Kickin' me out and pull me in

Hallu!

i was wondering why cancer seems to be so insecure , and coward sometimes.
we've been friend for so long and he know that i love him.
he treat me nicely and indeed he's caring and kind. but the next day he will act so cold and heartless.
eventho' we've been friend like more than 5 years but with his mood swings and love to run away when problem occurred might pissed me off and i dont know how to react to his attitude.

that day, last month as i remember, we fought. really bad and he said he treat me so cold n etc because he want me to stop liking him. so then he decided that we should be not more than just a stranger.

i was soooo tired with his drama and back and forth kind of decision.
i love him even when he treat me so bad but that time i just follow what he asked.
so then, on valentine day, he suddenly text me. i dont know if i should reply or not.
my heart seems tasteless and im afraid if i reply i will just hurt him or maybe he will misunderstood me, like always.

then after 2, 3 hours.. i replied with just "hi 😉"
with hope everything is gonna be alright.

then he reply and the text message seems to be cold and i dont feel good when i read it even it just a simple question "how are u" without a question mark.

i keep on calming myself and try to text him nicely and after texting for awhile and he disappeared. again..

what should i do? should i just ignore him or find him?
may i know the reason why he treat me that way? like all the time.
im tired but im not saying im giving up.
im never madly in love like this before.

we both had made confession before and both knowing that we hv that "special feeling" towards each others but..
i dont know how to make it work..

help me ;(

What sign are you sweetie if you don't mind me asking?

Posted by crabRiot
What sign are you sweetie if you don't mind me asking?

im an aquarius =)

Looking way too into it. That's why you don't text people when you're talking about real shit

Posted by StarChild63
Looking way too into it. That's why you don't text people when you're talking about real shit

pardon? =P

to be honest i really need a solution because i'm tired with back and forth kinda game he put me through.

it's not i'm hating him but i hate how he suddenly find me then disappeared without explanation.

and it happened on valentine day. never expect that he would find me anymore because we had make a deal to be a total stranger (his decision). but now what.. i try not to text him or find him , delete his no and all..

i try to give him space and to the extent that i feel like there's no use to wait and just giving up.

on valentine day i tried to hide my sadness, but my sister caught me cried when i was sleeping. all i think about was him.. never thought it could be so painful.

i try to understand every move he made, every decision, every words, but i cant figure it out..

he say he want me to just forget him, i did that .. but he come back again..

i dont know what to do anymore... im truly love him and want to understand him well...

but he don't try to speak it out and leave me hanging all the time....

I missed the part about it being valentines day. I take back what I said completely sorry. I think what's happening here is 5year thing, push and pull with cancer-you guys must have another one of those crazy intense love bonds like a lot of people on here do? The awful thing you gotta put up with from cancers is you should always listen to what they tell you out their mouth and you should never listen to what they say out their mouth. They are crabs--they don't move forward-they move side to side then 3 steps backwards then forward. This is their way of getting comfortable with the person and maybe testing them out to see if both people in the relationship are meant for each other. When crabs don't like you and seriously mean it and tell you--and never showed any type of interest--they mean it. But crabs that are in deep like or love tend to say shit like that and not mean it or mean it at the time and not for good or say shit like that just to see if you'll still love them when they're rotten. But if a crab is rotten and you still love them they'll either love you more or lose respect for you. So by giving him the space he said he wanted you did the right thing. Now that you backed off he doesn't know how to comeback. Seeing how he cameback with a TEXT saying Hi...he was hoping you would be the one to step up and lead a conversation that would lead to you two getting up for vday. But when cancers are confused and in love they say the least to the person so that's probably why he couldn't come back with nothing.

