libra needs help w/her cancer

my cancer bfd made me very jealous w/a coworker. (she called him at home).....so i retaliated by saying great stuff about my cutie boss. i regret it and hope he forgives me. i dont like my boss. i was just pissed that some girl called him at 9 am! i was very jealous and in secure.

Lola~

I hope that you don't mind me being blunt here but it is exactly these type of games that we play that destroy relationships. Your Cancer bfd did not make you jealous, you chose to react in a jealous way. You were pissed so you took it out on him...it was not his fault. You may need to look at why this was upsetting to you and work on that.

Ask for his forgiveness~

Freebird

Hey Lola~

I just reread my post to you and to me it sort of sounded a bit harsh. I am sorry as this was not my intention for it to be so.

Please accept my apologies...

Freebird

it wasn't a game. i wasn't thinking. a game is when you think in a calculating way of how to hurt someone. my natural female instinct took over that i want him to desire ME. i should add that i don't have his home telephone number. he never gave it to me saying i can reach him at the office. this was the core of my jealousy. that a woman in his office can call him at home but i cannot even though i sleep there. i am very good to him. i did not make a scene or fight....i kissed him, told him to have a great day....and left as i normally would as he was on his way to a meeting. i might add that i told him he never have me his number so he muttered it out and i said no, i dont want it cuz i ask i want it to come from your heart.

Hi Lola~

Yes, you are absolutely correct about the "game" thing. I knew a guy who enjoyed being this way. Drove me nuts and he drove me away!

Lola, he must desire you if he is with you but one thing does make me wonder....why has he not given you his home number before now? This seem strange to me.

Don't know? Maybe he is afraid I will bother him too much - fear of commitment? That's why when he offered it after the incident I told him no. I want him to WANT me to call him. I don't have his cell phone number either. I think it is a control issue. I brought it up once....and his response was "you've always been able to reach me at work"....that was all I needed to hear. I don't think he is married or engaged. We do spend the weekends together. Also, I got pissed that that woman called him because she's a tramp who wants his money. I don't trust her!!! I told him I would never call MY boss at 9 a.m. on a Sunday at his home! OOH...don't get me started. It's five days later and I am still burning over this...but I don't want jealousy to interfere. I love him a lot and want to make it work. My ex-boyfriend is a cancer and he doesn't even call me now as friends...though when we were together he was faithful. They are kind of cheap though. As a libra I love to help people if I have something they don't have. Both these cancers had tons of money but would come to my decrepit apartment and not help w/the rent or buy me a t.v. etc. knowing that I am dirt poor! I couldn't be like that with someone I love. I am poor....but when I have money i give it to those who have less. I need help. He's sweet ..but I don't know if he really loves me. I have been a very compliant libra thus far.

lola, dont take this as mean, but why would you expect him to help with your rent. why should it cost him money to hang out with u.

i just broke up with a libra two weeks ago she never offered to pay for anything,and im not talking about expensive things either. i think a libra is too dependant a creature for a cancer. i felt like she was very superfical and was very good at lipservice(telling people what they want to hear) i think cancer and libra look for a stronger partner than themselves and they dont get that with each other. im looking more for partnership, a pooling of resources not a draining of my pool.(ok, not funny) i think it gives the cancer a feeling of being used. i mowed her lawn for her once and she would have liked that to be my permanant job, i have my own lawn to mow, and if you cant take care of the things u have u shouldnt have them. cancers are more for emotional support not monetary.

lola, dont take this as wrong, im just making observations, not personally attacking libras. i think the differences in personality could cause a cancer to hold back. my libra had all my phonenumbers though.

I thought the woman had cancer forgod sake. these dam things don't make much sence.

Just keep hanging in there, Jake..you will catch on 😉

your ignorance is funny.

CJ7 - You got it all wrong. I want nothing from the man I am with. What I meant is that as a Libra I always help those w/less than me. I have less than him. Get it? I give the shirt off my back. I do w/out so others may have. This is just how I am. I don't want his money. I have met many rich men in my life. I love this guy. I have also loved poor guys. My point is that I have noticed that Cancers are sometimes cheap. Ex. why are you resentful that the girl had you mow her lawn? did YOU expect something in return?? Why should she pay for anything? She's the woman and libra's are VERY feminine! However, I buy my boyfriend stuff and offer to pay for stuff all the time because I LOVE to pamper him. By the way, I always say what I feel and most of the time this is complimenting people a lot. The cancer I dated in the past called me a Bull shi''er. I wasn't but if him and his cancer sister/and father couldnt take a compliment w/out becoming paranoid...i couldn't help them. Thank God my current cancer loves all the sincere compliments I give him! Maybe he is a leo rising!

cancers maybe cheap, i always think about money, i worry about having enough. i did and still do care for my libra, dont get me wrong, she can be very sweet and loving, and i did pay for everything we did and we did some cool things. her venus was in scorpio and she has a cancer moon, which is what made it feel comfortable. i think the problem is that i just didnt love her and couldnt let myself be emotionally free enough to.

the lawn thing was my idea by the way, i thought i was helping her, i just didnt want to add that chore to my list of many things i already have to take care of for myself. being a libra she always wanted me to come over or be around her which gave me much less time to do those things i need to do for myself. why should i pay for everything, she never paid for anything nor did she offer. the " im a woman and helpless, please take care of me" is not very attractive to me. there are women out there, with drive and ambition and thats what i like.

lola i do like libras, my sister is a libra, i have friends that are libras, i just know that i dont want to be with one. nothing against libras.

hey i didnt mean to suggest that libras dont have drive and ambition.

I never did say Libras are easy. In fact they are so "heavy" that I myself prefer not to hang out w/them. All the women in my family are Libra! Grandma/aunts, etc. On a positive side, when we love someone we are extremely nurturing and faithful. We also give a lot of life and happiness to the otherwise lackluster Cancerian existence.....ha ha ha...!! They are soooo moody....Libra has to coddle them and tell them everything WILL be okay! But that's cool, cuz we like doing that!

oooo..ouch.. guys are dishing here, huh?
I thought that your description of libran love, lola was pretty
accurate. We are lovers, I guess. I find myself giving the shirt off my back lots of times, especially in times when I can. I like to feel like it gives me a sense of doing my part in the world, this way.
Libran women are pretty strong and probably are heavy.. sometimes I wish I could leave my troubles behind and fly away from my body sometimes too.. actually most times.. hmm.. that would be nice..

Good luck with your Cancerian.. I wrestle with a kookamunga Capricorn myself..hehehe.. if he saw this, he'd be making fun of me right now..🙂