I think it's time to give up on my Cancer guy.

It's been over this whole time so you can't "let him go" in the sense of breaking up with him. However, I do recommend that you move on and, maybe later, get someone who isn't gonna treat you that way.

One thing that I can not emphasize enough, is that when it comes to men, the only real way to tell his love for you are through his actions. If he tells you that he loves you but proceeds to ignore you, avoid you, and in general does not act like he does then he most likely doesn't. I have heard many confessions from men saying that they are quick to drop that line if they're afraid they're gonna lose you. They may not be "in love" with you but they might care enough to keep you around as a friend with hopeful benefits. That doesn't necessarily mean they're commitment-phobes, for they might commit to someone else, they're just thinking with their other head. I'm not justifying this behavior, for it's kinda douchey, but we can learn from this as it seems to be one of life's constant struggles.

Posted by PixieDust
I'm not so sure. I'm currently reading this book (as of yesterday) and it's called "Why Men Love Bitches"... act like you're a prize to be won over...

Good luck to you.

Posted by PixieDust
Mr. Crabby..the book suggests that you act like a prize in the sense that you don't let a man walk all over you and treat you poorly. It means you have to stand your ground and not give in to certain disrespectful behavior. It's not suggesting that I get in his face and tell him how it is.

Pixie,

Honestly, if the guy is eating drugs and drinking heavily, I wouldn't worry too much about him anymore.

It's clear he has issues, and you would be wise to distance yourself from them before it all turns into a catastrophe.

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Posted by PixieDust
Mr. Crabby..the book suggests that you act like a prize in the sense that you don't let a man walk all over you and treat you poorly. It means you have to stand your ground and not give in to certain disrespectful behavior. It's not suggesting that I get in his face and tell him how it is.

The thing is once they have seen that you take their shit...there's no going back to get respect...Cancer will see through it all...and a bad one...he knows he holds the power over you...so there is no chance of him believing the change in you...

If you want respect and disallow bad behaviour...you need to walk...period...the bad ones will not change...maybe for the moment but they have a way of creeping back to their old ways...

From experience with one...

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Yes, tacit complicity with bad behavior only yields more bad behavior.

The more dangerous and selfish types utilize anger/aggression as a defense mechanism for when we really have taken too much of their crap and inform them that we are not gonna take it anymore.

In other words, when they do bad things and piss us normal people off, they choose to get angry in return. Some of the retaliation anger can be quite vicious, and it will later remind you that there are so many better human beings out there to spend time with.

Posted by wineaux
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May I suggest to anyone who's seeing a crab to take notes. It's just 2 words anyway, not much effort. Yet, it could make a big difference in the end.

Not into bestiality.....