB. Guard your heart.

+1

This is especially true if the guy did hurtful or otherwise destructive things to her.

We often forget that there are unfortunately some really horrific Cancer people out there. Thankfully they are the minority of your Zodiac representation, but they sure as hell do exist and they are to be avoided at all costs.

So i realize its a bit shit him just saying hows things but what ever. I really think he broke up because he was not in a good head space and just needs sometime on his own. I have forgiven him in my head as you can't make someone love and be with you. But i just want him to know that i am here as a friend and i generally miss his friend ship and that I have excepted that he doesn't love or won't me. Is this a good idea to let him know i am still here for a friend as we were such good buddies?

Yes, if that is truly where your head and heart are, with no expectations of more.

so yea it is cheap and lame but i really think he was in not such a good head space when he broke up with me and he just needs time on his own. Anyway i have excepted that he doesn't love and want me but am still here for him as a friend would it be to much to let him know that as were such good buddies??

So havnt mentioned anything about how i feel as just messaging each other back and forth about what has been happening and general chit chat but he's defiantly not letting the conversation going as he's asking lots of questions about me and seems very chatty like righting little novels i guess. Not sure what the means but its kinda of cool??_...

Posted by jaxz
So havnt mentioned anything about how i feel as just messaging each other back and forth about what has been happening and general chit chat but he's defiantly not letting the conversation going as he's asking lots of questions about me and seems very chatty like righting little novels i guess. Not sure what the means but its kinda of cool??_...

I think you were dissappointed as you deleted your last topic..And things happen as we wrote to you..
As he still interested, he texts you..When you think the situation, you shouldn't expect much. Cause he's in a ship, there is nothing much to do when he has spare time..Maybe he likes to messaging with you, you can cheer him up by writing funny things about your casual life..Cancer dosen't forget the people who can be with them when they need someone..I don't think he dosen't like/or love you, cause we cancers dosen't act they are in love if they don't..
If you want his friendsip, you can get it..If you want him to love you, you need to wait till see him..You can understand the signs from his sincerety..

Ok so its been great catching up with him and it feels like old times but I'm not going to let him get back in that easily as i have felt so weird all this week and havnt been able to sleep him mum put something up this song thing on my fb page saying that how good it would be to come visit again etc. she hasn't messaged or sent me anything since we broke up. So i sent him this??_??_Hey, so have been a bit muddled this week, its been real good getting back in contact with but i guess its brought everything back between us and i can't go on like this thinking its all ok. so if you would like to talk sometime ill be on Skype or call.