Let's be real for a minute

A lot of people don't think straight on this site and wonder why they get the results they get. It's not even a astrology or cancer thing it's common sense. If you diss someone expect to be dissed back. If you have horrible shady ass communication expect to get horrible shady ass relationship results. If play hard to get when someone was trying hard to get you eventually a person will give up and move on to the next and will cut you off. If you go around doing grimey shit to people it's going to come back to you. A lot of people do shady shit to people and turn around and demand the respect of the other person and throw temper tantrums and the blame game. A lot of people are emotionally invested in multiple people at one time or even physically active with more then one person at a time then turn around and wonder why the person they want is giving distance or eventually did the same. It makes me believe most people come on here just to talk and not solve any problems. It's very easy. Just learn how to honesty put yourself in someone else's shoes then think if you want that same treatment for yourself. Common sense. I'm tired of reading the same type of stories over and over and over again. These are people who can't be accountable for their wrongdoings and apologize or be real about the shit. I'm talking about people in general. There was someone on here wondering what's wrong with her love life and when you got down to it you find out she was in one relationship with someone but also emotionally tied to about 5 other people. Common sense will tell you none of her relationships will ever go anywhere and she will alw

Common sense will tell you none of her relationships will ever go anywhere and she will always be confused and dudes will always step out on her ass because of it--of course until she learns to be emotionally dependent on herself and confident enough to live a satisfying relationship with one person only. I see dudes too. Some dudes sit up here and post fake ass sexual escapade rants knowing damn well they are not happy living that type of life. I've been here. You badly want love but yet we fuck random joints to make us feel better about having love lost but really it's almost just as bad as being lonely. It just makes you empty inside. Lots of people shoot for things they really don't want and deny the things that matter the most but then wonder why they are in satisfied and depressed.

Relationships in this day in age are suffering because of simple shit that can easily be solved. It's almost as if people prefer misery and pain when they can have it all. All for what? Pride? To look a certain way to other men or women? Dominance? Codependency? Not worth it to me.

This is one of the few times I agree with someone else's rant. I felt like a dumb@ $ $ when I asked my question about my Cancer Man because the solution was obvious: f***ing talk to him about it. We all have our moron moments...although some have more than others.

Well you have to admit that when emotions are involved, rationality goes out the window. Sometimes it helps to get an outsider's perspective. Sometimes talking to other people helps you see things in a different way and lovely light bulbs go off that would have otherwise remained dim. And I completely agree that if you can't talk to the person you're dating, you indeed have problems. Although in some cases (mine, for example), that may not be the case so much as fear of saying/doing the wrong thing (especially when you already screwed up BIG time). I can understand wanting to get the point of view of others.

I've been there too. We've all been here. But at some point we learn and grow. I'm still working on it it's a process. I won't deny what my heart wants any longer. I can't.

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Amen! totally agree
There are a lot of dysfunctional characters on here but we can't help everyone. Some people are just here to vent and not take advice.

No it's about learning to help yourself and have more self awareness and better human relationship skills so you can have more meaningful relationships with the people you want and love. It's about being honest with yourself and others. It's about putting your head and your heart on the same path. It's about living a life of love instead of one of confusion and torture. It's about learning how to take off that fake mask amnd enjoying your life as who you are. It's about not fearing or overthinking or under thinking anymore. Like I said I been there so I don't want to ridicule anybody I want to lend out a hand and show people how to be happy with what they have. I'm the last one to point fingers at someone else. I've been in desperate crazy love and I've also been on the side where I used tons of women for sex and social gratification. But when it all comes down to it that's no way to live. There's enough happiness in the universe to feed us all-that's what my cancer always says. I've just learned so much and grown and I think we can all do better with these things in mind.