My Cancer man

im sure most of you read my first post, thanks again for all the great advice, and all the words they were appreciated.

i have known my Cancer man for 3 months, I do recognize a lot of his moods as they are very much like my own.

The only difference is that I can communicate through my sensitivities, about them. I appreciate and respect he cannot, however yesterday he did speak his mind very clearly. His words matched my thoughts exactly so I sent him a very brief, yes I agree with you 100% sweetie adding I hope he has a great day.

When he started pulling away I did recognize it right away and assured him I respected his need for space, but he constantly said that he appreciated my words and enjoyed reading my emails.

Yesterday we agreed that it was best if we start at the beginning as friends, going slow.before it was just a roller coaster ride or better yet an emotion filled boomerang being rebounded constantly as we were both pushing then pulling.

I really admire, respect, desire, adore this man, I know he feels the same way.

My email was very simple and small yesterday, I did not email him today, usually I would say so etching sweet like good morning cupcake I hope the day is as delicious as you. Well I didn't today and I got a one word email...Hello—?

I want to respect his need for space, I don't want to overwhelm him with words, it seems to me that he wants something though?
He made it clear to me that he was not at a point in his life where he was ready for a relationship ( good because I agree) and that he felt he was to selfish with his own time ( again ditto there)
But Then he added will do coffee in the future..so I took that as please stop emailing me for a while...was I wrong?
Should I still send my morning greeting and nothing else?
I did just send a wee joke as I know he's been off for a few days I will share it because it made me smile

A wise man never plays leap frog with a unicorn.

Anyway so do I send him my good morning? It seems he was looking for that today?
Weird I'm confused lol but I am female, I do appreciate his one liners it does make my day brighter.

Lol would love to trust myself. No not a step by step guide, just a push in the right direction!

If I trusted myself I would be retreating into my own shell. His hello pulled me out, I'm confused!

lessa, sorry to tell you this but:

i think his stepping back, his "i'm not ready for a relationship" were just to settle boundaries with you and his way to tell you not to hope much. coffee? yes. sex? yes. but a relationship...? no. he won't give you that.

either you like it or not...you are vulnerable at this point.

of course, what you take or not, what you need or not is your decision...but i don't think this will lead to what you hope for. it could last for years with little to no chance to move forward...

now...the question is: do you want to waste all that time? if so...yes, write him good morning msgs, it will lead to some sort of habit, but it takes more than a habit to get what you need...

anyway, in the end, it is all about what YOU want and what YOU are willing to give...so do it your way...not my way or anybody's way...we are just reasoning here while you feel/live it...

good luck