negative emotions

Cancers when you spill your negative emotions, do you find it hard to clean it up afterwards? If so how long does it take to get the back on order or in control?

This is certainly a good thread.

One of the problems (and there are thankfully only a few) I have with Cancers is how mean and hurtful they can be when they are upset at someone.

Now granted I am no Saint when it comes to my occasional outburst and temper, but I do apologize for it and also tend to prove that I am sorry by actually doing something to prove it.

That said, I am often blown away by how some Cancers (note I did not say ALL) refuse to ever apologize or attempt to make things right after doing and saying some really, really destructive things to other people.

It's one thing to slam someone when they deserve it, but it's another to get carried away and not apologize for it.

Posted by CluelessCancer
I find that others can't handle it and I expect them too because the sun is just around the corner.

Everyone takes your emotions different, so can you take the same negative emotions that you give if the roles where reversed CC?

Posted by ScorpioFish
This is certainly a good thread.

One of the problems (and there are thankfully only a few) I have with Cancers is how mean and hurtful they can be when they are upset at someone.

Now granted I am no Saint when it comes to my occasional outburst and temper, but I do apologize for it and also tend to prove that I am sorry by actually doing something to prove it.

That said, I am often blown away by how some Cancers (note I did not say ALL) refuse to ever apologize or attempt to make things right after doing and saying some really, really destructive things to other people.

It's one thing to slam someone when they deserve it, but it's another to get carried away and not apologize for it.

You admit your wrongs, which some think they're justified in doing so. You make for it in action instead of words. So do you think most cancers are wordsmiths or action people scorpiofish?

Posted by sunnyvirgo83
My dad is a cancer and he gets over it pretty quickly. My mom is an aquarius and they fight like cats and dogs....but he normally apologies and knows he's being a jerk...but mostly he's a good husbad, father, and pop-pop.....

BTW VC! Your venus is in Cancer isn't it?? 😉 You tell us!

S3 my Venus is in virgo, I dealt with that with a cancer they prove a point, but they try to be caring but can be too blunt in their words.

Posted by ScorpioFish

Now granted I am no Saint when it comes to my occasional outburst and temper, but I do apologize for it and also tend to prove that I am sorry by actually doing something to prove it.

That said, I am often blown away by how some Cancers (note I did not say ALL) refuse to ever apologize or attempt to make things right after doing and saying some really, really destructive things to other people.

It's one thing to slam someone when they deserve it, but it's another to get carried away and not apologize for it.

you're crazy, Scubs...

you didn't want an insincere apology, did you?

a subtle remark can carry just as much weight as a blunt one... if the intent is the same

I apologize for hurting your feelings with my blunt words

sincerely

Posted by BlackIndian22
Basically when we are sad or angry, it's best not to yell at us lol. Don't try to make us feel worser than we already do about a situation. If i make a mistake, or get really angry, i definitely apologise for my behavior. I always own up to my mistakes. I still will feel bad if i made someone i loved upset. I do my best to make things up. Great question @VirgoChyld

+1
Thanks blackindian22

Posted by shellshocker

Posted by ScorpioFish

Now granted I am no Saint when it comes to my occasional outburst and temper, but I do apologize for it and also tend to prove that I am sorry by actually doing something to prove it.

That said, I am often blown away by how some Cancers (note I did not say ALL) refuse to ever apologize or attempt to make things right after doing and saying some really, really destructive things to other people.

It's one thing to slam someone when they deserve it, but it's another to get carried away and not apologize for it.

you're crazy, Scubs...

you didn't want an insincere apology, did you?

a subtle remark can carry just as much weight as a blunt one... if the intent is the same

I apologize for hurting your feelings with my blunt words

sincerely

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Are you just messing with me or are you really serious?

I'm serious

Posted by shellshocker
I'm serious

Well, there is nothing to be sorry for.

I know you didn't mean to talk to me like that, so don't worry about it.

🙂

Posted by CluelessCancer

Posted by VirgoChyld

Posted by CluelessCancer
I find that others can't handle it and I expect them too because the sun is just around the corner.

Everyone takes your emotions different, so can you take the same negative emotions that you give if the roles where reversed CC?

Yes. as long as it's honest!

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You mean if I say it respectfully,CC.

Posted by CluelessCancer
I get angry quickly, get over it, and than i'm done with it, whatever happens during that time tho, watch out, and don't it personally, unless you should.

+10000
I dealt with what your saying, I agree whole heartily

So after all this, the negative emotions all out in the open, is this where you retreat in to your self aka "your shell" and go through and sort your feelings? Or do some of you have a different approach?

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Posted by CluelessCancer
I find that others can't handle it and I expect them too because the sun is just around the corner.

Everyone takes your emotions different, so can you take the same negative emotions that you give if the roles where reversed CC?

