I Have The Secret.....

I have the answer to why guys disappear.

Let me start by saying It breaks my heart to see how many women are searching for answers to why their guy disappears for months at a time or why he seems uninterested. Basically, your man is only a phone call or a text away but you still FEEL like he's a thousand miles away! You might ask, Why is he like this? Why is he interested then not interested?

The answer is totally based on HIS desire for you. If HE does not have that deep engrained desire to be with you, he's not going to. Period. Its literally a desire thats placed on his heart that keeps him hot for you. For years I thought it was a women's good actions & good attitude that can keep him but these things only help the relationship go more smoothly. It doesn't keep him drawn to you. When his desire is real he will eat, sleep, breathe you! It's a desire that he can't rub off. There would be no doubts about wanting you.

For example, last week I heard about a man wanting to marry a woman that was paralyzed from the neck down. The woman could not move her body at all. But this man was head-over-heels in love with her anyway. Even her own parents tried to convince him to marry someone more "functional". But he only wanted her. He thought she was perfect for him. It's true stories like this that make me see that I don't have to do the absolute MOST to get & keep a man. It's either he loves me or he loves me not...No in betweens.

Therefore ladies, dont let counterfeit men fool you. The ones that are always here today & gone tomorrow are fakes! The man that desires you & I mean REALLY desires you won't leave you stranded. You wont have to keep "reminding" him you still exist. Its not a "cancer man" issue, its a desire issue! My cancer man of several years practically still drools over me & i dont even jump hurdles for him. Im just only sweet & affectionate & he's happy. When a guy's desire is real, you don't have to do anything special to hold on to him. You can relax. My point is, If your guy's desire easily fades it wasn't real to begin with.

Love yall, good luck 🙂

a very intresting topic

So true. Its really NOT a sign thing. I said something identical to this at the libra forum. Its ridiculous to blame a man's chart for bad behavior & if you werent into astrology what would you have blamed? The air in the area he lives in? Come on, get real! Btw +million on the OP.

Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides, you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion, it is not the desire to mate every second minute of the day, it is not lying awake at night imagining that he is kissing every cranny of your body. No, don't blush, I am telling you some truths. That is just being —in love??, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.

~Louis de Bernieres

***Thought it seems fitting, thank you for sharing Rapunzel***

Awesome. My eyes are completely open

Thanks everyone! You all are so kind 🙂

Posted by BikerCh1ck
@Rapunzel

How is this desire built? Is it a mystery?

I absolutely believe these deep desires are built WITHIN the man....every man that walks this earth! That's why when he finally meets that woman he can't be without her.

Posted by GoldenHeart
Rapunzel, does this apply to what I have shared with you? Still catch him stalking me and "liking" and "unliking" my fb posts. I sense he's over analizing his moves. Overall, these little hints are just that, little hints of nothing really. Nothing solid, and nothing close to what you've shared in this thread.

If that desire within your guy is real, at SOME point of time he will try to catch you. If he never gets around to it, his desire was not as genuine as we thought my friend. Even through his hurt, pain & past he should eventually pull through if everything he said & felt for you is real. See where his stalking & hints lead to...Nothing or something.

Rapunzel - Really liked this. Thank you for writing it so eloquently. Us Gemini's appreciate that 🙂

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Posted by BikerCh1ck
@Rapunzel

How is this desire built? Is it a mystery?

I absolutely believe these deep desires are built WITHIN the man....every man that walks this earth! That's why when he finally meets that woman he can't be without her.

Men walk away from women all the time, and it has nothing to do with desire, but love, it could be timing, it could be immaturity, there's lots of factors that go into relationships.

I mean what you're painting is some romance novel type of stuff, but I get your point, if a man wants you he'll let you know. No doubt.

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She's speaking of men who plays the disappearing act. If a man wants you he wants you no matter how immature he is or how bad the timing is when u come into his life.

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Posted by BikerCh1ck
@Rapunzel

How is this desire built? Is it a mystery?

I absolutely believe these deep desires are built WITHIN the man....every man that walks this earth! That's why when he finally meets that woman he can't be without her.

Men walk away from women all the time, and it has nothing to do with desire, but love, it could be timing, it could be immaturity, there's lots of factors that go into relationships.

I mean what you're painting is some romance novel type of stuff, but I get your point, if a man wants you he'll let you know. No doubt.

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I dated a much older Aquarius guy, and let me tell you, timing can be a major factor for guys. There was a woman he was dating while he had been undergoing a long and tedious divorce. He said that he pushed her away because he did not want her to get mixed up in the divorce; he said "I thought she would still be there" when he was ready. He loved her SO much, wanted to marry her, start another family, etc. Long story short, she married someone else in the mean time, and I don't think he ever got over it. One of my major problems with him was how much he idolized this woman.

My point is, even if a guy sincerely loves a girl, and even if he knows she's "the one," he isn't going to make the move until he has his life ready for that. It could be a financial goal, a promotion at wirk, buying a house, whatever. I think this is especially true when guys hit their late 20's and their 30's. They aren't kids any more, they realize what a huge responsibility having a family is, and they want to be ready.

To say that a guy will relentlessky go after a girl he wants is true, in part. But there are all sorts of other things that factor in as well. I think what you are talking about can be especially true of younger guys who get carried away by infatuation.

Posted by LPR
Irrespective of how great/hot/sweet/loving/kind a woman is, most men don't want to be with the same woman all their life.

I agree with this!