I don't understand how people can date cancer men

It's been such a roller coaster for me. Which is funny because I've heard guys say that about dating me, but I wasn't 100% crazy about those guys.

He is hot and cold. One week I'm the greatest person in the world. The next week he backs off. I have become crazy insecure about our relationship. Sometimes we do not communicate for two or three days at a time. And the whole time I assume he lost interest or found a better girl.
Other than this, I think he's spectacular. So, he's not just "some guy."

I'm a virgo by the way with a taurus moon. Am I just too sensitive or something?

Nope not too sensitive..totally know what yr going through. My advice would be to detach somewhat and dont let the crap he does affect you so much that you get in secure..this is who they are, id you're committed to him then allow him to be. Its a pain but you learn a lot of compassion and empathy, you have to be a strong secure person to deal with it..

I've been there and it's not really functional. I don't think you're being over emotional because a relationship like that sucks. I'm sorry but I prefer someone who is sure about me and know what they want. How about a beautiful relationship where you feel secure in them and you don't have to question everything? It's achievable,I promise lol. If you're okay with having that kind of relationship then by all means. If you're emotionally strong and can tolerate that sort of thing, well more power to you.

Posted by VirgoLibraRose
It's been such a roller coaster for me. Which is funny because I've heard guys say that about dating me, but I wasn't 100% crazy about those guys.

He is hot and cold. One week I'm the greatest person in the world. The next week he backs off. I have become crazy insecure about our relationship. Sometimes we do not communicate for two or three days at a time. And the whole time I assume he lost interest or found a better girl.
Other than this, I think he's spectacular. So, he's not just "some guy."

I'm a virgo by the way with a taurus moon. Am I just too sensitive or something?

How does he back off? How sis he cold? Just because you do not talk for 2-3 days?

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Posted by VirgoLibraRose
It's been such a roller coaster for me. Which is funny because I've heard guys say that about dating me, but I wasn't 100% crazy about those guys.

He is hot and cold. One week I'm the greatest person in the world. The next week he backs off. I have become crazy insecure about our relationship. Sometimes we do not communicate for two or three days at a time. And the whole time I assume he lost interest or found a better girl.
Other than this, I think he's spectacular. So, he's not just "some guy."

I'm a virgo by the way with a taurus moon. Am I just too sensitive or something?

How does he back off? How sis he cold? Just because you do not talk for 2-3 days?

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Yes that gets me the most. His communication is inconsistent.
But of course when we are physically together looking at each other, no problems there at all.
It's just when we are not together. And sometimes he doesn't sound that excited to talk to me, but I can't tell if it's because of something I did/his feelings about me or something else going on in his life or just a bad mood.
It seems like, if I want to keep things going I am going to have to develop a much thicker skin.

Yes that gets me the most. His communication is inconsistent.
But of course when we are physically together looking at each other, no problems there at all.
It's just when we are not together. And sometimes he doesn't sound that excited to talk to me, but I can't tell if it's because of something I did/his feelings about me or something else going on in his life or just a bad mood.
It seems like, if I want to keep things going I am going to have to develop a much thicker skin.



I would not see anything wrong with going without talking sometimes for 2-3 days. Encourage him to more frequent conversations by telling him that you really like when u talk etc. You may misinterpret him when he does not seem too excited to talk to u. He must be just tired.

Yes that gets me the most. His communication is inconsistent.
But of course when we are physically together looking at each other, no problems there at all.
It's just when we are not together. And sometimes he doesn't sound that excited to talk to me, but I can't tell if it's because of something I did/his feelings about me or something else going on in his life or just a bad mood.
It seems like, if I want to keep things going I am going to have to develop a much thicker skin.



I would not see anything wrong with going without talking sometimes for 2-3 days. Encourage him to more frequent conversations by telling him that you really like when u talk etc. You may misinterpret him when he does not seem too excited to talk to u. He may be just tired.

I see an entire different side of this situation. First you admitted to being a hand full when you were not serious about certain guys. Meaning if you take 2-3 days or weeks to talk to someone you are not interested. Yet when someone else do it you assume they are not interested in you.

Men like space and 2-3 days is not long it's to take a break and build up there testosterone since women to drain it through intercourse and other such ways. Just because you play those games doesn't mean he is playing with you. He is not making you insecure you are making yourself insecure because you expect this guy to be at your beck and call and he is a man so he won't.

What you are projecting is that you are insecure so you play games and not talk to people for days and weeks when you aren't interested. If you take a look in the mirror then you will see that the universe is showing you your own behavior!!

Yes cancers can be a headache emotionally but I assure you 2-3 days is not long at all you will have to be patient just like you require patience.

But of course virgos only get upset and worried when the mirror is turned to them.

Reasons why cancers put you on a yo yo

They are selfish and insecure and self preserving

They are shy and don't have the confidence to follow through with their moves. The might initiate then stop and wait for you to pick the ball up and keep the flow moving. If you don't pick the ball up the flee and come back later if they like you. If you pick the ball up and stay consistent they stay consistent and your relationship grows

If they have other gf bf fwb around

If they have too much bad shit happening in their life and they need time to fix it. Cancers like security. They will never agree to commit to you if they have major issues circling around. They will try to hide it from you so they won't scare you off while they try their best to fix it. Too bad they don't realize this makes them look hot and cold. Tell me if I'm wrong but the reason why cancers make people fall to their knees is because they always make everything perfect. They want everything to be amazing and beautiful all the time especially for their lovers so if it ain't and it's ugly they will try their hardest to fix it. But when their going through shit they shell so it looks like not interested but really it's middle school crush makes me nervous I gotta e perfect tip.

If things in their life is going too good. Cancers are aensitive and they hate making people feel beneath them so times they are getting great life moves they might disappear because they don't want to come off like their bragging or something. Plus they are private so

They are mirroring you to give you a taste of your own medicine so you can see how it feels and grow up

All I got for now

Posted by LadyCalamity
I've been there and it's not really functional. I don't think you're being over emotional because a relationship like that sucks. I'm sorry but I prefer someone who is sure about me and know what they want. How about a beautiful relationship where you feel secure in them and you don't have to question everything? It's achievable,I promise lol. If you're okay with having that kind of relationship then by all means. If you're emotionally strong and can tolerate that sort of thing, well more power to you.

I completely agree, but the thing I found (in my experience) with cancers is that this doesn't come at first. It takes time and patience to get there.

Agree starchild and sunandcoffee

"I don't understand how people can date cancer men"

Neither can I. Because all Cancer men are evil incarnate. You can always identify them by their sinister goatee and red devil suit.