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jealous much?
I am a woman and may not be able to fully speak on the emotions of my male counterparts, BUT yes we do get jealous and very territorial. I think as far as taking it to the extremes of trashing another person just to curb your interest, depends on the maturity of the person you're dealing with. Honestly, if I felt you were at all interested in this person more than me, I'd sever all ties and probably go back into my shell to heal. In extreme case, we could probably claw some eyes out when pushed too far. 🙂 Hope I helped!!
do you crabs get jealous in love relationships?
Yes.
if so, to what lengths would you go to eliminate what you felt to be 'competition'?
Will try keep things legal. No other known limits.
are you secretive about your jealousy or is it something that's easy to detect?
Not really. Anyone can see it and figure it out.
Would you be prepared to lie about someone or exaggerate the flaws of someone to your partner if you felt threatened by that person.
Yes.
would you do anything behind the scenes to ensure that person knew they were messing on your territory.
No. That would be giving that person too much credit.
Yes.
if so, to what lengths would you go to eliminate what you felt to be 'competition'?
Will try keep things legal. No other known limits.
are you secretive about your jealousy or is it something that's easy to detect?
Not really. Anyone can see it and figure it out.
Would you be prepared to lie about someone or exaggerate the flaws of someone to your partner if you felt threatened by that person.
Yes.
would you do anything behind the scenes to ensure that person knew they were messing on your territory.
No. That would be giving that person too much credit.
that's very helpful both of you. thanks 🙂
The irony here is impossible to beat lolololololololol. A Scorpio asking about Cancerian jealousy....I think the sun is about to explode...
Posted by incandescentcancer
The irony here is impossible to beat lolololololololol. A Scorpio asking about Cancerian jealousy....I think the sun is about to explode...
+1
Posted by ellessquePosted by PhoenixRisingPosted by incandescentcancer
The irony here is impossible to beat lolololololololol. A Scorpio asking about Cancerian jealousy....I think the sun is about to explode...
+1
and again.
seems cancers have alot of so called scorpio traits and they mask it quite well.
who woulda thought?click to expand
I always tell scorpio women that. We are very much similar, only the sting is different. Similarly, don't cross a cancer, we will patiently wait to slit the enemy's throat. We just like to wait for the moment when they least expect it.
I don't think Cancers and Scorpios are very different, just that scorpios lack tact.
I find that very interesting. Crabs i know are very tactful bordering on manipulative. However I always find that Scorpios thoughts are virtually written on their forehead. I can literally see the wheels turning...lol.
Posted by ellessque
yeah, i've experienced the opposite.
for example, I have a cancer cousin (female).....on her daughters birthday there was a get together at her mothers house. we were all in the living room and she was going on and on in detail about some sexual position her and her husband tried recently. her husband was in the kitchen (cap) and you know he wanted to be swallowed up by the earth at that moment, you could see it all over his face.
she just kept going on and on despite the fact everyone was a bit uncomfortable and it was awkward AND it was a three year olds birthday party. lol. she didn't skip a beat. i don't ever remember her NOT lacking tact.
scorpios are more private about things. there is a time and a place for everything. if i'm one on one with someone, anything can come out of my mouth. if i'm in a group of two or more, i'm much more careful with my words and actions.
A Cancer doing that almost definitely means they are making some sort of a point to someone present there. A larger story exists in this situation....
Could be other placements, I think it's very rare for a Cancer to do that.
lol@ this thread... and elle's story...OMG!
I would DIE of embarrassment! I agree with Purr and incandescentcancer...
I would DIE of embarrassment! I agree with Purr and incandescentcancer...
Posted by ellessque
lol @ scorpios lack tact.
it's funny you say that, the cancers in my real life....I've often thought the same thing about them. In fact, it's the very reason I distance myself from them.
+2
Posted by incandescentcancer
I find that very interesting. Crabs i know are very tactful bordering on manipulative. However I always find that Scorpios thoughts are virtually written on their forehead. I can literally see the wheels turning...lol.
Posted by Purr
With Scorpios, it's not so much the words that are tactless. It's the disapproving glances, glaring when you say the "wrong" thing, aggressive body language, and watching/visibly judging one's every move to make sure they're doing everything "right" that makes them indiscreet/tactless. Just as rude.
Me thinks Purr's right.
