Bella79
@Bella79
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Leo girl and Cancer man
leokitten,thanks
It's just I have not spoken to him for 3 days.So,I started with the mushy stuff.
We have been chatting to each other for over year now. And just always when we wanted to hookup something would happen and we never did. So, we just decided that all this it happening for a reson and we will meet when we had to and will not force things.This went on for a good 3-4 months.
But I will try to play it cool.After we were making out. the next day He smsed me and asked me "what now".
It's just I have not spoken to him for 3 days.So,I started with the mushy stuff.
We have been chatting to each other for over year now. And just always when we wanted to hookup something would happen and we never did. So, we just decided that all this it happening for a reson and we will meet when we had to and will not force things.This went on for a good 3-4 months.
But I will try to play it cool.After we were making out. the next day He smsed me and asked me "what now".
leokitten, I really don't know and he is also not saying anything. He is use to live his life like this.We chatted/flirted last night for a while.He is kinda shy and polite. But once he got into it he enjoyed it.
OK, I also found out that he is in fact 16 years older then me...We know each others history especial concerning our recent realtionship history.
((Just play it cool with cancer boy - let things develop naturally, cuz once we get there, We will ROCK YOUR WORLD LEO!! ))
CANCERBUDDY,I really hope so.
OK, I also found out that he is in fact 16 years older then me...We know each others history especial concerning our recent realtionship history.
((Just play it cool with cancer boy - let things develop naturally, cuz once we get there, We will ROCK YOUR WORLD LEO!! ))
CANCERBUDDY,I really hope so.
"At first being a leo I got all uptight about him not responding to me the way I wanted. But now I know that is just how he is.e.g. He is away for Business so I send him an sms yesterday to say that I kinda missed him and he replied. "Thats nice to know" and talked about the weather. "
I'm going to probably get bashed for saying this but I'ma say it anyway, this is a RED FLAG, if he's not responding how you like NOW, this isn't going to change and mostly will get much worse as times goes by so please ask yourself if you can live with this because he's not going to change his patterns to soothe you in anyway, I hope the texting is reciprocal and not jus you sending text all the time, if you are then stop it, don't chase him for affection UNLESS your happy with it, don't fall prey to the imaginary relationship were your just having this sms, email, periodic phone call relationship...not saying this is your situation but be mindful of his patterns and ask yourself is this OK now and if it is ok will it be ok 6 months from now ie can I live with it.
again I'm not telling you what to do Bella
"I also so afraid that once he gets back and we actually start having an intimate relationship That it will be let down since we can't wait to see eachother."
But if you feel these intense emotions, take a chapter out of LK's cancer manual and make sure before you give your body to him that he understands what you want from him, please don't think that he will just automatically know what you want because you decided to have sexual relations with him, if you don't feel your confident enough to say hey if I sleep with you I expect a relationship (committed) then you may want to hold off until you figure out what you want out of this union
as for sex, can't help you out, never had the pleasure with a cancer man
I'm going to probably get bashed for saying this but I'ma say it anyway, this is a RED FLAG, if he's not responding how you like NOW, this isn't going to change and mostly will get much worse as times goes by so please ask yourself if you can live with this because he's not going to change his patterns to soothe you in anyway, I hope the texting is reciprocal and not jus you sending text all the time, if you are then stop it, don't chase him for affection UNLESS your happy with it, don't fall prey to the imaginary relationship were your just having this sms, email, periodic phone call relationship...not saying this is your situation but be mindful of his patterns and ask yourself is this OK now and if it is ok will it be ok 6 months from now ie can I live with it.
again I'm not telling you what to do Bella
"I also so afraid that once he gets back and we actually start having an intimate relationship That it will be let down since we can't wait to see eachother."
But if you feel these intense emotions, take a chapter out of LK's cancer manual and make sure before you give your body to him that he understands what you want from him, please don't think that he will just automatically know what you want because you decided to have sexual relations with him, if you don't feel your confident enough to say hey if I sleep with you I expect a relationship (committed) then you may want to hold off until you figure out what you want out of this union
as for sex, can't help you out, never had the pleasure with a cancer man
"(the last 5x together, I suggested we get together - nothing from him). what a major disappointment - major!"
LOL, yeah leo men are hard to pin down but if he really really digs you then he would make time for you unless he has so many women on the fly he can't keep up with everyone oh and they sulk tons so he may be off in his cave sulking and licking his wounds, never know.
LOL, yeah leo men are hard to pin down but if he really really digs you then he would make time for you unless he has so many women on the fly he can't keep up with everyone oh and they sulk tons so he may be off in his cave sulking and licking his wounds, never know.
oh and bella, cut out the role playing and sexy mushy stuff THIS WILL NOT KEEP HIM CLOSE, just be natural, be yourself and let him initiate more, don't chase him down, let him SHOW you he's digging you, thats the only way you will know if he's serious, yeah cut out that sex stuff, that has never kept a man around, not for very long. Be sexy if thats who you are but don't get him all geared up thinking something is going down the next time you meet and really all you want is some time and attention from him, he will probably dub you as a tease so don't do it unless your prepared to follow through with giving up the booty.
tiki33, thanks.
