Libra/Scorp Cusper female and Cancer male

Ok I have a question and I need some cancers to help me out. I have know a Cancer male going on 2 1/2 yrs now and we have a child together. When we first met I wasn't showing that much interest past being friends because I just got out of a very intense and emotionally unstable relationship with a Virgo and I really wasn't looking for someone else. Well he didn't feel the same way he was on me the first day we met at first I felt it was a lil clingy seeing as we just met and he was already trying to classify us as "together". Well after spending more time with him I started to feel the same and we moved so fast and I fell so hard. I think at first the feeling was the same but their was a misunderstanding of him not thinking I wasn't loyal because I was speaking to someone he saw as his enemy. That's when I really felt everything wasn't the same. We went from late night talks and morning breath kisses, basically staying together (all this happened in a matter of months) to being in the same bed not talking for days at a time. We used to argue a lot and anytime I felt like the love wasn't the same I would move back home. Not make the story longer I got pregnant and the first couple of months he was wonderful until I found internet conversations that was not approtiate for someone in a relationship with. A child in the way. And I felt he wasn't supportive as much as I thought he should have been so after the baby was born I left. Fast forward a yr its been 7 months since we have seen him and he decides to facebook me about our son( is he serious!!!) He acts like nothing has happened and he says everything is dead between us which hurts a bit because I still care about him. But I just want to understand how to deal with him. Because he likes playing mind games and I want to know what to look for and how to counterattack just to show him how it feels. I mean could I have really hurt him that much to where he gets so vindictive and cruel as he has been. I know this is a crazy post but really I just want to work everything out and save our family. Also is it even possible for us to get along based on our signs my bday is 10/21/1988.....his is 06/29/89

Crabs become adults in their late 20s. My friend had a baby with the same kind of guy. He won't grow up in 2 months, believe me.

KOL, she is a young mother dealing with an unevolved Cancer. She deserves empathy, not ridicule.

There's not much you can do with him, but if you're looking for ways to vindictively counterattack... I'd take this to the Scorpio forum.

I would seek professional help for yourself and not involve him in it. Put yourself first, get your shit together so you can be a good parent to that child. That is a HUGE responsibility. He will spin this to make you feel guilty for all the problems but DO NOT blame yourself. He is an immature cancer child that will manipulate you for his own purpose and cares nothing about the devasting impact it will have on you and that child. I assure you, it's all about him. Run away! I sense a codependent relationship here that will end with devastating consequences.

Make no mistake, he's been out chasing other women and god knows what else.

Thank u shellshocker while I don't really want to get revenge I just want to counteract the minds games he tries to throw out and I sense them but I feel I'm defenseless against them. For instance he will say something that he knows will piss me off but then when I attack back he acts like I never even said anything and is just so calm and collected and it has me steaming. .....at Kol the nerve I have seen PLENTY of. Your idiot comments infecting other forums but I choose to keep my mouth shut because it doesn't concern me so if u as a libra doesn't have any insight on the topic then do me a favor act like the air sign u are and disappear. Thank u very much

Posted by cosaxi
He will spin this to make you feel guilty for all the problems but DO NOT blame yourself. He is an immature cancer child that will manipulate you for his own purpose and cares nothing about the devasting impact it will have on you and that child. I assure you, it's all about him. Run away! I sense a codependent relationship here that will end with devastating consequences.

Make no mistake, he's been out chasing other women and god knows what else.

That is so true and that's exactly what I want to try to stop he will twist everything on me but instead of making me feel guilty he pisses me off. I am a great mother to my son and I put him first but when he popped up just out of nowhere he threw me off balance with his bs. And idk about the codependent part I really don't need anything from him but to be a father. But I keep hearing that won't happen for yrs. My own father is a cancer and he was never around. So I think I have a idea of what's to come with this jerkwad

What you said about your father not being around is key.

I hope you sort things out and wish you the very best.

Hahaha @ KOL aww uspet are we and if that whore of a mother of urs didn't keep her legs closed and spare the world of a waste of space with her retarded child then why should I?

Well first off King of Libra, you really get on my nerves 🙂

Second off, LibraSweetie you need to stop messing with this guy. Any man who doesn't step up and take responsibility for his child and only checks on them on FB is a POS. He doesn't deserve to be a part of that child's life and it will save yourself and your child a lot of heartache if you just let him go. No child deserves to grow up with no father, but it seems like it would be better than growing up with a crappy one, ya know what I mean? This man is obviously a child himself, don't try to work it out, move on to a man with some dignity.

Gosh, I just don't know what to say, you absolutely reek of classiness.

LOL!!! Says the man who has spongebob squarepants for his photo icon? 🙂

@ LunarLady I've tried to cut him off completly and it was going well but I hate to feel like I'm the reason why my son's father is gone completely but I think I'm going to let him go until I see that he is fit to be a father. He has asked to see him tomorrow and I said yea at first now I'm thinking of changing my mind and as far as the FB in his defense I did change my number. But he still has my mothers number to contact if he wanted so that cancels. Out each other...sigh I just don't know how to approach the sititutaion is a lose-lose game with him