She loved mysteries so much that she became one.

Posted by Blue_Froggie
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Posted by Blue_Froggie
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
No.

It is impossible.


Why not???

I have fallen in love at first sight 😍



I believe in lust / infatuation / attraction / chemistry at first sight, but not love.

Love takes time to master and grow between two people, it takes toughing through the worst and celebrating the best, in order to reach that place of unbreakable bonds.


Great insight...
Would you say someone has to work/earn love?



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Yes Blue_Froggie, two people must work together to grow the love between them but love is not earned, trust is.
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Why do you find it hard to trust him about it prior to that conversation ?



did (past tense. i DO NOT find it hard to trust hubby lol). i'm a INFJ i guess (don't trust easily). Also, i was used to non emotional people before him lol


Sometimes people mistake our annoyance and our at times unashamed way of expressing our opinions, as one and the same.


i think the unashamed way of expressing emotions is what i find so irresistible about him lol. there are 2 sides to every coin i guess lol


Also - what sign are you iCloud9 ?


a sign you may have a bias against so it's not important here lol




A Goat, you are.

No, I do not have a bias against Goats at all.


well, i don't trust easily so lol

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That is quite alright, you have no reason to have to trust me right away anyways.
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Posted by TheLadyScorpio


Why do you find it hard to trust him about it prior to that conversation ?



did (past tense. i DO NOT find it hard to trust hubby lol). i'm a INFJ i guess (don't trust easily). Also, i was used to non emotional people before him lol


Sometimes people mistake our annoyance and our at times unashamed way of expressing our opinions, as one and the same.


i think the unashamed way of expressing emotions is what i find so irresistible about him lol. there are 2 sides to every coin i guess lol


Also - what sign are you iCloud9 ?


a sign you may have a bias against so it's not important here lol


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A Goat, you are.

No, I do not have a bias against Goats at all.
Posted by Blue_Froggie
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
No.

It is impossible.


Why not???

I have fallen in love at first sight 😍

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I believe in lust / infatuation / attraction / chemistry at first sight, but not love.

Love takes time to master and grow between two people, it takes toughing through the worst and celebrating the best, in order to reach that place of unbreakable bonds.
Those who stir the turd pot, should have to lick the spoon.
Posted by iCloud9
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
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I would get far more annoyed over simply matters, such as dramatic individuals or irritations (I blame the anal part of my personality), than an emergency.

During an emergency, my ability to completely detach from my emotions and go into problem solving mode, leaves me very calm. Some find it comforting, others find it unnerving when that cool cold rational side kicks in.


this is true for my scorp too

before i learned that about him, i actually sat him down and told him one time that it's critically important to me that he demonstrates his ability to stay calm and resourceful during emergency. i wouldn't feel safe otherwise

he can still get annoyed over simple matters though lol


What was his reaction towards you, when you brought that up ?


i described the exact words he used and actions he took during an instance that scared me. he took them seriously and reassured that he just needed to get his emotions out that he was not panicking. if he thought there was a real danger, he wouldn't have done that. he reassured that he would not let them out next time during a similar situation because now he knew that it would scare me


iCloud9, I am confused as to how my way of dealing with emergencies is in any way similar to your Stinger, because my emotions go into shut down mode during moments of crisis. Whereas, he seems to express them during said moments.


he didn't think that was a crisis. he took it as an irritation. you said you would get annoyed over simple matters. i don't get annoyed much over simple matters


I see.

We do not get annoyed over every simple matter (we are not quite so sensitive, we are rather specific) but situations which carry quite a bit of drama / laziness / ignorance.


i know now. it did take a while for me to be able to trust that about him and i was expressive about it lol. everyone is different and i actually find the difference fascinating
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Why do you find it hard to trust him about it prior to that conversation ?

Sometimes people mistake our annoyance and our at times unashamed way of expressing our opinions, as one and the same.

Also - what sign are you iCloud9 ?

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Posted by TheLadyScorpio
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Posted by iCloud9
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
I would get far more annoyed over simply matters, such as dramatic individuals or irritations (I blame the anal part of my personality), than an emergency.

During an emergency, my ability to completely detach from my emotions and go into problem solving mode, leaves me very calm. Some find it comforting, others find it unnerving when that cool cold rational side kicks in.


this is true for my scorp too

before i learned that about him, i actually sat him down and told him one time that it's critically important to me that he demonstrates his ability to stay calm and resourceful during emergency. i wouldn't feel safe otherwise

he can still get annoyed over simple matters though lol


What was his reaction towards you, when you brought that up ?


i described the exact words he used and actions he took during an instance that scared me. he took them seriously and reassured that he just needed to get his emotions out that he was not panicking. if he thought there was a real danger, he wouldn't have done that. he reassured that he would not let them out next time during a similar situation because now he knew that it would scare me


iCloud9, I am confused as to how my way of dealing with emergencies is in any way similar to your Stinger, because my emotions go into shut down mode during moments of crisis. Whereas, he seems to express them during said moments.


he didn't think that was a crisis. he took it as an irritation. you said you would get annoyed over simple matters. i don't get annoyed much over simple matters
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I see.

We do not get annoyed over every simple matter (we are not quite so sensitive, we are rather specific) but situations which carry quite a bit of drama / laziness / ignorance.
Posted by Dreamyboy
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
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I'm very calm in rough situations. My chart is in my pic. I don't live in a safe city, but I've been robbed at gunpoint 3 times while working at food industries, been shot at in several drive by shootings, and have been pretty calm during crisis scenarios as in witnessing a bullet wound to a friend or family member. My initial reaction is how I can help. I've been exposed to this garbage young so it's not really a shock to me. I am also an owner of two California legal "assault" rifles, a 12 gauge shotgun, and 5 pistols of various calibers.



