I told myself I would never date a Cancer.

I hope I don't offend anyone, I'm only speaking from experience. Ironically I myself am a Cancer. My "best friend" since the 6th grade is a Cancer, and other than her I haven't had many personal relationships with them. From my experience with them and of course being one myself, I'm not too fond of MOST of them. This is not to say that all female Cancers are backstabbing you know what's who only care about themselves because again, I'm a Cancer and I'm not any of those things. As for the guys, as the title states, I've told myself I would never date a Cancer male. Why? From my experience the Cancer men that I know are well, too feminine..in looks, actions, etc. Again not generalizing anything because these are only guys that I KNOW PERSONALLY. Plus like I said I've never been to close with any Cancers in general and with my experience with the girls, dating a Cancer guy was never going to happen. That is until I started talking to this one guy who so happens to be a Cancer...go figure.

I met him via facebook, we haven't met yet. My family is moving to his state in a few months, but we've decided to meet next month. For someone I haven't met yet, I find him sexy as hell, I literally find myself obsessed with him and I know it's not healthy. I've been diagnosed as bipolar, so that could in fact have something to do with my obsession. But it scares me because I've been hurt terribly by guys. This entire year I've gone on literally more than 15 dates trying to find the right guy and they've all screwed me over. I even made the mistake of moving in with a guy who kicked me out in the middle of the night for no reason. And yes it really was for no reason, we barely exchanged words when I was there (which was a mere 2 days btw) and when I did speak to him, I asked him how his day been..even cleaned the entire house. So I did nothing to provoke him. He was a Capricorn btw...never again. Anyway, I did our charts on astro.com (I don't know his birthtime) so by default I made it noon and the interpretation said something about obsession. "You have a way of arousing some very intense and perhaps even obsessive feelings in your partner, and it would be a mistake to take the attraction between you lightly" It said that for both of our parts, not just mine. So I'm assuming we do that to each other.

What do you guys think? Here are our specs

ME:

Zodiac in degrees 0.00 Placidus Orb:0
Sun Cancer 23.42 Ascendant Capricorn 7.40
Moon Leo 17.06 II Aquarius 19.10
Mercury Cancer 5.28 III Aries 0.54
Venus Gemini 16.15 IV Taurus 2.56
Mars Aries 1.00 V Taurus 26.58
Jupiter Taurus 28.57 VI Gemini 17.19
Saturn Sagittarius 27.28 R VII Cancer 7.40
Uranus Sagittarius 28.02 R VIII Leo 19.10
Neptune Capricorn 8.24 R IX Libra 0.54
Pluto Scorpio 9.47 R Midheaven Scorpio 2.56
Lilith Virgo 6.58 XI Scorpio 26.58
Asc node Pisces 15.16 XII Sagittarius 17.19

HIM:

Sun Cancer 19.25
Moon Pisces 5.51
Mercury Leo 0.03
Venus Gemini 20.14
Mars Aries 29.35
Jupiter Cancer 21.46
Saturn Capricorn 22.13 R
Uranus Capricorn 7.06 R
Neptune Capricorn 13.01 R
Pluto Scorpio 15.03 R
Lilith Scorpio 27.51
Asc node Aquarius 7.22

HERE ARE SOME ASPECTS WE HAVE VIA CAFE ASTROLOGY

07/15/1988 Aspect 07/11/1990 Orb/Value
Sun Conjunction Sun 4.41 85
Sun Conjunction Mercury 4.58 201
Sun Conjunction Jupiter 1.39 191
Sun Opposition Saturn 0.55 -106
Mercury Opposition Uranus 2.28 -60
Venus Conjunction Venus 3.04 55
Mars Trine Mercury 2.36 81
Jupiter Sextile Mercury 0.41 89
Saturn Trine Mars 1.28 65
Uranus Trine Mars 0.54 66
Neptune Conjunction Uranus 1.17 82
Neptune Conjunction Neptune 4.38 48
963 -166 797

I'm curious why you won't wait to meet him, you are moving to his state in a few months so there really isn't any need to rush but with that being said you've probably made up your mind to meet him already. Per my limited knowledge on Bipolar the disease is effecting your thought process and you may be in your manic phase which fuels your need to rush things or men may even trigger mania, it's really important you understand your triggers so the disease won't control you, it's important to understand yourself before you delve into dating or you are going to have a tough time maintaining a connection with a man, understanding yourself gives you a certain level of control over your life and control over how you pace yourself.

a LEGALLY bipolar cancer chick—

Just a thought on why your 15 other potential relationships didnt work and they all hurt you. Did you rush them? yourself? Did you fall in love instantly? Did you have boundaries? Did you forget your own identity? Typically wpome who seek to be loved desperately set themselves up for rejection and abuse.

Tiki is right...slow is down...treat yourself with respect and men will do the same. good luck!!

Posted by DAMEN VI
a LEGALLY bipolar cancer chick—

LMAO!

1. Never say never because you never know when life will deal you a curved ball.
2. There are bad people in each sign. It sounds like at present you are dealing with a lot of them. Maybe that is life dealing with the all the trash at one time.


I think you rush into things. Go slower so that you can balance things out. And really analyze what is happening around you and with the people you are coming into contact with. Dating 15 men in a short time is a tremendous amount. How can you figure if a person is good or bad that fast? In a way I am not surprised that you encountered such a unpleasantness with the Capricorn who threw you out in the middle of the night. I would not be surprised that he himself is somewhat bipolar and did not make that known just because of the hastiness of it all.


I also wonder the same thing as Tiki. Why rush things with meeting this man whom you speak of if life is moving you into that direction anyways? Patience is the key here. You don't want to come across as this fast paced woman because you never know what that signals to the other person involved. And why rush yourself you know? Things happen when they are meant to. You rushing is like dynamite in respect to the universal harmony rule.

You have a good amount of fire in your chart. You must be a super passionate Cancer all around. Throw some H2O on it and chill it down 🙂

I guess I should elaborate. Chill out the speed not everything else 🙂