Posted by ellessque
wouldn't it be more productive to make the point to the person directly?
seems kind of spineless and.....tactless. lol
*if* that is what she was doing....but like i said, she's always been that way. take her out to a store or restaurant and she talks like a trucker with a potty mouth, sort of embarrassing.
i don't think i've ever seen any of my scorpio friends behave that way.
but, she might have some other stuff in her chart and it was only one example. *shrugs*
She thinks what she's doing that is cool.
She think's you're cool.
She's doing that thing kid's do of imitating their role models. She basically looks up to you and thinks that kind of behaviour will make you think that she is cool and more importantly would make you think that you two are alike.
It's most likely that she only behaves that way around you and only you.
You're getting it now.
I don't think it really matters if you're actually like that or not, its always possible to misunderstand someone and she quiet possibly misunderstood who you really are. But she does genuinely believe that you're like that and believes what she's doing is a reflection of yourself and your energy. If that makes any sense.
I don't think it really matters if you're actually like that or not, its always possible to misunderstand someone and she quiet possibly misunderstood who you really are. But she does genuinely believe that you're like that and believes what she's doing is a reflection of yourself and your energy. If that makes any sense.
"So, let me ask you this. If my behaviour is a bit seedy and inappropriate with her one on one....that would make her, in turn, behave that way if i am present in a group of people or in public?"
Yes
And I think you just stumbled upon the Cancerian DNA. She could behave like that in public, just to maintain a private inside joke you two have. She is turning her entire universe, public and private, to an inside joke that only you two share for your mutual enjoyment. That is a very Cancerian thing.
Yes
And I think you just stumbled upon the Cancerian DNA. She could behave like that in public, just to maintain a private inside joke you two have. She is turning her entire universe, public and private, to an inside joke that only you two share for your mutual enjoyment. That is a very Cancerian thing.
Posted by BommyKnocker
And I think you just stumbled upon the Cancerian DNA. She could behave like that in public, just to maintain a private inside joke you two have. She is turning her entire universe, public and private, to an inside joke that only you two share for your mutual enjoyment. That is a very Cancerian thing.
you shut up.. you better hide this
but you quoted it, lol.
Posted by Ellybean
Adorable lol.
All Cancerians I know male and female are intensely private and tactful. The men sometimes come off as prudish, the women always have that warm fuzzy happy maternal cancerian feel no matter the circumstance. The men look(to me) to feel uncomfortable in their skin a lot of times. Only met one Cancer man that didn't.
Scorpios are a pinch different. All the men seem to be tactful but will push your boundaries a bit to gauge your character. They are VERY enigmatic(almost in a leo like way) in expression and jokes and humor. However that's the confident mask most carry. As I bonded with them more over time I saw a vast difference in their inner personality and their outer display. All had different ascendants too.
However the Scorpio females... GOOD GAWD SHUT UP.
I only know of two others I deal with fairly regularly, and they drive me nutso if I have to be around them longer than an hour. They throw up drama like they live hungover.
LOL!!! you are soooo funny!! unfortunately you are right too but scorps do grow out of it i promise you. i run at the first sight of drama although i do still like hearing about it, lol.
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1sPosted by Ellybean
Adorable lol.
All Cancerians I know male and female are intensely private and tactful. The men sometimes come off as prudish, the women always have that warm fuzzy happy maternal cancerian feel no matter the circumstance. The men look(to me) to feel uncomfortable in their skin a lot of times. Only met one Cancer man that didn't.
Scorpios are a pinch different. All the men seem to be tactful but will push your boundaries a bit to gauge your character. They are VERY enigmatic(almost in a leo like way) in expression and jokes and humor. However that's the confident mask most carry. As I bonded with them more over time I saw a vast difference in their inner personality and their outer display. All had different ascendants too.
However the Scorpio females... GOOD GAWD SHUT UP.
I only know of two others I deal with fairly regularly, and they drive me nutso if I have to be around them longer than an hour. They throw up drama like they live hungover.
LOL!!! you are soooo funny!! unfortunately you are right too but scorps do grow out of it i promise you.click to expand
^^^^This.
I'm Cancer with Scorpio moon and I can definitely be both tactless and tactful depending on situation and audience.
