Moloko... help me out please...

Moloko... help me out please...

I don't know what to do...
My Cancer friend that i've been talking about, I'm just waiting for him to ask me out... but he's just not doing it.
He keeps coming around, any excuse to swing by my desk and he's VERY friendly, EXTREMELY NICE!! and lately i've even noticed that he's a little protective of me, he's said to a guy the other day "ok now be nice to her!" or he's said to me "are you ok with that? is he being mean, rude to you? I'll fix him up!" he's being VERY sweet, VERY charming, he's got that look "look of loooove!" I told him on Monday "man you look hot in black" and he's been wearing black ALL week!!
I'm VERY friendly too and I bat those eyelashes at him! OTHERS can obviously see that SOMETHING's happening between us! and well I'M WAITING!!! and it seems now that - I think - he's waiting for me... I don't know what to do! it's getting uncomfortable! in my head i figure "it's up to him!" but i don't know, don't know what he's waiting for!? some kind of smoke signal?
But doesn't it sound like "he likes me" to you?
What do you think?

Hi Cafrella

Your cancer friend is acting very much the same that i tend to, i can be absolutely crazy about someone and on the verge of asking them out when i see them but always holding back, he will be absolutely itching to ask you but his natural sideways approach is stopping him, yeah the protection thing is typical too, its like having a wee body guard or living guardian angel 🙂
Even though hes not your partner yet he will think of you like that in many ways and will protect you against anyone who dares to step on your toes.
The fact that you have complimented him on looking hot in black will have really gave him a boost and hes clearly picked up on it very much by making sure that he stays looking hot for you for the rest of the week.
I would say that your right and that he is waiting for you, its not that hes leaving you to do the hard work and he will be a very strong person, its just his cancer caution, your making all the right moves with him, he will be absolutely buzzing inside, he definately likes you, if you can bring yourself to make a bold movement and maybe start and push a conversation where he can meet you half way through it if you know what i mean, that way you both can hold onto some of that feeling that niether of you had to do all the hard work, believe me, once hes totally sure that you really want to go out together he will be such a great partner and friend, i would bet money on the fact that hes very interested, enough that you have nothing to worry about, please go ahead and do it, in your own comfortable way, maybe try and find a moment with not too many others close by, he just needs that extra nod from you that says your into him totally. please do it, you will be so happy, im happy for you already, i wont wish you luck, its already on its way. go ahead make his day and yours, you will enjoy christmas so much more too. 😉

WOW!
Thanks for your good wishes!
Then maybe i will, even though i was hoping he would...
It's funny but it's been like this all week...or for a while... it's like we're BOTH waiting on each other... but either one of us is making the move... it gets frustrating after a while... we sort of got annoyed at each other at one point... but if you think this is IT... then maybe i will try to turn the sunject to that... and see what he says....
GEE WIZ!

I just now what ive been like in the past and how i can still be, and its fair to say that ive let a few gems slip through my fingers, purely because of my cautions and worry, even when deep down im totally feeling positive feelings from them, im just a scaredy cat sometimes 😉
I know what you mean, it would be nice if he steps forward first, believe me, once you have caught him he will begin to open up more to you, you will know when your doing things right by his reactions, your onto a good one there, i love that feeling that your experiencing right now, the magic of it all, the electricity when your around each other, even that frustrated feeling of both of you just wanting to say it out loud to each other. 🙂
Heres a wee incentive for you, i remind myself of this often when im a little scared of doing something, its helped me get on and push myself.

I just remind myself that the life im living now is not a rehearsal for the real thing, that this is the real thing, right here and right now, sometimes when you think like that and come across someone or something that you really want its just a case of going for it, dont let another girl grab him first, make him yours. 😉

now=know, i forget to check for spellings mistakes before i post 🙂

yeah the protection thing is typical too, its like having a wee body guard or living guardian angel

LOL


If I may put my 2 cents in...I think he likes you too!

