Is this cancer girl playing with me?

Hello everybody! I am a piscean guy and this is my story:

16 years ago I met this cancer girl, friend of a friend and there was always this… “something” between us (lets call it a spark) we dated a few times those days and well… since we were both dating other people nothing ever happened.

Last month she contacted me after 16 years, we talked and agreed to drink something, it was amazing. She was super sweet and understanding (I showed my super manly and secure side that night) and everything was amazing (there was no sex)

After that we kept chatting a lot (she always initiated the conversations) and decided to arrange a 2nd date, but this time… it was not so amazing. I showed my vulnerable side (with a little problem im facing right now) and said very clearly that im a romantic who’s not interested in casual sex.

After that night, she became very cold… the first week I had no problems in playing hard to catch, and even confused her a little bit. But now is starting to bother me. If I compliment her she will ignore it and she will no longer initiate conversations. Its been 3 days since we don't talk and I don't feel like messaging her first.

Any advice?

(Btw, sorry if there’s any spelling mistake im from Italy)

Posted by Gobbuttere
She wanted casual sex but wanted to give the impression it wasn't what she was looking for. After your romantic confession, she immediately lost interest (which involved lying to your face).

Women looking for casual sex pull this butter all the time, as they don't want to admit their true intentions. And then they wonder why some men later turn into resentful arseholes.

^5 (high five) as I agree w/you!

My Saggy (ex-bf) told me, "I want to remain friends with you". I flat out told him. "I don't sleep with my friends". He immediately told me, "What made you say this to me?" "Because it's true! I don't believe in 'friends with benefits' and I don't sleep with my FRIENDS"....he didn't like that.

Good advice! 😏

Love,

Eva

Eh I think she was just wanting to be friends and go slow.

People are weird regardless of planets.

If she wanted casual she would have initiated already.

A few clarifications:

1 - She never initiated the casual sex idea, it was something i said with the intention of clarifying things from the beginning.

2 - Her answer was more or less something like this "drama free casual sex is amazing, but i understand if that's not your style right now"

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Posted by Alessio
A few clarifications:

1 - She never initiated the casual sex idea, it was something i said with the intention of clarifying things from the beginning.

2 - Her answer was more or less something like this "drama free casual sex is amazing, but i understand if that's not your style right now"

cool thanks for answering my questions aaaaannndd now I have more 1.have you guys spoken since?not text but like spoke 2. has she just gotten out of a relationship? 3. what was your response when she said "drama free casual sex is amazing, but i understand if that's not your style right now" did you act like it would be cool? where you visiblely disappointed...I only ask the last question b/c I know that I can mirror peoples moods with out meaning to ...I hope Im not being annoying I really do wanna help.. 🙂

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1 - yup, like i said she was very cold with me.

2 - 9 months ago she was in a relationship.

3 - nope, i don't judge other people sexual intentions and i was like that not many years ago. So everything is cool, im just not interested in casual sex right now. Im looking for wife material (No, i didn't tell her this)