I'm also a pretty jealous person (drives my cappy nuts)
I'm also a pretty jealous person (drives my cappy nuts)
^hehehe
sorry, just something different from 'lol'
i mean the word "lol" has taken on a another meaning altogether. A word that5 stands alone as a word itself, rather than the proper abbreviataed meaning. A word that exudes femininity and gayness. A word that reminds me of a fella called Prince Pisces. A word that automatically brings up disturbing images of a yellow mop
i think i caught the crab out in a bit of a fib this morning. he's been saying some pretty bad things about the leo guy who introduced us who i had a bit of a thing with and still kinda like. he's not mentioned his name since i asked him not to which is good but when we were together this morning, he mentioned something that was in stark contrast to what he'd said about the leo and when i mentioned it, he kinda didn't seem to know what i was talking about.
i hope that makes sense cos the detail would be plain-ass boring.
the thing is that the leo recently texted me to ask if i was ignoring him as i've ignored previous communication from him too. tbh, it was only cos he was dicking me around that i was ignoring him but what the crab told me put the tin lid on that and i have now severed all communication with the leo. i mean it's good cos i wanted to and chose to of my own volition but i just feel like i've been 'steered' a bit into this direction by the crab's misinformation on the leo.
i know it seems insignificant but when someone embellishes things, i'm dumb enough to believe them if i happen to like the person who's telling me. i was with a horrendous player for over 20 years and it all starts with little white lies aimed at manipulating you.
don't know if it's paranoia but i've decided that as i was gonna ignore the leo anyway, it's no biggie as such but deffo a little red flag don't you think?
what's the crabbie take.
i hope that makes sense cos the detail would be plain-ass boring.
the thing is that the leo recently texted me to ask if i was ignoring him as i've ignored previous communication from him too. tbh, it was only cos he was dicking me around that i was ignoring him but what the crab told me put the tin lid on that and i have now severed all communication with the leo. i mean it's good cos i wanted to and chose to of my own volition but i just feel like i've been 'steered' a bit into this direction by the crab's misinformation on the leo.
i know it seems insignificant but when someone embellishes things, i'm dumb enough to believe them if i happen to like the person who's telling me. i was with a horrendous player for over 20 years and it all starts with little white lies aimed at manipulating you.
don't know if it's paranoia but i've decided that as i was gonna ignore the leo anyway, it's no biggie as such but deffo a little red flag don't you think?
what's the crabbie take.
I'd love to give you a simple answer but I just can't. And I'm too tired so I probably won't make sense, either way.
Cancer man = Protector/ Nurturer.
in this case, protector. I don't really know about other crabs, but we don't really care about limits. We will do whatever we want to do whichever way we want to do it whenever we feel like it. It's just a coincidence that we are actually nice people and when we choose to not give a fuck, ifts about something we feel is worth it.
So this crab guy, wants to protect himself/feelings/investment in the relationship so he uses his manipulation skills. Nothing extraordinary about that.. Cancers manipulate.. deal with it. The interesting part is that he included you in the equation, that he was also protecting you from leo guy. He was protecting the infant of a relationship, again using any means necessary, to get rid of leo. That's very typical and it will happen billions of times should the relationship develop.
Do I think its a flag? Fuck no. I did that same thing, would do.. actually.. will do that same thing. I completely understand what/why he's doing it.
Should you be concerned ?
Yes and no.. overall.. yes.
You shouldn't be concerned because he will always do that to protect you and the relationship.
You should be concerned because he is limiting your voice in the relationship.
He will probably do this same thing, albeit in different flavours, to distance you from some of your friends/associates that he doesn't like or insecure off. I don't know if scorpio's like feeling secure or not, but give him too much space and time and you will feel really really secure.
Basically, the word "clingy" is often misused when talking about cancer men. We're not clingy. But we can get suffocatingly close to you. Give this guy too much power and he will do just that. Its the downside of Bonnie & Clyde, they're very very close.. but its only the two of them, together, all the fucking time.
I'm really trying to say a lot with that sentence and I hope you understood what I was trying to say. He will do whatever he needs to do to create and maintain a bonnie & clyde reality. Nothing tragic or silly, he will just make the entire universe or anything other than you and him, absolutely irrelevant, using his charm, sex appeal, whit and whatever else cancers are known for. That's the cancerian experience.