Well thank you both!
You're giving me confidence! Even though I KNOW he likes me... you know there's always a little doubt in my mind... "what if... he's just being nice?" but no deep down i KNOW he's as crazy about me as I am about him... I'll try to make this move foward in a way that we both feel like we didn't have to do the hard work! it should be so AMAZING after that move is made... I feel it already!
Thank you for your support MOloko & Cancerlady!

I will keep you posted on what happens!

You know....
It's easier said than done...
I don't know if I could pull this off...
I almost feel like a Cancer all of a sudden!
Great fears... and even though i know he's interested, I am so scared... can't seem to act.. react... i don't know i feel frozen!

Hi cafrella

I know how you feel, your totally right that its much easier said than done, ive literally rehearsed a scenario in my head hundreds of times, and its nice having it happen in an ideal way in your head, but admittedly its more scary when you attempt to actually do it, i know that it will be making you feel increasingly frustrated, im not going to say just jump in there and do it as i know how hard that i find it myself, what makes me worry when its me is the thought of not getting the ideal answer, not because i cant handle a no but rather the awkward situation that you find yourself in if it goes not as hoped for.
It really does sound good for you and he sounds very keen on you.
When 2 people like each other that much, thier both going through the same frustration, both are bursting to express themselves but hold back, its like winning the lottery and not telling a soul, naturally we just want to let it all out, there is a wonderful Libra female who i would love to tell whats on my mind but just cant quite do it, im not short of words, expression or sincerity, i just find it terribly difficult to let my guard down incase im ridiculed and make a fool of myself, or at least thats what i let go through my head.

It really does sound good for you and he sounds very keen on you.
When 2 people like each other that much, thier both going through the same frustration, both are bursting to express themselves but hold back

It does truly feel that way, I know he's very keen on me...
You know what truly scares me? And i'm really praying that it's nothing like that, knowing that he's a Cancer and cancers dont USUALLY do things like that BUT what i'm afraid of... is that this would be a onenight stand type of thing that he'd be interested in...THAT would not at all be what I'm looking for, and that's what I'm afraid to find out, my heart will be broken if it's what it boils down to.

There hasn't been any sexual comments, inuendos between us, it's always been very nice, caring, sweet, tender conversations between us, sure he's told me a few, 2 or 3 dirty jokes which i laughed and blushed at, I have told him that he had a mighty fine looking butt!!... but that's it, apart from that it has never been sexually hinted conversation between us, so I don't know...
Cancers are more love, nurturing, heart involved oriented as oposed to sexually oriented, and don't usually go to sex without some emotional involvement... but still

I suppose that what he has in mind would be a DINNER date, I mean yes I may be oldfashioned a bit! But I don't JUST sleep with someone on a first date! IF it's good, and it feels right there will be some kissing, definitely!! but NO i don't just jump into bed like that.

Anyhow... that's the only thing that holds me back...

What do you think about this? what's your opinion? What are the chances of something like this happening?

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Hi Cafrella

Well i definately think along the same lines as yourself regarding emotional attachment and just the thought of one night stands turns me off, ive gladly never done that, its not to say that all cancers will think like myself though and i know cancers that would have one night stands of course, it does sound like he is looking for romance and not something quick, just for kicks, i really hope that his intentions are more long term as i realise thats what your looking for, neither of us know for sure, you could investigate him a little maybe, see what info you can get on him or from him that might give you a clearer picture of the type of person he is, there are some cancers out there, like many other signs also who will turn on the charm to get what they want and pose as a real good person then change after. fingers crossed that hes a good guy though and has full intention of doing things properly.

Hello!
I've responded on the other one "oh no,what's wrong now" check it out.

Today i'm a little sad cause yesterday was his last day and we more or less fought, i did, he was trying to be nice but i was too annoyed with the whole situation. when i left at 5pm he was on the phone and with someone so i JUST LEFT no goodbye, no have good vacation, no nothing... i feel terrible about it all, but I'll see him back in January the 3rd and that's it... i NEED a vacation too badly, I'm tired, fed up and i or we perhaps need a break from each other...
I do feel bad for not saying goodbye, wishing him a good vacation...
but... it's toolate now... unless i call him, but i don't want to bother him or catch him in the middle of something important...