He calls and sms too. So, it is not completely one sided. He got back friday morning and went straight to the golf course. He skipped the gala dinner and we went to dinner. We did talk about where things are going.
I just need to take it slow... And see how things go.
He calls and sms too. So, it is not completely one sided. He got back friday morning and went straight to the golf course. He skipped the gala dinner and we went to dinner. We did talk about where things are going.
I just need to take it slow... And see how things go.
LK, did I miss something about a wife, kids and facebook?
I took it off.
The kids added me to facebook.And have been chatting to me. His' got cool kids.I just got scared. Then I wanted to know whats up— He wanted to know why I am acting so needy.
The divorce is going through on the 3 November.
I really need to think about what I am getting myself into. Maybe I just liked the attention. And I really just need to deal with my emotional baggage.
He is right I am acting crazy so I am just going to take a time out.I just feel so messed up right now. My emotions are all over the place.
The kids added me to facebook.And have been chatting to me. His' got cool kids.I just got scared. Then I wanted to know whats up— He wanted to know why I am acting so needy.
The divorce is going through on the 3 November.
I really need to think about what I am getting myself into. Maybe I just liked the attention. And I really just need to deal with my emotional baggage.
He is right I am acting crazy so I am just going to take a time out.I just feel so messed up right now. My emotions are all over the place.
No, I am not blaming anyone. I need to come correct.
He wanted to know why I am acting so needy.And asking the same questions over and over again.I said some things and now he is ignoring me.
I just gonna stay single for a while. And get my act together.
Bella,
It looks like you've just gotten out of a relationship with a Libra man, correct? Then your best friend passed away (sorry to hear that) and now you are trying to get involved with a married (almost divorced) Cancer man with whom you have some involvement with his kids. Would all of this be accurate?
If so, I really feel that you need to take some time for yourself right now. No wonder your emotions are all over the place looking at the series of events that have occurred recently in your life. I believe the worst thing you can do right now is get involved with anyone right now especially this Cancer man. You two are probably just going to be rebound relationships for each other and end up even more hurt than you are now.
This Cancer is not ready for a relationship they just don't let go that easy. I think you need to focus on yourself and start building some emotional stability for yourself. If you're not emotionally stable there is no way you can ever deal with a Cancer man. I would say just be friends (no sex) with no expectations or otherwise you run the risk of setting yourself up for major disappointment. Both of you are vulnerable right now and if you ever want to be anything more than a booty call to this guy then work on getting yourself together, be his friend (without benefits) and have no expectations.
I would be cautious in getting involved with any man about to be divorced. In a lot of cases the first relationship after a breakup/divorce is just a rebound. Seeking the attention and affection lost because of a breakup is a setup for further heartbreak in my opinion and you run the risk of scaring this Cancer man away. Slow down, focus on your emotional security and if he really cares about you he's not going anywhere...he will wait for you and respect you more for it.
It looks like you've just gotten out of a relationship with a Libra man, correct? Then your best friend passed away (sorry to hear that) and now you are trying to get involved with a married (almost divorced) Cancer man with whom you have some involvement with his kids. Would all of this be accurate?
If so, I really feel that you need to take some time for yourself right now. No wonder your emotions are all over the place looking at the series of events that have occurred recently in your life. I believe the worst thing you can do right now is get involved with anyone right now especially this Cancer man. You two are probably just going to be rebound relationships for each other and end up even more hurt than you are now.
This Cancer is not ready for a relationship they just don't let go that easy. I think you need to focus on yourself and start building some emotional stability for yourself. If you're not emotionally stable there is no way you can ever deal with a Cancer man. I would say just be friends (no sex) with no expectations or otherwise you run the risk of setting yourself up for major disappointment. Both of you are vulnerable right now and if you ever want to be anything more than a booty call to this guy then work on getting yourself together, be his friend (without benefits) and have no expectations.
I would be cautious in getting involved with any man about to be divorced. In a lot of cases the first relationship after a breakup/divorce is just a rebound. Seeking the attention and affection lost because of a breakup is a setup for further heartbreak in my opinion and you run the risk of scaring this Cancer man away. Slow down, focus on your emotional security and if he really cares about you he's not going anywhere...he will wait for you and respect you more for it.
I just don't want anyone right now.
I have not had sex with him. I like him and I guess you are right about the rebound thing.
But for now I just feel strange.Like this calmness mixed with nothing.These guys are not even that important anymore. I just don't want to feel like this anymore.
I really just need to deal with my issues and baggage right. And not drag someone else into my emotional unstability.
I have not had sex with him. I like him and I guess you are right about the rebound thing.
But for now I just feel strange.Like this calmness mixed with nothing.These guys are not even that important anymore. I just don't want to feel like this anymore.
I really just need to deal with my issues and baggage right. And not drag someone else into my emotional unstability.
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I also so afraid that once he gets back and we actually start having an intimate relationship That it will be let down since we can't wait to see eachother.
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