Bloody hell - where on earth do you live, in California ?


Stockton, California. Top 10 highest crime in USA.
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Would you by any chance, have any thoughts of moving away from that city ?

You do not have to answer that, if you feel that is a breach of your privacy.
Posted by iCloud9
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Posted by iCloud9
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
I would get far more annoyed over simply matters, such as dramatic individuals or irritations (I blame the anal part of my personality), than an emergency.

During an emergency, my ability to completely detach from my emotions and go into problem solving mode, leaves me very calm. Some find it comforting, others find it unnerving when that cool cold rational side kicks in.


this is true for my scorp too

before i learned that about him, i actually sat him down and told him one time that it's critically important to me that he demonstrates his ability to stay calm and resourceful during emergency. i wouldn't feel safe otherwise

he can still get annoyed over simple matters though lol


What was his reaction towards you, when you brought that up ?


i described the exact words he used and actions he took during an instance that scared me. he took them seriously and reassured that he just needed to get his emotions out that he was not panicking. if he thought there was a real danger, he wouldn't have done that. he reassured that he would not let them out next time during a similar situation because now he knew that it would scare me
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iCloud9, I am confused as to how my way of dealing with emergencies is in any way similar to your Stinger, because my emotions go into shut down mode during moments of crisis. Whereas, he seems to express them during said moments.
Personally, I enjoy the look of them in places that are not obvious.

Something which is private, only between my SO and I

The 'hickeys' themselves, do not excite me, but the way in which you get them, that sensation turns me on.
Posted by Dreamyboy
I'm very calm in rough situations. My chart is in my pic. I don't live in a safe city, but I've been robbed at gunpoint 3 times while working at food industries, been shot at in several drive by shootings, and have been pretty calm during crisis scenarios as in witnessing a bullet wound to a friend or family member. My initial reaction is how I can help. I've been exposed to this garbage young so it's not really a shock to me. I am also an owner of two California legal "assault" rifles, a 12 gauge shotgun, and 5 pistols of various calibers.



Bloody hell - where on earth do you live, in California ?
Posted by iCloud9
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
I would get far more annoyed over simply matters, such as dramatic individuals or irritations (I blame the anal part of my personality), than an emergency.

During an emergency, my ability to completely detach from my emotions and go into problem solving mode, leaves me very calm. Some find it comforting, others find it unnerving when that cool cold rational side kicks in.


this is true for my scorp too

before i learned that about him, i actually sat him down and told him one time that it's critically important to me that he demonstrates his ability to stay calm and resourceful during emergency. i wouldn't feel safe otherwise

he can still get annoyed over simple matters though lol
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What was his reaction towards you, when you brought that up ?
I would get far more annoyed over simply matters, such as dramatic individuals or irritations (I blame the anal part of my personality), than an emergency.

During an emergency, my ability to completely detach from my emotions and go into problem solving mode, leaves me very calm. Some find it comforting, others find it unnerving when that cool cold rational side kicks in.
I have never had an issue with Moons in Crabette.

In fact, I have had more issues with Stinger Moons and Leonine Moons in general.
Do you have that shirt yet ?
Cummingtonite.

You will not miss it, when you see one.

It is hard, girthy, and prominent.
Posted by NineAvenue
@TheLadyScorpio

You walk the same way you talk?


As in, am I able to achieve all the advice in which I share on here ?

I would be lying if I said I was that ideal or perfect, I am human after all. However yes, I strive to be everything in which I put my words to, or advise others on.

Do I fail at times ?

Of course, I do. I have my Virgent to put me in my place when bullturd arises, I am no angel but he better be ready to step up to the plate when he makes mistakes as well for I expect it in return.

We have our arguments, stubborn as we are in our intimate relationships but those fights fade real fast as well. It gets old, and we begin to miss one another, so we find ways to keep choosing one another, because we love each other dearly. Knowing how to make it work, to know how to resolve conflicts and that is the successful key to longevity in relationships with a Virgent (or so I believe it to be).
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It's funny to see that all you women with a virgos say, honesty gets you somewhere.

That right there is why most virgo relationship fail and the guy disappears.


Hmmm, NineAvenue ?

Are you stating that honesty is the very reason why Virgent relationships fail, the lack of honesty or the presence of honesty ?



They fail because of the lack of honesty.

They fail because women like to manipulate virgo guys and they get caught.

Most virgo guys that has his head screwed on right will see this coming. He may even let it slide a time or two and when it happens again he will leave.


I do not think it is as black and white as all that.

Virgents could be quite manipulative themselves, as well. In my opinion, I believe Virgents need someone who is willing to call them out on their bullturd and also someone who is willing to take it, when their own bullturd is called upon as well.

It goes both ways.

They need someone who is frank, unapologetic, and not afraid to say it as it is. Since we all know, everyone could be manipulative at one time or another, it is human nature.

How it is dealt with, is what makes the difference.


I can't argue with that. If you can't stand up to me and call me on some butter then I don't need you.
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Virgents, may entertain doormats for a short while but they would soon leave them if they never develop a backbone to support themselves.

As said, Virgents need self assured women who at the same time are not afraid of showing their vulnerable and emotional side because they need it, since they find it hard to express their own in the conventionally accepted ways.