Yes. as long as it's honest!

You mean if I say it respectfully,CC.

well i can't ask for someone i can't provide. i don't know about other cancers, but i got 7 fire signs, i can say some ugly dirty things and if you say them back to me, i'd probably get turned on.

lol i'm just saying...
As long as we both don't take it internally and leave it at that...than its all good..

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Never thought of it that way, lol. I get that you can get verbally nasty just by your syntax on dxp CC. I have an idea what type of person you are just by the way you talk.

Posted by BlackIndian22
@VirgoChyld After the negative emotions are out, i usually try to fixed the problem. But someone is being super harsh, not willing to compromise, then imma just leave their ass be lol. I have Water dominant in my chart, like 50% . The rest is earth and that aries mars. If your being harsh & cussing me for no reason, those crab claws will cut your ass lol. I'm sweet, but not stupid or "weak".

I hear you loud and clear, just trying to get an idea if you react the same way, which obviously you guys don't. Cut with the claws, classic line by the way lol

As a Cancer, and I'm speaking from my own experience....I realize others handle things differently, I can say that it really depends on the situation. I have known for a long time that the meanest thing one can do to a person, verbally, is to take every horrible truth about them and force them to hear about it, and I have used that particular weapon very effectively and cruelly, at times. That's when I'm in a cold rage and am being calculating and truly don't care what kind of damage I do and with no intent to fix it afterwards. That usually happens on the very rare occasions when someone I truly cared about ended up betraying me.

The other angry outburst type is usually fiery hot and full of tons of hurt, anger, frustration, and only my closest and dearest ever get to witness it as its never directed at them, but is me verbally venting about whoever put me in that place to begin with. When I hit that point of anger it's usually extremely dark. It's the "if thoughts could kill" place where the offending party just underwent some of the most horrific tortures and death or instant vaporization in my mind while whoever it is that gets to let me vent hears a portion of it all.

IF and WHEN I have an outburst where I've said some mean things to someone I care about and I know they've been wronged by my words and actions then they will get the most sincere apology and probably an emotional outpouring to go with it.

Ultimately I hate bullies and anything unfair or unjust, so when I DO have a fit of pique and someone is the target there's usually a pretty good and righteous reason why they got pinched/clobbered.

Posted by MoonArtist
As a Cancer, and I'm speaking from my own experience....I realize others handle things differently, I can say that it really depends on the situation. I have known for a long time that the meanest thing one can do to a person, verbally, is to take every horrible truth about them and force them to hear about it, and I have used that particular weapon very effectively and cruelly, at times. That's when I'm in a cold rage and am being calculating and truly don't care what kind of damage I do and with no intent to fix it afterwards. That usually happens on the very rare occasions when someone I truly cared about ended up betraying me.

The other angry outburst type is usually fiery hot and full of tons of hurt, anger, frustration, and only my closest and dearest ever get to witness it as its never directed at them, but is me verbally venting about whoever put me in that place to begin with. When I hit that point of anger it's usually extremely dark. It's the "if thoughts could kill" place where the offending party just underwent some of the most horrific tortures and death or instant vaporization in my mind while whoever it is that gets to let me vent hears a portion of it all.

IF and WHEN I have an outburst where I've said some mean things to someone I care about and I know they've been wronged by my words and actions then they will get the most sincere apology and probably an emotional outpouring to go with it.

Ultimately I hate bullies and anything unfair or unjust, so when I DO have a fit of pique and someone is the target there's usually a pretty good and righteous reason why they got pinched/clobbered.

Oh you have a nasty streak in you, cold calculating and malicious. Your very dangerous.cant take you lightly

Posted by BlackIndian22
lol yeah, i hardly use the cut with the claws line, but it's useful sometimes. But yeah, some Cancers react to things differently than others. I think it's what makes us unique. Plus there's nothing wrong with you trying to understand us. At least you mature about it. I'm the watery Cancer type i guess.

I am trying to learn as much as I can. I am trying to get a read on the female side just to have an idea of what goes inside your women's head at times.

Well, it's partly that, but it's also misunderstood. What it comes down to is how badly have I been hurt or betrayed? The deeper the betrayal, the heavier/darker the anger and resentment and hurt. Cancers are steeped in emotion. I'm a Cancer sun with a Cancer moon and a Cancer rising. I do NOT have an off switch or a dimmer switch for emotions. Whether I'm happy, sad, mad, hurt, whatever, it's full bore all the time. Because of it I'm also intuitive on an almost scary level, especially with what others are feeling. It makes most people open up to me but loyalty is second nature to me. And because I'm fiercely loyal I expect others to be, too.

Clueless, I think you're right! Don't worry, though, some signs will never understand us no matter what we say. All they translate it to is "cray cray!"