Or he could be looking for something to bang because he was feeling lonely because it was vday. I think this could be a strong possibility because he didn't pick the conversation up and run with it he just ran. Maybe he was waiting on you to say more like you want him back or some shit. But he's a man and he's the one who said that foul shit so don't bend for him. Let him comeback to you and do it the right way or else he will keep doing that stupid shit. But all in all I think he is at least thinking of you. But if you want to you can just ask him straight up why are you returning when you told me to not talk to you. I care about you but I won't let you come back without being clear on our boundaries. Don't text call

Thanks for you advice and everything..

I text him and say that im truly appreciate that he texted me and i know that he ever thought about me once is enough for me..

And it happened on valentine day.. Its nothing but for me its something to be remembered ..

I guess i dont hv to txt him back anymore and dont ever disturb him. Myb you are right.. I just think that He's lonely and was thinking bout me for once.. Nothing more than that..

Its sad.. Bcause honestly i want to do so much thing with him but i never had chance to do so. He stay far away and only fly back to his hometown once or twice ..

To be frank, i never try to find someone else before bcause i was deeply devoted with him and i thought he would be my last , my husband.. I dont know how to mend my broken heart anymore.. All the hope is gone..😢

I hope he realize that im the one that always stick thru thick and thin, accept all his flaws and all.. Maybe im not enough and im full of flaws.. Dunno what else to do to make him realize .. 😢

I just hope i can meet him one day , face to face.. Because texting or calling doesnt help much on relationship, for me.. I will make that one fine day as a moment i want to treat him and showered him with love , even just for once.. Cuz we met only few times and it was in hurry and he always bring someone else.. I only want to spend time with just both of us , treat him right.. And make him feel my love. So i dont need to worry if we are not meant to be tghtr but atleast we ended it with a beautiful memory.. Thats enough..

So you're in love like that with him and you only met him a few times? How is that possible? What's the story with you guys? How did you two end? I'm almost sure hell come back but with cancers knowing each other's boundaries and communicating is the most important thing. Everything else is bliss. If you get that then you can have it all.

Posted by StarChild63
So you're in love like that with him and you only met him a few times? How is that possible? What's the story with you guys? How did you two end? I'm almost sure hell come back but with cancers knowing each other's boundaries and communicating is the most important thing. Everything else is bliss. If you get that then you can have it all.

actually, he's my school mate, and he knows about my feeling because my friend told him about it. and start from that very moment, we decide to be friend and keep in touch but.. on and off. as he is busy with his study (oversea), we don't have chances to go out together except when he came back for holiday (which is just twice a year)... we do hang out just both of us once or twice but he like to bring his relative and idk why...

maybe with this "long distance kind of relationship". it's hard to show my true feelings as we only rely on skype and texting.. and we can't settle any prob face to face.. and i can't treat him and do what ever things that memorable cuz of the distance.

on valentine day, he tried to approach me one more time as my heart is still aching, and i'm nearly give up with all his decision that kinda selfish but i follow what he wanted me to do - be a totally stranger, that what he asked me to do.

but now, he once again texting me like nothing happened, and when i reply, he replied with such a cold-hearted and i can't even fathom why he act in such manners.

he's indeed caring and kind.. but all his act makes me confused (suddenly being cold and heartless).

it give me such a hard time to understand his true feelings and everytime i feel deeply sad and suddenly all the memories haunting me, making me sleepless, he appeared and disappeared.

i was very clingy before (when i was teenager) but slowly i try to keep my distance and give him more spaces so the relationship can flow better without any dissatisfaction.

i don't know if im the one who obsessed with him, but he admit that everytime we met, he can't handle his lust and all he want is to hug me and cuddle me and you know what next. =P

and again, he contacting me.. but this time he's different. not the one that cold hearted like what he act on that valentine day. he was so caring and asking about my health and everything, caring and kind just like the old him..

sometimes i wonder if he hv this kind of split pe

*sometimes i wonder if he hv this kind of split personality or its just him =P

but i do hope i can fix this because i dont really think to get a new one ..

It's sad that only ladies answering and debate about this kind of Cancer male behavior.. Hey, crab guys, this is a real big quetstion for you!