loss of a Cancer male

Well, I've been lurking around the forums for a while now and NOW is the perfect time to post
It all happened SO fast, about a month actually. I met a Cancer from another country in a city I planned to move to. He was the sweetest...but something was missing, and we would frustrate each other. Mostly me with him. I kind of had an instinct that we were not meant to be as we were very different, and I felt like he was too clingy...and now he's gone!! 😢

You see, I came back home and he went back to his home, but we stayed in contact. I wasn't as into the contacting as he was, maybe because I knew things would end one day and I was trying to save myself the heart ache. I've read that Cancer's FEEL...and they kind of go with the flow, which now makes sense. I'm a Scorpio, and I FEEL too..but why am I always looking at what will happen in the future, and why something wont work?..being practical I guess. To make the story short, last week I cut off contact with him because I had been waiting to speak to him that weekend and he was no where to be found, and he was on Fbook and didn't send me a message or anything. I know this is petty, but it was kind of my last straw, and I wanted to nip this in the bud.

Well now I have moved to the city where we met, and I am feeling VERY nostalgic. I finally broke down and contacted him. Told him I miss him, and that I feel a void. A day without an answer. Then I re-requested to be his friend on Fbook. He then responds to my message that he met another girl and is happy with her, and that he had to make a decision. He said it was up to me if I want to be friends. HELL NO. I cannot see his pictures, posts, or possibly pictures of the new girl. As I write this I see how dumb I sound. One MONTH? and I'm feeling like this? And I know it probably wouldn't work out? Maybe now that he's gone, I see all the good..instead for the bad.

I am sooooo sad..I've stayed in and cried all day. I don't ever think I've felt this way over a guy. Yeah, I've had some mourning over guys, but he is different. Its hard to hate him because he really was nothing but sweet. Please give me some tips on how to get over a Cancer, or tell me why I should hate him (lol). I wish I could turn back time to when we met, and I would have never contacted him to meet up. But hey, thats life, right? 😢

You sound like you have some stuff internally that you have to work on.

The thing is we feel and we pick up on emotions easily so it sounds like he new that you had second thoughts, you were in a different city, he detached and moved on.

I mean you went into the whole thing knowing it wasn't going to work but yet had an emotional reaction when he moved on. He could probably tell you were about games but Cancers aren't cheaters and don't stray easily.

The thing with Cancers is when we meet some1 we like and communicate with you is because we are just that into you but if we feel rejected by trying to open ourselves up, we will retreat. We hate rejection.

You just need to do some souls searching and make yourself happy first because there is more going on somewhere with you internally.

Thanks, and I do agree with you. You saying all that tells me exactly like it is, thanks for being real. I guess I am to blame in that I did not give him the 100% feedback he needed, but I was focused on moving to a new city and starting a new life...and well, he just appeared in the mix and maybe confused me a bit. I couldn't promise him that I would visit anytime soon because I am just starting a new job and will not be able to take anytime off for a while. I did express to him that it is a confusing and new time for me, and he probably caught that vibe and decided to move on. It's just tough I guess knowing that it all actually happened, and knowing that he is gone. As a Scorpio, I never stay friends with guys I have been romantically involved with, it's to difficult. It seems like a different story with Cancers.