Is this a male cancer trait?

I have been seeing this male cancer for about three months now. We live in different states so we are not "exclusive." I am a very social libra. He is your typical cancer. I was in a hurry to make love to him because of the short time we had together so we made love on the first day we spent together. He said he felt like he had known me for a month after the first day. The problem is - every time we are intimate he mentions other men - "well maybe you won't have an orgasm with me but you'll have it with someone else" or "why do you sleep with men that are so selfish" or anything along the lines of me and another man being intimate. I got so upset with him once I told him the men I sleep with last longer than five minutes.. and he got angry and said he does not disrespect me by mentioning being intimate with other women. What does this mean?

I am a cancer male and have found myself being a little insecure with someone I am falling for. We, at times do lack self-confidence - not a good trait - we can drive ourselves crazy when emotions are involved. I know he means that he wouldn't "disrespect" you by telling you about the other women he may have been with. He wouldn't want to provoke jealousy with you, or make you feel insecure or upset you in anyway. We are a sign of nuturing, loyalty and love. It's all good, trust me! Cancer men are very good catches, if you want comfort, home and safe in your relationship!

Yeah, Cancer men are very good catches. -- comment from a Virgo girl

thank you virgo girl - nice to hear that virgos like cancers. ( ha ha).

Why does he keep on mentioning me with other men? This is not normal - you cancer men are full of contradicitions. If he was safe then wouldn't he say he wants to be with me and he doesn't want me to be with anyone else? I've always had men say they don't want me with anyone else - especially aries, sagitarius, and every sign under the sun. I just don't get him but I have really strong feelings for him. I never express it and it scares me because I usually run from every guy I meet.

It sounds like you are the one with the contradictions, sounds like your cancer man is afraid of getting hurt. COMMUNCATION between the two of you is imperative! You have to discuss how you feel, and if the cancer male trusts you, he will open his heart and share is feelings too. Just, and I repeat, NO GAMES!

I agree! No games! Your post reflects that he is not your exclusive sexual relationship...it makes me wonder what you really want—

I want him to go after me. He wants me to go after him. I feel that I shouldn't have to go after him. Does he want me to tell him I only want to be with him when he is saying stuff like this? Why is love so complicated? Why can't people just fall in love with each other?

I agree, however, people are afraid to give their hearts away and get hurt.
I think the main problem here is communication. You two need to sit down and talk about this - directly and honestly - no guessing games, assumptions, agendas - get to the point. You need to know where the other stands in this relationship. Sounds like, the both are wasting alot of time. If you LOVE each other, than say so, and committ to each other, period!

You may never see this but you need to know it- better late than never. Maybe he thinks this is just a way of exciting himself. My cancer lover always talks. Other men, other women, with me- with him whatever. If it get's him hot, or excites me, what's the harm. Maybe this isn't for your benefit or detriment. Maybe it's for him. Why not try talking back. I bet you will be genuinely suprised, both at yourself and him.