Cancer man = Protector/ Nurturer.
in this case, protector. I don't really know about other crabs, but we don't really care about limits. We will do whatever we want to do whichever way we want to do it whenever we feel like it. It's just a coincidence that we are actually nice people and when we choose to not give a fuck, ifts about something we feel is worth it.
So this crab guy, wants to protect himself/feelings/investment in the relationship so he uses his manipulation skills. Nothing extraordinary about that.. Cancers manipulate.. deal with it. The interesting part is that he included you in the equation, that he was also protecting you from leo guy. He was protecting the infant of a relationship, again using any means necessary, to get rid of leo. That's very typical and it will happen billions of times should the relationship develop.
Do I think its a flag? Fuck no. I did that same thing, would do.. actually.. will do that same thing. I completely understand what/why he's doing it.
Should you be concerned ?
Yes and no.. overall.. yes.
You shouldn't be concerned because he will always do that to protect you and the relationship.
You should be concerned because he is limiting your voice in the relationship.
He will probably do this same thing, albeit in different flavours, to distance you from some of your friends/associates that he doesn't like or insecure off. I don't know if scorpio's like feeling secure or not, but give him too much space and time and you will feel really really secure.
Basically, the word "clingy" is often misused when talking about cancer men. We're not clingy. But we can get suffocatingly close to you. Give this guy too much power and he will do just that. Its the downside of Bonnie & Clyde, they're very very close.. but its only the two of them, together, all the fucking time.
I'm really trying to say a lot with that sentence and I hope you understood what I was trying to say. He will do whatever he needs to do to create and maintain a bonnie & clyde reality. Nothing tragic or silly, he will just make the entire universe or anything other than you and him, absolutely irrelevant, using his charm, sex appeal, whit and whatever else cancers are known for. That's the cancerian experience.
You need to figure out when to draw the line and this isn't it. Just be aware of what's going on.
And btw, you're so unfucking believably smitten by this guy, he knows it. He shouldn't be getting away with what he's getting away with at this stage. When he said that you probably love him or whatever he said, he does believe it and its probably true.
You need to figure out your position at this moment with this guy. You reached a stage of power negotiation and that's a horrible stage to be unaware of.
Basically.. don't forget you're dealing with a water sign.
And btw, you're so unfucking believably smitten by this guy, he knows it. He shouldn't be getting away with what he's getting away with at this stage. When he said that you probably love him or whatever he said, he does believe it and its probably true.
You need to figure out your position at this moment with this guy. You reached a stage of power negotiation and that's a horrible stage to be unaware of.
Basically.. don't forget you're dealing with a water sign.
well i must confess that yes, i am rather smitten with him but i'm still fighting it cos it's only been 5 weeks ffs!!
i'm worried about him being the 'voice' of the relationship too. he bends over backwards to help me out with some business crap i have to sort out to the degree that he asks others for relevant info and that makes me feel a bit exposed cos i HATE people knowing my business or even enough to base their nutty assumptions on. people i've never met are saying hi to me by name...i don't like that either.
each time i see him, he reveals a bit more of himself, as i'm sure i do too which is precisely the reason we can't possibly have love feelings at this stage.
i'm worried about him being the 'voice' of the relationship too. he bends over backwards to help me out with some business crap i have to sort out to the degree that he asks others for relevant info and that makes me feel a bit exposed cos i HATE people knowing my business or even enough to base their nutty assumptions on. people i've never met are saying hi to me by name...i don't like that either.
each time i see him, he reveals a bit more of himself, as i'm sure i do too which is precisely the reason we can't possibly have love feelings at this stage.
So what, you're going to wait years until there are no more pieces of him for you to learn about before you allow yourself to love him ?
I think that makes sense.
5 weeks is too early to talk about love, unless you're a cancer man or a libra woman. Period.
But, I did want to point out that there is no logic in what you said. It will take you years if not a life time to completely know someone. It wouldn't make sense to hold back yourself till then. And just tying it down to a duration is stupendous. Saying its okay to give in because its been 4 months instead of 5 weeks, its just as insane and being in love in 5 weeks.
Trust you're own feelings and go with the flow. This is down to basics, Cancer man, Scorpio woman. You don't need threads and lessons to know how to deal with these situations and cancer men. It's supposed to be instinctive for you. So, trust your instincts.. and you will be fine.
