My cancer man says he ADMIRES ME

What does that mean—? LOL!!! We had our FIRST argument in the 2 yrs. that we've been known each other. We are just friends, but we have a very strong chemistry...but neither of us will make the move, if ya know what I mean. He says that he "feels" the argument was senseless....and that he ADMIRES ME...

Leoluv,

Wow! I think that he truly does admire you, but he is probably hesitant about making the first move. Has he given you any other compliments? I am interested in your story.

My story is kinda long...but I'll do my best to shorten it. We live in different states...and we see each other 3-4 times a year. We work together, so most of our work is done by email or phone. But when we see each other it's always a long hug and a kiss (not sexual, just sensual)when it's time to depart. He has touched my hair and complimented my curves...given me a lil' poke in the side kida thing. I love him ta def and he knows it...'cause I've told him...he has recorded songs and sent them to me...he sings...he says he "feeds off of me" sometimes...and that i'm special to him...what is that all about—?? I looooooooooooove him! LOL!!!!

Oh....so when we had the argument...I told him about a few things that he had done concerning the business and that I did not like it..and that I didn't tolerate selfishness well and that if he didn't stop it...I would quit the project (business). and that I thought he was being selfish...he was very apologetic and basically told me that he would really miss me and have a nice life...Then he went on to say...that he thought I was under alot of stress (which I am) and that if I wanted to take it out on him that it was okay....again, told me how much he would miss me and that I would be there if he needed me...he was so sweet, but somtimes he can be so brash, selfish acting and kinda self centered. Any help or comments please....I haven't heard from him in a week....I think he's sulking.

Oh...and one other VERY important thing he said was that he thought we were buliding a friendship and that we have to get to know each other...not in my time, but in time....He's really winning my heart over....I hope I haven't lost him.....I'm still on the project...

Okay...so is anyone gonna help me out here—? I'm worried....Is he gonna come back or what— Does he like me—? What does all of this mean—? Help—? Look into your crystal balls and help me out! I'm suffering here......By the way....I'm a leo lady. Thanks guys!

Leoluv,

Yes, this is a long story, and very interesting! I get the sense that your Cancer guy is very fond of you as a good friend. Now, being great friends to each other is normally the start of deeper bonds. Yes, these sort of men like to take things "molasses" slow. It is as if time doesn't fly for them. I do feel your frustration and understand what you are going through. He will come back, however, in his own sweet "time." I do feel that you should be friends, but let it progress with him feeling comfortable with you. These guys are really intuitive. They like things to flow, and not be rushed. If you have the tolerance and patience, then you do stand a really good chance with him. Be yourself and don't expect too much too soon. Cancers are sentimental and they do go back to the ones they care about. Keep me posted. I wish you much happiness and luck!

Talk about tolerance and patient.It took me one and a half year to be where we are at right now. I've never dated a guy like him. He does taking his own "time", really. Sometimes I get frustrated and wonder when and where this is leading to...espcially whenI'm dealing with a long distance one too and worst of all now that's he's deployed for a year...It's hard to fight all these here by myself. Especially hard that sometimes I have to swollow all the pains and sorrows...I can't share the negative stuffs with him cause he cannot have any distractions for the kinda job he's doing. It's hard to date a cancer guy but the overcome is really great of cause. Good luck to all the girls out there dating a cancer guy. They are one of a kind 😉 I'm a taurus by the way

I am really relating to the things being said on this message board. these types of guys are really confusing. you get little glimpses of how they feel then they close up and treat you like more of an aquaintance the next day, Forgetting that the day or two before you were up on cloud nine in an all evening sex-capade. it is like a roller coaster but as i have been told, you must remember all those little glimpses that they show you that mean something and forget about the days that they act distant. i am told that is just normal behavior and not to take it personally.

This cancer guy finally asked my libra friend out... after a year and a half. Today she was like "I just have one question... why did it take him so long?" lol I predicted everything that has gone on between the two btw, man, I just luv being right muahahahahah 🙂

"I am really relating to the things being said on this message board. these types of guys are really confusing. you get little glimpses of how they feel then they close up and treat you like more of an aquaintance the next day, Forgetting that the day or two before you were up on cloud nine in an all evening sex-capade. it is like a roller coaster but as i have been told, you must remember all those little glimpses that they show you that mean something and forget about the days that they act distant. i am told that is just normal behavior and not to take it personally."

you know, i notice myself doing this all the time. yes, DON'T take it personally. i don't know why it happens, it just does. it's our moodiness, i'm sure. i try SO HARD to not be like that but i can't help it sometimes; we just feel down and kind of put a damper on things. alcohol helps us loosen this up though.