How cancer man react towards NCR?

Im pisces girl, working in the same dept with my ex-cancer bf who is senior superior in our dept. We are 10 years age gap and in different belief. A week before he left me, he such an adorable, supportive and sweet bf.

Then he started being distance and silent from me. No text, no call not even reply any from me. He also seems having messy life at that period (until today).

So after 1 week, i asked him f2f what is the problem. He said:

1. he heard rumours about us going on which not good for us, (i didnt hear anything about that rumours,we secretly in-relationship but still maintain our professional at work)
2. He was thinking about my future (personal and career).

It took me 2 days leave to tell him how i feels and to shed my tears (knowing i going to have swollen eyes and severe sinus). After that i started No Contact Rule, did not turn up in dept weekly meeting, working damn hard at work, try to act like a normal staff when he was around, jovially hangout with friends (mostly male friends) like always and always find my way to run away from him. All because i can't stand how much i miss him and don't want co-workers saw me in tears again.

Today is my 2nd weeks doing NCR. But not just me trying to run away from him, he himself seems try to hide from me, not even send me work related email.

How actually he feels once i started with NCR? Can i archieve my goal after done with NCR if he also act that way? Should i attend back our dept meeting during NCR?

I see no reason why you should stop attending the department meetings in the first place. You should let some time pass..give it a month or 2. He probably thinking about how your relationship would affect both of your careers and he is just acting distant untill the rumors pass over. I would too to be honest. Do you guys have a work place policy that prohibit 2 co workers from getting involved with each other?

Another thing if he is not in a right place in his personal life at the moment that can make him distant as well, but don't worry he'll be back. Just keep doing what you're doing and be hard working and professional at all times and be cheery and social..

I think if he's just trying to maintain calm in his work environment and trying to find his way in his personal one.

^^^ That's what I'm trying to say as well.Give him the time and space he needs right now and let him come back when he feels he's ready to deal again. When he does just talk..that's it. Take things very slow, if he still wants a relationship with you discuss the terms and conditions then. Set your boundaries at that point.

Hi CrabRiot

Yeah we have that policy for same department was not allowed.

A lot of friends now started asking about my attendance in department meeting. For sure I'm giving them a lot of excuses, while the fact is I can't bear to see his face and started to feel sad and break my tears again. Better absent than teary drama in the meeting.

Today he started pretty simple work related conversation with me, verbally and through email. Also turn up few times at my section, acting observing how we do our work. Following NCR, I'm acting like he was invisible and trying hard not look at his face. But deep inside I pray not to cry. Again, he seems immediately change his eye sight and run away when our eyes met.

Knowing human is not mind reader, but always wishing him understand that I'm beeing distance and silentnot because I hate him, but because deeply miss him. Anyway, still have another week before my NCR done. I'm waiting if he dare enough to ask me 'how r u?' at the first place.

Hi Pisces15

Be social is what I'm doing now. The only problem I'm good at hang out with male friends rather than female friends. He knew it.

The only rumours I heard people thought I'm having affair with other male colleague, not him. And that colleague did proposed me before but I reject and didn't take it seriously. He knew it too.