I think that makes sense.
5 weeks is too early to talk about love, unless you're a cancer man or a libra woman. Period.
But, I did want to point out that there is no logic in what you said. It will take you years if not a life time to completely know someone. It wouldn't make sense to hold back yourself till then. And just tying it down to a duration is stupendous. Saying its okay to give in because its been 4 months instead of 5 weeks, its just as insane and being in love in 5 weeks.
Trust you're own feelings and go with the flow. This is down to basics, Cancer man, Scorpio woman. You don't need threads and lessons to know how to deal with these situations and cancer men. It's supposed to be instinctive for you. So, trust your instincts.. and you will be fine.
and the whole bend over backwards thing is Cancer man DNA. He's not trying to compensate for anything or create leverage for future manipulation/situations.
Just the whole voice thing, which i'm glad you figured out and you have many options and lots of time to deal with.
Just the whole voice thing, which i'm glad you figured out and you have many options and lots of time to deal with.
Posted by R1g0rM0rT1s
well i must confess that yes, i am rather smitten with him but i'm still fighting it cos it's only been 5 weeks ffs!!
Do you two have any Uranus contacts to personal planets in synastry? Or does he have any in his chart?
Uranus is sudden and instant. It doesn't take time to develop. It hits like a bolt of lightening and it is seamless "knowing". Love at first interaction, sort of thing. Guilty.. *raises hand* Venus square Uranus... very rare, but when it happens.. Holy hell!
Reading this makes me think about my relationship with my scorp. I'm a cancer female. I also have a scorp mom. And other family memembers that are scorps. Liike scrp being privent. I'm am more privent then my scorp boyfriend, he would say anything out his mouth and hold back on stupid things. With him he is not really holding back on purpose he just don't think on things after is happen very absent minded. He just come off privent. He have told people things that I felt like he should have kept to his self. Onetime we was act a dinner with family and one of his aunts says ecent I love your hair, your hair always looks nice, he yells out across the room saying yess I love when she wear that wig. Omg I laugh so hard but I was thinking dam how did he no I wanted everyboby to no that.
Also I no some scorps who tell me all there bussiness and one meet up but when u ask them a question like how many kids u have they get withdraw. U can tell me ahout all the guy u fuck and how u slice someone tirer but get weird when I say o how many kids u have.
I have a coworker scorp female who always talk bad about her husband she talks about how bad he smells ,how weak sex is. She even sad bad things about her teen child. But she was secretive about. Were she buy her car frm cheap. Weird shit
Scorp and cancers can be manipulative and jealous. A scorp would try to manipulate by making u believe that there way is better by giving u reason and they would make it seem like it came from your self. Exam I want a puppy ,scorp dnt want a dog ,he decide to name all the reason why a dog would be in my way cause I am so busy ,he talks about how I'm doing so much big things and this dog would just tired me out. A bunch of bullshit. Cancers manipulate by making others feel secure.
Also I no some scorps who tell me all there bussiness and one meet up but when u ask them a question like how many kids u have they get withdraw. U can tell me ahout all the guy u fuck and how u slice someone tirer but get weird when I say o how many kids u have.
I have a coworker scorp female who always talk bad about her husband she talks about how bad he smells ,how weak sex is. She even sad bad things about her teen child. But she was secretive about. Were she buy her car frm cheap. Weird shit
Scorp and cancers can be manipulative and jealous. A scorp would try to manipulate by making u believe that there way is better by giving u reason and they would make it seem like it came from your self. Exam I want a puppy ,scorp dnt want a dog ,he decide to name all the reason why a dog would be in my way cause I am so busy ,he talks about how I'm doing so much big things and this dog would just tired me out. A bunch of bullshit. Cancers manipulate by making others feel secure.
Cancer sun and venus here and I'm not jealous at all!usually when I see a lot of competition I just give up but maybe it depends on how strong my feelings are for the person.I've only had very strong feelings for a guy in my life and he was interested in a tone of girls and dated some of them , to this day I can still tell that if he comes around I will feel the same affection for him ==> CANCERIAN LOYALTY DEMOSNTRATED. I don't mind a little bit of drama but jealousy is something that makes me uncomfortable and a turn off for me.Maybe it's my the sag moon though.
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