Miss Goodie 2 Shoe Cancer

I don't know if most of you would consider this an issue; I am a 23 yr. old cancer, and yes when I first meet someone I may appear to be really shy and quiet but I am the total opposite. It seems to me that everyone who knows me thinks that I am a goodie 2 shoes, to a certain extent that's good; I must say that I am a classy woman, I don't fight because most people love me (I am a loving cancer🙂, those who do not like me I never know so... The problem that I have with everyone believing I am a goodie 2 shoes is that my boyfriend (a cancer as well) for example feels that he cannot take me to certain places because in his opinion these type of places are not for me. Now I go out, however the places I go I'd rather be around a mixture of people because not only do you have a good time but you run into some really great people. You never have to worry about any drama or fights. It bothers me because there are things that my boyfriend does not want to do with me because of his perception. I do not look at myself the way everyone else does, I am actually an all around girl where I can fit into any setting and I know how to have a good time. Now you cancers know, we're not innocent (lol) we have a side to us that we don't allow others to see right? The problem here is that I am in a relationship where there are a great deal of limitations because of how my boyfriend perceives me to be, and it's not fair. I just wish he would stop making assumptions, judging me and just give me a chance to show him that no matter what we can have a good time together. Now I'm working on being a bartender where most say that I don't look like the type to bartend, I look like an office woman. What can I do because even though most would think it's nothing, I should just take it as a compliment, it's affecting my relationship. My boyfriend made a comment today that I am more like a house girl friend, what the hell is that? So that explains why every time he goes out he leaves me at his place waiting for him while he's out having a good time. Not fair; I would like us to be able to do any and everything together, but there are so many limitations; He even tells me he's with me because I am sweetheart (that's cute) but that seems to be it. I hope that I am not confusing you all with this but to those of you who can understand, please help your fellow cancer out.

I actually looked this up on the net, and this what came up;
goodie-two-shoes- Someone who always does what's right and not what they're supposed to do.

People at school when I was a kid always thought I was super well behaved and would never do anything wrong because it was "wrong" but really I just never got caught.

I think you need to show him that your not always well behaved.Not in a huge big way just little ways so its not like a whole personality change.

That's the same exact thing with me, I always do things just never get caught. I can tell a lie and no one will ever figure out that I was lying. I had things so mapped out that no one would figure me out. But it's like no matter what I say or do he still looks at me as ms goodie 2 shoes, and it's like no matter what he's not changing his perception.

Get rid of that Cancer and get with a Scorpio LOL! No...just kidding!!! I actually have the same problem. I come off as a goody-two shoes too LOL! I have that good girl/bad girl thing going on. Alot of guys I know tell me that I am marriage/mother material and not the type of girl they would bang. I guess I should take that as a compliment LOL! I know how I am myself and I know i'm not as innocent as I come across. As cancerkitten said I've done some bad things I just never got caught 😉 Guys who actually take the time and effort to really get to know me, are the lucky ones!

I think what you need to do is just go on and be yourself. Don't worry about what other peoples perceptions are of you. Alot of it has to do with age. You're still young and trying to find your own identity. I think you should sit down with your boyfriend and let him know how you are feeling. I don't think it's fair for him to leave you behind because he thinks you should't be someplace because you're a 'good girl'. To me that's chauvinistic and repressive behavior. Let him know that you're a strong and independant woman and can handle yourself.

Sometimes, us cancers get caught up in the whole rescue me syndrome and guys see us as these little girls who need to be coddled and protected, what they don't realize is that we can take care of ourselves, them, AND EVERYONE ELSE if we had to.

Baby girl all you gotta do is surprise him with a freaky, slutty sexual escapade and he'll drop the miss goody two shoes bit...he's a CANCER....he'll LOVE it!

Your BF is cute...house girl friend huh? What the hell is that? Because you like staying home? Maybe he feels as though since that is what you may like to do he doesn't want to interrupt your element. Men go-figure.

Just be yourself and tell him "Listen-I want to go out with you sometime", stop leaving me the hell home. Follow it up with a kiss and hug 🙂 he should be alright after that.

BTW nothing wrong with being a goodie-two shoes. Depends on how people are using it whether to compliment you or insult you.